My uro said I can't get an implant until my fiance comes into the office.. is this right??

[CanGetItUpButNotOff]

We're only hearing one version of the story. I suspect there is a lot more nuance we don't understand.

[macoza]

I skipped injections, as implied by my signature. I feel significantly more pleasure having sex with an implant than I did with pills,

Appreciate this a lot. Right now I'm doing injections and even though I'm responding well to them I feel they're a nuisance and risk. Thats why I'm heavily thinking about getting an implant. But I think the uro won't let me get an implant for the reason that the injections work. What are your thoughts on this?

[Kodixx]

macoza, FWIW, my doc told me that for insurance purposes the implant was last resort only if other treatments, including injections, didn't work. But he didn't ask me to prove it. So no problem.

- Chuck

Appreciate this a lot. Right now I'm doing injections and even though I'm responding well to them I feel they're a nuisance and risk. Thats why I'm heavily thinking about getting an implant. But I think the uro won't let me get an implant for the reason that the injections work. What are your thoughts on this?

[SteveD2]

I'm with Letoman 100% - can't write it any better - you might ask yourself 1) 'what happens when your fiancee finds out,' and 2) 'how would you feel if the roles were reversed.' Respect and trust are the hallmarks of the best relationships.

[Time2Change]

Before we all jump to reporting this doc to the medical board:

I think it’s reasonable for a doc to say that if a man is in a committed relationship, their partner should be part of the discussions. Why? Because that is the best way to make sure that it is a good outcome for the patient. If macoza is having sex with his fiancée, she is absolutely going to know something is different after he gets implanted. It’s not good for him, her, anyone to spring this on her as a surprise. He’s not saying that her consent is required or that she will be informed if he goes ahead with it, he’s saying that the best course of treatment is for both parties in the relationship to understand what is going on and what the implications are prior to getting implanted.

It’s not medical malpractice to say that the course of treatment involves discussion with the partner. If he refuses to bring her in, that’s fine, but the doc using their judgement might refuse to implant as a result if they see that as a red flag for a positive outcome. Whether the doc can do that or not is a technical question in the jurisdiction where the doc is located, but generally speaking docs are not obligated to provide elective treatments particularly if they feel that has the potential to affect the patient in negative ways.

Macoza, if your fiancée has had sex with you previously, it is virtually impossible that she won’t notice afterwards that something has changed dramatically. That is different than the idea that women who have sex with a man for the first time after implantation will largely just assume he is just super hard all the time. That may be the source of your confusion.

My advice is that you discuss implantation with your fiancée and help her get comfortable with the issue, including discussion with the doc.

Be well,
Leto

If by good outcome you mean positive reaction from your partner, then I agree that he probably shouldn't spring this on her.

But if you mean the quality of the physical results of the surgery, I'm going to disagree.

My marriage was so bad at the point when I got my implant that I had almost no support from my wife. She was skeptical of the surgery to begin with, offered no help as I struggled to get approval from the insurance company, had no positive reaction when I told her it was approved, and just dropped me off outside the hospital the morning of the surgery and picked me up the next day outside the hospital.

But I am still very happy with my implant. I didn't have any real problems during my recovery. My doctor has been satisfied with my implant during every yearly follow up appointment we've had.

Overall, I'm going to say that this surgeon is mistaken to refuse to provide the surgical service unless the patient brings in his fiancee.

[Courage]

Reminds me of an old SNL sketch about Viagra.

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[ready2go]

I skipped injections, as implied by my signature. I feel significantly more pleasure having sex with an implant than I did with pills,

Appreciate this a lot. Right now I'm doing injections and even though I'm responding well to them I feel they're a nuisance and risk. Thats why I'm heavily thinking about getting an implant. But I think the uro won't let me get an implant for the reason that the injections work. What are your thoughts on this?

Injections are unpleasant at best and extremely inconvenient, plus they might cause damage long term ,if they work that long , you want to carry a needle around with you if you expect to have sex other than at your house ?
Dump that pushy uro ,and get a new one ,when they ask if pills or shots work for insurance purposes ,say ;NO! Nothing works anymore .
If you get an ipp ,and your girl some day notices you have bump in your balls , or tubes or whatever . you can say good news, dear , its why my dick stays hard until you can't go anymore . your a lucky girl . You have your own live hard on demand , walking talking dildo .
enjoy !
done deal, every one is happy .
What women on planet earth would be unhappy their man has a dick that can be pumped up and stay erect for as long as she wants to use it ?
none , EXCEPT ,the ones who do want sex and are worried ,that Mr bionic will get it else where

[Discovernew]

Hi guys..I'm thinking of getting an implant. But something is stopping me from getting one. My uro said that during sex, a woman can tell if I have an implant. But I've read that most women can't tell at all. My uro said that in order for me to get an implant that I'd have to bring in my fiance to the office to tell her. Is this right?

This is so stupid. Who is your doctor?

Imagine if before a woman gets breast implants they would say "you need to bring your boyfriend so he can give you permission" lol.

[AussieGuy81]

If by good outcome you mean positive reaction from your partner, then I agree that he probably shouldn't spring this on her.

But if you mean the quality of the physical results of the surgery, I'm going to disagree.

My marriage was so bad at the point when I got my implant that I had almost no support from my wife. She was skeptical of the surgery to begin with, offered no help as I struggled to get approval from the insurance company, had no positive reaction when I told her it was approved, and just dropped me off outside the hospital the morning of the surgery and picked me up the next day outside the hospital.

But I am still very happy with my implant. I didn't have any real problems during my recovery. My doctor has been satisfied with my implant during every yearly follow up appointment we've had.

Overall, I'm going to say that this surgeon is mistaken to refuse to provide the surgical service unless the patient brings in his fiancee.

Wow mate, that's cold from her. Are you still with her?

[ready2go]

Hi guys..I'm thinking of getting an implant. But something is stopping me from getting one. My uro said that during sex, a woman can tell if I have an implant. But I've read that most women can't tell at all. My uro said that in order for me to get an implant that I'd have to bring in my fiance to the office to tell her. Is this right?

This is so stupid. Who is your doctor?

Imagine if before a woman gets breast implants they would say "you need to bring your boyfriend so he can give you permission" lol.

exactly .and the question the op asked was ,is it right for the uro to demand that he bring his women in to ok the implant . And the answer is , hell no !
He is way out of line .
He doesn't need advice from us regarding if he should kowtow to his partner's thoughts on the matter .
the doctor needs to back off . And stay the hell out of people's personal life and decisions . His only job is to perform the implant and do it skillfully
he is not a relationship counselor .