My uro said I can't get an implant until my fiance comes into the office.. is this right??

[Stevie Reno]

I’ll assume you’ve already discussed it with her. If not, you should since you are about to become partners in life and keeping secrets isn’t the best way to start IMO.

But the doctor can’t really require that you tell her and definitely can’t make her sit in on YOUR medical discussion. If he insists I’d definitely find another doctor.

Sometimes we have doctors that seem ok until some specific issue or event arises. If we’ve used them for a while we tend to want to override our feelings that they aren’t right. I used a Dr when I was in my fourties and liked him ok - he didn’t like to prescribe drugs unless it was really necessary and that aligned with my philosophy. When I got into my early fifties I started seeing a urologist and he asked to get copies of my lab work…he was stunned that my dr didn’t have a psa done so he one run. I asked my doctor about it and he went into this long rant about useless testing, wasting money, etc…it was an eye opener for me because my doctor wasn’t just against prescription medicines - he was against just about everything. I found a new doctor. But I found it interesting that the quack Dr was in the Association of American Physicians and Surgeons (AAPS) - that’s a good clue you’re going to a quack.

[UpNorth]

Sometimes we have doctors that seem ok until some specific issue or event arises. If we’ve used them for a while we tend to want to override our feelings that they aren’t right.

I figure if we are not firing doctors we are not maintaining our health.
When I broke my back, doc refused to give me FMLA. New doc.
Went through two uros before my implant besides three general practitioners. Next new uro is Cleveland clinic.

[macoza]

Macoza, if your fiancée has had sex with you previously, it is virtually impossible that she won’t notice afterwards that something has changed dramatically. That is different than the idea that women who have sex with a man for the first time after implantation will largely just assume he is just super hard all the time. That may be the source of your confusion.

My advice is that you discuss implantation with your fiancée and help her get comfortable with the issue, including discussion with the doc.

Hi Leto,

Appreciate the response. I have had sex with my fiancee before. But we're in a long distance relationship and we see each other every 3 - 5 months. Btw I use injections now when I have sex with her.

1. Under that circumstance will she still notice something when we meet again in 4 months?

2. Assuming she notices something, what will she notice after sex with an implant? Mind you, I've been using trimix and my erections are stiff.

3. Do you have an implant?

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[LetoMan]

1. Under that circumstance will she still notice something when we meet again in 4 months?

2. Assuming she notices something, what will she notice after sex with an implant? Mind you, I've been using trimix and my erections are stiff.

3. Do you have an implant?

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1. Very possibly

2. Your dick may be a different shape, size, feel different, have a pump, be even harder than Trimix, lots of other changes.

3. Yes, as my signature implies.

Look, you are gonna do what you are gonna do.
But you are not going to be able to hide an implant from your wife forever. If you do, that says something entirely different about what kind of marriage you think you might have.

Anyway… the issue here does not appear to be that you have a crazy doctor. The issue appears to be that you are not planning to tell your fiancée that you are getting implanted, and your doctor has concerns about that approach. Which is very reasonable!

[macoza]

1. Under that circumstance will she still notice something when we meet again in 4 months?

2. Assuming she notices something, what will she notice after sex with an implant? Mind you, I've been using trimix and my erections are stiff.

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1. Very possibly

2. Your dick may be a different shape, size, feel different, have a pump, be even harder than Trimix, lots of other changes.

But you are not going to be able to hide an implant from your wife forever..!

Hi Leto,

Yeah I hear you... I greatly appreciate your sound advice! I had always thought a woman you're dating wouldnt know you had "work" done. This is my 1st time hearing this. 3 more questions please...

1. Is there any difference between an implant and injections in terms of feeling sexual pleasure for yourself? Do you feel less pleasure with an implant compared to injections?

