making her man hard -- wife's perspective

[Cnidium]

This is all a classic example of how you handle the situation. Females are attracted to confidence. If you have an implant, and you display anxiety over it, then Im guessing your partner will not find it very hot. On the other hand, if you have an implant, and you act like a boss with it, she will probably like it. There are many ways to make a female feel like she is making you attracted to her. The way you stare at her, when she catches you drooling over her ass, what you say to her, ect. I am willing to bet you can pump your dick up, act like you dont give a shit that you have an implant, and then do something to get in her head that you want to fuck the shit out of her. And at this point she will be more than OK with everything.

Cliffs:
Be in command of your situation.
Show indifference to your implant, act like its not even there.
Get in her head that you want to drill her.

[stiffupperlip]

Tangerine is married so that can be different but in a new relationship confidence is everything. When I was using trimix I told my girlfriend at the time that I wanted to fuck her so bad that I was willing to stick a needle in my dick. Let me tell you it worked and she loved the multiple orgasms I could give her.

It's not just women, everybody loves people who are confident. Not arrogant, that's a big difference, but when you're comfortable in your own skin it can be a turn on.

[kaschmidtke]

I don't know your wife's personality ... but In my experience most women love humor, and it may lighten up the situation and put the focus back on the fun. Why not tell her your little friend Junior was so hot for her that he made you get an auxiliary pump installed -- and he will be VERY disappointed if he doesn't get to use it - a lot!

[TANGERINE]

First of all, I am so grateful to ALL of you who stepped up to provide advice and perspective regarding my feeling perturbed and miffed after my wife said she misses the capability to naturally produce an erection in me. Everyone’s remarks were really well thought-through and helped me enormously face and gain perspective on my circumstance. Those of you who validated my anger—thank you. Those of you who pointed out that "it is what it is" resulted in me stepping up and “manning up” to my circumstance. Those of you who reminded me to realize that there are two viewpoints in a relationship, both equally valid, provided me with enlightenment

AND NOW, here are my follow-up remarks after realizing that my woman misses the feeling of sex appeal affirmation obtained from seeing and feeling a developing erection, and yes, this really did happen.


“Spontaneity, confidence, and an unlimited hard-on make for hot sex !”

Last night we attended a formal evening gala event with dancing. I was all dressed up, and she had her little black dress with stiletto high heels that were leopard pattern with red bottoms. Before implant, I had lost interest in dancing since I viewed it as a sort of foreplay towards seducing my wife. But last night, we danced, and I wooed her with all the confidence of a thoroughbred stud.

Once we got home, I continued on to close the deal, and we were passionately kissing standing-up next to the bed. Confidently, I lowered her to the side of the bed, and within minutes, her clothes were thrown all over the room, and she wrapped her legs around me, still wearing her Laboutin stilettos, she said “OK, pump it up.”

I then took her sideways on the bed “butterfly position style” in a hot vigorous fashion still wearing my shirt and bow-tie. She came twice, since after the first time I came, I said, nah, I am not done yet, let’s go for another — which we did.

So, after that, frankly, I really do not care about feeling so miffed about that erection validation comment. In fact, I do give her credit for being so open and honestly communicative.

So, if there are any of you out there wondering if a night of hot sex fixes lots of things in a relationship, then I have found a definitive answer.

Thanks again bionic bros, you came through when I needed it, and of course, my bionic penis totally performed when I needed that !

From,
One Happy TANGERINE
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[Cnidium]

This is exactly the kind of stuff I want to know can happen with an implant. You went dancing, you two enjoyed yourselves, and then went home you took her like you should. This is what I miss and want to do, and you give me hope than I can do this again.

And, I must ask, how did it feel dancing with the implant? Did you feel that it was going to get compromised at any point, or that it would get bent as one implant said his LGX did after going dancing? I imagine the titan is more resilient to such stressors.

Thanks Tangerine

[David_R]

She used to gain great sexual peace of mind from seeing that she could "turn on her man" to a rock hard erected state. ...
Apparently, some women are really disturbed that their man needs something more than "her natural sex appeal" to get an erection. For some women, it is a "validation of their sex appeal" when they have the capability to get a man excited enough to be erect.

I think it is much more damaging for many/most women's self-image "validation of their sex appeal" to try to turn on her man and have him not get erect. (And I think my wife would agree with this.)

[Donnie1954]

I totally agree David_R, a great wife, like I have, wants to please her husband. Mine knows I pump up to be erect, but I'm hard for her. Her foreplay, touching, sucking, and admiring my dick does turn me on. Why does it matter HOW my dick gets ready for her. It's ready, hard, eager anytime for as long as we want. Try doing that with a mere mortals dick!
Donnie

[Cnidium]

ddbryan,

I think David_R is suggesting the opposite of what you are saying.

And ya maybe the sexual validation matters a lot. I don't think it will, and I plan on acting like it wont.

How many of you other have wives/girlfriends that are indifferent or really like the implant, and have no noticeable distress about sexual validation concerning not being able to get you naturally erect?

[Donnie1954]

My wife said that she took pride in her ability to get her man hard. My ED was very difficult for her as she could suck and play with me and nothing happened. Even when I injected or used a pump, she knew she wasn't doing it. I remind her daily that it's because I love her that I want to get hard. She is my reason for this implant and she knows it. I let her deflate me after sex and afterglow. Guys do your best to compliment your wife concerning her skills in bed. Women need to be valued and appreciated. Implantees really have to really be aware of how important to their relationship this is. My wife knows I can get an erection without her, but she knows that she's the reason I need one and want one.
Donnie.

[ShopMan]

My wife does oral while I'm flacid. I have her stop. I pump up a little and let her at me again. I say things like, "look what your doing to me. Your incredible. Then I pump some more. This continues until she says, pump it up!" Have fun playing with that implant.
Donnie

Great idea Donnie. Have you tried pumping while she is performing oral at the same time? Might be a little awkward but might be fun trying.
Charlie