need to pour my little heart out...

[lost_confused]

Hey guys! You are so supportive and it is kind of a relief to see that I am not alone, I do tho have a question for Colin, can you tell me what natural E.D. really is? Like have you been able to have sex before? what was the hit and miss rate? Just be as informative as possible, it is pretty fascinating to hear about that!

I just can't wait to get on with my goddamn life, this is ruining everything for me.....still waiting for that stupid phone call....

[Minnesota]

Sure.

I was born with 100% ED. Not sure if "Natural ED" is a common term, but it's what my doctor used to describe the situation to me. My penis never (ever) trapped blood. No hit or miss, just nothing. I was able to have sex (I dont even think it can be called sex) before the implant, but image tried to have penetration when 100% flaccid. The pills did nothing, the injections put me backwards (caused scar tissues and shrinkage), but the implant has changed my life.

[antelope]

Minnesota,

Sounds like you may have been born with venous leakage. Did you ever hear that term?

Greg

[regain-is-the-aim]

LC:

First, a big welcome! This is a good place as you are discovering. There are many things to be done and getting you to a good specialist will be a first step. Just relax now, easier said than done, and know there are solutions to be explored. Enjoy your girlfriend and just explore how you can satisfy her while this resolves- fun to be had. A good friend once told me that a man's best sex "organ" was his tongue. . . I think he may have been right. Hope that's no too graphic but your lady will probably just smile and smile and smile. As you further mature you will come to understand that sex is not a performance measure but a sharing, exploring, explosion of pleasure, satisfaction and cosmic enjoyment for both. Oh, yeah!!!!

I must make one comment on the facts you shared with us. Whom ever the doc was that imposed the "lie-detector" test to see if you were gay. Run from that person and don't look back- they are not a health professional!! Orientation is not linked to ED for heaven's sakes. As you are discovering at Franktalk the issues is hard- not whom we sleep with. This clan is representative of straight, gay, bi, undecided and who-knows. We don't care. Our efforts are to support each other and collectively improve every guy's sexual function. We are Frank, bawdy, funny, supportive and from every walk of live and age range. Our common bond is our intent to share experience- what works and what doesn't and celebrate when one of us advances towards a better hard. It's that simple.

No one here wasted 2 minutes reading your post. LC- it took great courage to write your thoughts and fears and we respect that effort. We have all had dark times; it unfortunately goes with the territory. And regardless of the etiology of our ED (mine is PCa and the resulting robotic surgery) we all seek a better future for ourselves and our partners.

Please, enjoy your time with us, learn and join in the chat room as you can. Oh, also study and get good grades. . . .


Regards,

Dick

[lost_confused]

thanks for the nice words, it helps take some sting off... however still waiting for that phone call...

as for my tongue being the best sex organ, it is true,brings her to orgasm every time, however as we are young, my girlfriend prefers penetration even if she doesn't achieve orgasm from it, because it is the act of penetration that turns her on and we have discussed this, and I completely understand her.

I wonder how long she'll hang around....God I hope this matter is solved before she gets sick of me and my problems. She seems supportive ofcourse, but who knows what lies beneath? God knows if I was her and faced with that same situation I would have left me.... I know this could be seen as a test, but I don't understand why now and what have I done and who have I pissed off?

This is having an extremely negative outcome on my life.....And all my problems stem from it, I cannot sleep because of this, I don't eat alot anymore, I have trouble concentrating, my self-esteem has been completely destroyed, the only positive outcome I can see from this is that I cannot go lower....or can I?

[hard drive]

thanks for the nice words, it helps take some sting off... however still waiting for that phone call...

as for my tongue being the best sex organ, it is true,brings her to orgasm every time, however as we are young, my girlfriend prefers penetration even if she doesn't achieve orgasm from it, because it is the act of penetration that turns her on and we have discussed this, and I completely understand her.

I wonder how long she'll hang around....God I hope this matter is solved before she gets sick of me and my problems. She seems supportive of course, but who knows what lies beneath? God knows if I was her and faced with that same situation I would have left me.... I know this could be seen as a test, but I don't understand why now and what have I done and who have I pissed off?

This is having an extremely negative outcome on my life.....And all my problems stem from it, I cannot sleep because of this, I don't eat alot anymore, I have trouble concentrating, my self-esteem has been completely destroyed, the only positive outcome I can see from this is that I cannot go lower....or can I?

Listen, you can't program your whole life based on the girlfriend. I know exactly how you feel though. My wife doesn't like oral at all, I personally love it and I'm very good at it. I've had 2 women in my live who didn't like oral... My 2nd wife and my present wife, so I can relate.

We ALL (regardless of age) have felt the insecurity, loss of confidence and self-esteem etc... and yes, you can go even lower if you give in to the emotion. Just know this, if you want a resolution to the problem, you will have one. Just keep plugging away until you find your answer. Keep having sex any way that you can with your girl. Buy a strap-on and learn how to use it effectively. Try other toys, do what ever it takes, but don't withdraw and don't avoid intimate contact if you want to keep this girl. Even then, realize that she may leave anyway... Even if you didn't have this problem, she still may leave or stay, you never know...

Just keep pushing forward and don't stop until you get a working solution. It WILL happen as long as you don't give up the battle, and don't sit around on your butt waiting for a miracle. You have to make it happen. If your doctor isn't on board with this, PLEASE quit wasting time with him/her and get a real sexual function specialist. Do that, and things will shift into high gear so fast it'll make your head spin. Focus on moving forward, not on how awful it is. YOU WILL SOLVE THIS PROBLEM!

I want this so badly for you. If you lived anywhere near me, I would personally help you make this happen. Good luck and contact me anytime you need to ...

[lost_confused]

thanks alot hard drive! no, I still get intimate with her but she gets dissapointed when there is no penetration done with MY penis. she loves sex with me and so do I, we are 100% sexually compatible, making this a million times more difficult. god I hope my uro wheneverthefuckhedecidestocallmeup is onboard and actually wants to help me and doesn't blow me off as some sexually immature jerk off that has anxiety performance....

[hockey]

Lost__confused...
If your Uro blows you off (figure of speech) find another one! He/She works for you!
If they will not listen to you or really want to help I would fire them.
There are lots of GREAT Urologist out there who are very understanding
and will to do whatever it takes to get you where you so desire to be.
Best of luck and never give up!

[antelope]

Dear LC,

If any doctor, or at least someone from his/her office, does not retun your call within 24 hours, it's time to call back. if they still do not return that call in another 24 hours, it's time to get a new doctor. "This is not acceptable." Say it over and over again.

Happy TG,

Greg

[lost_confused]

welp, I have an appointment for wednesday 8:30... i was assigned with dr. elie khoury....he is an urologist. apparently. according to google.com he is a fucking idiot....
http://www.ratemds.com/doctor-ratings/55447/Dr-Elie-Khoury-Sherbrooke-QC.html

fucking life....
I have the impression this will never get solved....