2. Did you get an implant as a last resort or cuz injections were just too much for you?

3. Will an implant lessen libido in any way?

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[frank66665]

Maconza I fully agree with what LetoMan said, he will notice very well that you have an extra very hard testicle, plus he will notice that you have thick cables/wires that pass through your penis up to the tank, do not change doctors under any circumstances, he is one of the few conscientious, other doctors to make money do not care about you and your girlfriend, trust me, then do what you want

[LetoMan]

1. Is there any difference between an implant and injections in terms of feeling sexual pleasure for yourself? Do you feel less pleasure with an implant compared to injections?

2. Did you get an implant as a last resort or cuz injections were just too much for you?

3. Will an implant lessen libido in any way?

1. I skipped injections, as implied by my signature. I feel significantly more pleasure having sex with an implant than I did with pills, mostly because I am not worried about my erection and can focus on the sex.

2. Like I said, no injections. They were too much for me even having never tried them! But I don’t have anything against injections, it’s just that they weren’t going to solve my problem, which was that I wanted a worry-free erection.

3. For me it’s the opposite, ever since being implanted over a year ago I think about sex fairly constantly, despite having a lot more of it than I ever did before.

[ready2go]

1. Under that circumstance will she still notice something when we meet again in 4 months?

2. Assuming she notices something, what will she notice after sex with an implant? Mind you, I've been using trimix and my erections are stiff.

3. Do you have an implant?

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1. Very possibly

2. Your dick may be a different shape, size, feel different, have a pump, be even harder than Trimix, lots of other changes.

3. Yes, as my signature implies.

Look, you are gonna do what you are gonna do.
But you are not going to be able to hide an implant from your wife forever. If you do, that says something entirely different about what kind of marriage you think you might have.

Anyway… the issue here does not appear to be that you have a crazy doctor. The issue appears to be that you are not planning to tell your fiancée that you are getting implanted, and your doctor has concerns about that approach. Which is very reasonable!

not telling his partner he has an implant is an issue for you ? hahaaaa

[LetoMan]

not telling his partner he has an implant is an issue for you ? hahaaaa

Sheesh, guys seriously want to misread this. The OP is framing his real question - will my fiancée figure out I have an implant if we already have had sex - as a question about his doctor’s ability to ask him to discuss it with her.

I absolutely think it is best that one at least mention to one’s EXISTING SEXUAL PARTNER AND FIANCÉ that you are getting an implant before you do so, so that she is not completely taken by surprise and potentially something happens to the relationship. Laugh all you want, but i did manage to get and stay married to a woman for almost 20 years, and I stand by that 100%.

If you were engaged to be married, and your fiance suddenly got a boob job without talking to you about it, wouldn’t that at least be weird? Even if you liked it, wouldn’t it at least be a little strange that she didn’t bother to mention it to you, just came home one day with rock hard tits?

[ready2go]

not telling his partner he has an implant is an issue for you ? hahaaaa

Sheesh, guys seriously want to misread this. The OP is framing his real question - will my fiancée figure out I have an implant if we already have had sex - as a question about his doctor’s ability to ask him to discuss it with her.

I absolutely think it is best that one at least mention to one’s EXISTING SEXUAL PARTNER AND FIANCÉ that you are getting an implant before you do so, so that she is not completely taken by surprise and potentially something happens to the relationship. Laugh all you want, but i did manage to get and stay married to a woman for almost 20 years, and I stand by that 100%.

If you were engaged to be married, and your fiance suddenly got a boob job without talking to you about it, wouldn’t that at least be weird? Even if you liked it, wouldn’t it at least be a little strange that she didn’t bother to mention it to you, just came home one day with rock hard tits?

well i got you beat by 12 years on the marriage . 32 years married . And i have not told my wife about my implant and never will .
Or any other chick. Everyone has an opinion and mine is my medical business is mine ,to be shared if i choose to. Just like any women's past sexual life . That ,they will take to grave without ever being honest about it .if his fiancé notices that his dick is hard whenever she wants some . its all good .
But that doctor , demanding he tell his partner is way out of line . His place is to perform the implant . not to demand the patient that he must share that he has one with anyone. its confidential ,and the patient's and only his, to share if he chooses to do so. That was the question of the op's post .