merrix wrote:Nadie123 wrote:
Exactly, that is the point where I am going with that it is more complicated for a young man than an adult, young people require more empathy.
Well, that's funny actually. You saying that.
Because you are in your twenties and that is as old as you have ever been in your life. So far. That is all you know.
I am in my forties. I remember my twenties as if it was last week and my thirties as it was yesterday.
Don't what "old" is to you. This is me and my wife.
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Are we old?
Is this old men's sex?
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Anyway, funny it is you saying that things are more complicated for a young man than an adult, and that young people require more empathy.
I know all that you know about being in the twenties. Plus a lot about what comes next. By self experience.
Anyway, I have said on this forum a number of times that it is more complicated for a "young" dating man to be implanted than a 75 year old married for 40 years man.
But the difference between a 25 year old and a 45 year old is not huge. The similarities are larger. Dating is the key word. Age the secondary word.
If I would get divorced and start dating, I would find my implant a hell lot more troublesome than I do today.
As awkward as if I was 25?
Maybe.
If I was dating today, I would date women 30-45 I guess. And it is not like a woman at 35 goes home with a fit guy ten years older than her and expects him to have ED solved with an implant.
She wouldn't expect her lover to have ED anymore than a 20 year old girl would expect a 25 year old guy to have ED and an implant.
The difference lies rather in the social context a 20 year old and a 40 year old is operating in.
I was in University when I was 25. I was partying, socializing, dating and fucking within the same social network. If I was implanted at that age I would always have the anxiety that the girl I fucked would spread the nasty details to my whole social network. I would have become the freak everyone made jokes about.
That would be different at my current age. If I hooked up with a random woman in my home town, chances are she would not have any mutual friends with me. But even if she did, the word wouldn't spread like in campus.
The sex act itself would present just as much potential embarrassment though. Trust me.
The potential embarrassment issue is something I have discussed before. I would choose the offensive approach. Almost go for the pre-emptive strategy. Prevention is better than cure. If I was implanted in college, I would probably tell people. Unless I was going to live a life where nobody could find out of course. But if I was going to sleep around, particularly with girls in my closest social group, my "gang", then there is no frigging way that the news wouldn't get out. So instead then of being the poor little shy, embarrassed, sorry ass who tried to hide his plastic dick but failed - I would be the super lover who fucked girls left and right for hours with his robocop dick. I would be open and tell my friends before they found out. Even tell my female friends before they found out. Just give them some macho story about downhill skiing, motorcycles, wakeboarding, fighting for my life against two muggers, or whatever. And getting my dick smashed and ending up with a venous leak. Now fixed with an enhancement making me the super lover my friends could only dream about and my girlfriends getting curious about.
Easier said than done, but I am 100% sure this would be better.
Getting asked then by some random guy if "you are the guy with the plastic dick", I would rather stand tall and say "Yes, that's me. So you heard about that huh? Yeah, I had this bad down hill skiing accident and crashed so bad. Things had to get fixed. I am actually happy about it, the things I can do to a girl in bed now is something a natural dick could never even get close to. At first I thought it sucked, but now it's actually kind of cool to fuck girls to 5 orgasms and keep going all night long. Take care man."
You get my point. Not being the victim.
But to say you deserve more sympathy... I have had ED since I was a teenager, and have lived through exactly what you guys do, only for so much longer time than you. So I am not exactly having the feeling you deserve more sympathy or fragile treatment than others on here, including myself. Whatever story we have, someone else will always have suffered worse shit. So there is not much meaning in feeling sorry for oneself and expecting others to feel more sorry for me than for others. Everyone on here has suffered. A lot of the older guys you think are not that bad off have had multiple other crap happening to them. They have had cancer and other life-threatening shit happening to them.
So be a bit careful about bringing up the subject of who deserves more empathy.
This site is full of poor bastards who has suffered tremendously.
But, to round this off, none of this shit matters. It doesn't matter who has suffered more.
It doesn't matter what age you are.
The bottom line is still that any man being struck by ED can choose to stay with what he has, which will likely get worse, or do something.
The only thing there really is to do, except for pills and injections, is to get an implant.
No matter how sorry everybody should feel for a young guy, the reality is that he has to choose.
Keep what you have and enhance it with pills and injections.
Or get implanted.
We all know that sucks. It sucked for me too. Fuck damn it, it sucked. It sucked so bad.
But self-pity never got anyone anywhere in this world.
I am just trying to say it as it is.
It sucks to get ED.
It sucks to have an implant compared to having a big nice natural dick.
It sucks to be 22, 28, 35, 45, 52 or whatever fucking age and being caught by the woman you're about to fuck with plastic tubes in your dick and a plastic bulb in your scrotum.
But no matter how bad it sucks, that is what happened to us.
And now the ball is in your court.
Which play do you call?
Defence or offense?
I’ll hop back in. I agree with you that the decision lies on the guy with ED... BUT that decision would be made a lot easier by an independent man in his 50’s, 60’s, etc than a college student who would feel a burden to his parents asking them to help cough up 20 grand to fix their broken penis (which still probably doesn’t even seem legitimate to the parents of an otherwise healthy and normal young man). There’s no use arguing over pity, but I feel that a lot more factors are at play for a young man. The financial dependence being a huge one, as well as more hurdles to jump over with urologists who want to insist it’s all in your head, just be more confident.