Dont want to pump in front of her

[544kenmatt]

Give yourself a few pumps (or more) before initiating sex. When your pants come down, your partner will see that you are so turned on by her/him. How hot is that? You can sneak a few more pumps in along the way (esp if he/she is facing away from you). In my experience, the only way they might detect something is if they are playing with your balls a lot. You can explain it...or not. Why say anything if not asked? Your new staying power will keep he/she coming back for more...you're a STUD!

[Captain1117]

Give yourself a few pumps (or more) before initiating sex. When your pants come down, your partner will see that you are so turned on by her/him. How hot it that? You can sneak a few more pumps in along the way (esp if he/she is facing away from you). In my experience, the only way they might detect something is if they are playing with your balls a lot. You can explain it...or not. Why say anything if not asked? Your new staying power will keep he/she coming back for more...you're a STUD!

Sounds like a best solution..for anyone who you are not planning to get into serious relationship with.

[Agfa13]

Guys, on this same note, if she goes down on you, how the hell you going to explain a 3rd ball?
The only thing I can think of, in both instances, is make a game of it:)
Be upfront with the mechanics, but then do a show and tell.

[Gt1956]

Guys, on this same note, if she goes down on you, how the hell you going to explain a 3rd ball?
The only thing I can think of, in both instances, is make a game of it:)
Be upfront with the mechanics, but then do a show and tell.

Just say that is a remnant of an old surgery. More truthful than most anything else you can say. Let her think about it without volunteering anymore info. Just let the conversation die a peaceful death. If she becomes a regular. The next time she brings it up, tell her the whole story. By then she'll know that everything works as it should. So no fears of the unknown. Honestly, in my opinion. You guys are really over thinking this.

[Agfa13]

Hmmm...did not think of that...Yep, I would recommend this too!

[Gt1956]

Despite what porn depicts. Most women aren't all over you the first time you bang. I've even read that many of them don't orgasm even if they can orgasm on a regular basis. All that you need to do is get that first bang behind you. That way they know that it won't hurt or be weird. Just throw the bone guys. Let the pillow talk & chit chatting be on the second or third time in the sheets.
Don't get me wrong. I don't advise lying. Just give enough info to get things done. The long lecture about treating your ED can be done on another day.

[Lost Sheep]

With most women I have been to bed with, we have had some heart-to-heart talk beforehand. After all, the "safe sex" talk is more intimidating than the "I have a mechanical dick" talk. Besides, the "dildo inside my penis" is a lot more amenable to a humorous approach.

Seriously, every woman I have slept with since my implant knew about it before we ever got "busy".

Now, I admit that they were not casual "pickups", nor young or inexperienced. So, that may make a difference. A young woman with no basis for comparison and little knowledge of the vicissitudes that nature visits upon men might take exception to the implant as a treatment for the E.D. about which she may know nothing. But a woman who has ever been to bed with a man who had to take steps to "get it up" will appreciate (in my opinion) a man who is guaranteed to be successful in that endeavor to "rise to the occasion".

Take it light-heartedly. No woman who has decided to let you into her bed and into her body will change her mind at the last minute unless you blow the introduction to your penile reinforcement. So before undressing, but AFTER she has started (essentially past the point of HER mental "point of no return") an introduction to your "equipment" with a casual sentence like, "I have an interesting feature you might enjoy. Let me tell you about it, or would you rather I just let you experience it? I guarantee you will be pleased."

[Gt1956]

LS, I agree with you. This is a shy guy problem. Not a woman problem. Sadly, I suspect that you & I are wasting our pixels trying to change minds. There will always be another "what if" this happens. I just don't see how someone can change your or my minds. Likewise, I doubt that we are having much luck changing others.

[Lost Sheep]

LS, I agree with you. This is a shy guy problem. Not a woman problem. Sadly, I suspect that you & I are wasting our pixels trying to change minds. There will always be another "what if" this happens. I just don't see how someone can change your or my minds. Likewise, I doubt that we are having much luck changing others.

GT, you make an excellent, salient point. E.D. can do a number on a guy's confidence, leaving him insufficiently sure of how any woman will react to anything outside the "norm". It will take a LOT of sexual successes to get some men to have the confidence to go forth with the bald-faced truth. In the meantime, they are left with the task of hiding what, to some, is an infirmity and to others is a sign of triumph.

As for myself, my confidence began to be restored when I accepted my E.D. and took it upon myself to learn other ways of pleasing a woman. And then, I did not keep it a secret before or after our first conjugation. Worked out pretty good for me until I decided to get my penis back in action and I see no reason to hide any of my "talents" whether lingual skill or hydromechanical aid. It's all good.

[Gt1956]

I have to agree with you for the most part. The slow gradual self doubts that creep into your mind from ED are insidious. Just plain damaging.