how are partners coping with longer sex sessions and penis rigidity?

[radioradio]

Bandit,

I can't wait for those feelings!

Bob
2.0

[Smetro]

I mentioned to my wife about getting an implant and she was concerned that she wouldn't be able to keep up with me (libido and ability wise) as we age. We're in our 40s, so I suppose that's a legitimate concern. Natural sexual decline is one thing, but I had issues staring in my 30s and I don't want to stop just yet. I hope I can balance my needs with hers.

I have an amazing counsellor who specialises in sexual health for couples......I would recommend it if you can convince your better half that you love her and only her and that you guys are way young.......H is 60 and I am almost 63.......we are making love and loving it.
I think it's important to:
1. Communicate broadly and effectively and 2. Use your new found power wisely and unselfishly.....

[Smetro]

Longer sex sessions??? I wish

This thing is hard as a rock. Bottoms out and it is a little uncomfortable, especially since I'm only 3 weeks post implant. Before I think the penis acted as a shock absorber and you didn't know if you were bottoming out or not. Well, I plan to check this out on a few other girls and see if this is going to be an ongoing issue.

whoa Rocky....slow down man........I started pretty early too but the best is way, way in front of you......at over 6 months now for me its all really (no pun intended) coming together now,,,,

[rockyrocky]

smetro

Thanks. All advice is appreciated. I would be lost without this board

[DaveKell]

Another perspective from the physical is the gained confidence. Not only in love making but just life itself. Spring in my step. I think a while back Smetro stated that he felt women look at him differently. I have to agree. Maybe its my confidence shining thru. But they smile and flirt. Its almost like they know.

The past few times I've been out in public I've found myself openly talking to women whereas before I was very reserved. I make unbroken eye contact and smile with my Hollywood white capped teeth. Last night I went to pickup a carry out order at a Mexican restaurant. The sweet young thing who took my order the previous time smiled as soon as I came in. She had on a low cut top and her ample firm boobs looked great. I'm sure she noticed me looking right at them as I complimented her hair style. Who is this guy in my body?!!!

[Zxylpk]

For those of us who have been in long term relationships (in my case 30+ years) it can be complicated. Our wives/partners have likely had to put their own feelings & emotions on hold while we ed guys dealt with our own feelings, frustrations and emotions. After counseling, pumps, pills, shots, trials and failures, our sex life turned into more of an ordeal rather than a pleasurable experience. Consequently our interest in sex waned over the years. Now that we're bionic it would be unfair to expect our significant others to suddenly turn into sex kittens. Feelings and emotions, that have been buried might have to be re-awakened. My wife and I are resuming our sex life but slowly. She is getting used to the idea that sex can be pleasurable again, but it's not an on/off switch - it has to be nurtured . Maybe not as fast as I would like but I am willing to give her time to get used to the new me (us). She has been a gem through my ed years, I can now return the favor.

[Bandit]

Zxylpk
The same confidence i spoke earlier about in public with women is also important in your long term relationship. I am married to my second wife for 10 years. Your wife is conditioned to be timid when making love as is mine due to our ED. In the back of her mind the previous disappointment remains. The same disappointment she did not want to communicate to you so you dont have disappointment in yourself like you (and i) felt many times before. But now things are different. We are in control of our sexuality. Thats what we need to communicate back to them. It doesnt have to be spoken but should be a reflection of our behavior. You take your wife in your hands & pull her close to you. You tell her how she makes you feel. How excited she makes you. The things you would like to do with her. Make her melt. You now have that ability. Romantic things. Go for a walk. Hold her hand. Squeeze her butt. Take her for a nice dinner. Buy her some sexy nighty or underwear. Ebay is wonderful for that. Easy to shop & delivered to your door. Maybe even a sex toy. Let your imagination run wild. You can now make her eyes roll in her head. Before long i bet things heat up. It all has to do with our confidence. Re-invent yourself. Try it, you'll be surprised !
Bandit

[Zxylpk]

You're a wise man, Bandit.

[AirWolf]

Thanks Zxylpk, Smetro, and Bandit. Good advice and inspiring stories!

[Anonymous3]

For those of us who have been in long term relationships (in my case 30+ years) it can be complicated. Our wives/partners have likely had to put their own feelings & emotions on hold while we ed guys dealt with our own feelings, frustrations and emotions. After counseling, pumps, pills, shots, trials and failures, our sex life turned into more of an ordeal rather than a pleasurable experience. Consequently our interest in sex waned over the years. Now that we're bionic it would be unfair to expect our significant others to suddenly turn into sex kittens. Feelings and emotions, that have been buried might have to be re-awakened. My wife and I are resuming our sex life but slowly. She is getting used to the idea that sex can be pleasurable again, but it's not an on/off switch - it has to be nurtured . Maybe not as fast as I would like but I am willing to give her time to get used to the new me (us). She has been a gem through my ed years, I can now return the favor.

I am in the same situation plus she is not onboard about the impalant