Female opinions on sex after implant

[Lost Sheep]

My dick head would be cold at time preimplantation. Not sure why but sometimes on viagra my head would just be frozen. So nothing really different for me, but yes sometimes my head is still cold, other times not. Usually only I’m in nervous or cold in general. Warms up quick…but It does make me more self conscious as I used to not care when it was cold but still had blood in it, now that there’s two tubes with no blood I feel like my gf would judge me if she felt my ice cold dick head…but I just warm it up or put cold lube on it so she can’t tell….she can’t feel the rods during sex I don’t think…but definitely during oral..which now I no longer get cause I think the pointy rods either hurt her throat or just freak her out. Still would get the implant over and over again zero regrets life changing and she’s never came harder before with my old dick. So it must be a good thing.

Does she flat out refuse to give you a bj, if so did she say why? or has it just not happened?

I don’t think she would ever refuse…but she used to DEMAND I went in her mouth before sex as she loved it. Craved it…and since the switch, she has never once offered to give head or even hinted at wanting too. She’s very much avoided it. So it went from 90% to 0%. I’ve asked her too a couple times when we were drunk and she’s done it but not nearly as “romantic” or “sexy” as she used to. And definitely gagged a lot more….assuming due to the cylinders and it just being so hard and maybe more fake feeling in the mouth. I mean im sure the tongue can sense the rods very very easily. I’m not trying to diss the implant at all. Just relaying truthful factual Info. Again, I’d trade blowjobs for the dick I have now any day….this thing is a king….I can’t believe normal people just walk around with something like this haha I couldn’t imagine having this power. Pumping is awkward and makes you feel a little inferior but once you get inside her nobody cares anymore…again, she can cum in 30 seconds with this thing. Before she usually never came. She’s looked at me in ways I’ve never seen her look. Totally worth it….

Jumping into your conversation here:

Those times when she gets a little drunk, have you asked her to tell you why she shys away from fellating you? If it is because your implanted penis is too hard, too sizable or the tips hurt her throat, perhaps adjusting the implant pressure down a bit would accommodate her. My girlfriend like fellation, but if I am pumped up for coitus, my girth and length are too much for her, so I reduce pressure to about 80%. Plenty stiff enough for her to "operate" and enjoy my erection, but also comfortable for her. The sensation for me is better, too, because she can apply more tongue action.

I expect that spanishxb's (your) wife's complaint about feeling the hard tips would be mitigated if the rods supporting those tips were more flexible. That is, when the tips hit the back of her throat, they press through his (your) glans on her palate. If the supporting rods of the implant were to bend a little, the pressure on her palate would be less. Compare being tapped with a steel hammer versus a rubber mallet. Likewise, if your girth spreads her jaws so much that it traps her tongue and does not allow her to use her tongue as much as she would like.

Having an adjustable erection is a blessing not mentioned very often here.

[Lost Sheep]

I have 2 replaced knees, replacement eye lenses, a screw to hold my ankle in place, metal fusion of 4 spinal vertebra, repaired rotator cuffs -- but it wasn't until my implant that my wife after sex happily called me her Million Dollar Bionic Man

That's an amazing wife you have there mate, wish they were all like that. I have no appendix, removed and augmented rectum, shortened bowel, double hernia mesh, 3 fused vertebrae and a penile implant...and I'm called the cockroach because i just wont die....not nearly as sexy.

Since my implant March '22 i've used it for sex twice, and they weren't pretty. I'm a sample set of one but i believe some women just cant get past the fact our erections are now 'fake'. In a way i don't blame them considering the choice they have nowadays but it doesn't feel any less hurtful. I think its a situation where we can intellectualize it ourselves but when it boils down to it, a natural working penis is what they want.
I'm glad its not the case for everyone though.

When I was just starting on the road to implant, I posted an ad on a dating site specifying that I was functionally impotent and on the road to getting an implant. I asked for a woman who would accompany me on that journey as a lab partner, of sorts. Experimentation with sex both before and after implant expected. I got no responses decrying the concept of an implant, but several women willing to, at least, meet me for an interview and a few who at least started on the journey who engaged in sex with me (leaving the journey for various reasons - the most understandable one for me was that she died). Many commented that my honesty was courageous and refreshing.

Women are incredibly supportive if they feel trusted, respected and safe. If a woman is not supportive despite your best efforts, communicate with her and if she is unwilling to support you, consider finding another.

[Spanishxb]

Does she flat out refuse to give you a bj, if so did she say why? or has it just not happened?

I don’t think she would ever refuse…but she used to DEMAND I went in her mouth before sex as she loved it. Craved it…and since the switch, she has never once offered to give head or even hinted at wanting too. She’s very much avoided it. So it went from 90% to 0%. I’ve asked her too a couple times when we were drunk and she’s done it but not nearly as “romantic” or “sexy” as she used to. And definitely gagged a lot more….assuming due to the cylinders and it just being so hard and maybe more fake feeling in the mouth. I mean im sure the tongue can sense the rods very very easily. I’m not trying to diss the implant at all. Just relaying truthful factual Info. Again, I’d trade blowjobs for the dick I have now any day….this thing is a king….I can’t believe normal people just walk around with something like this haha I couldn’t imagine having this power. Pumping is awkward and makes you feel a little inferior but once you get inside her nobody cares anymore…again, she can cum in 30 seconds with this thing. Before she usually never came. She’s looked at me in ways I’ve never seen her look. Totally worth it….

Jumping into your conversation here:

Those times when she gets a little drunk, have you asked her to tell you why she shys away from fellating you? If it is because your implanted penis is too hard, too sizable or the tips hurt her throat, perhaps adjusting the implant pressure down a bit would accommodate her. My girlfriend like fellation, but if I am pumped up for coitus, my girth and length are too much for her, so I reduce pressure to about 80%. Plenty stiff enough for her to "operate" and enjoy my erection, but also comfortable for her. The sensation for me is better, too, because she can apply more tongue action.

I expect that spanishxb's (your) wife's complaint about feeling the hard tips would be mitigated if the rods supporting those tips were more flexible. That is, when the tips hit the back of her throat, they press through his (your) glans on her palate. If the supporting rods of the implant were to bend a little, the pressure on her palate would be less. Compare being tapped with a steel hammer versus a rubber mallet. Likewise, if your girth spreads her jaws so much that it traps her tongue and does not allow her to use her tongue as much as she would like.

Having an adjustable erection is a blessing not mentioned very often here.

Hey Lost Sheep,

I’ve asked her a couple times and she just says “you never ask for it”…which I never used to have too…I honestly rather not hear her answer as it’s probably not something I want to hear so I just avoid it and we have sex. That’s the good part anyways…and yes I could deflate a bit for sure…but of course the feeling of it maxxed out is so much better, like a 15 yr old kid boner again. Anyways, I can’t expect the world when she’s happily fucking a bionic average sized penis when she could have a real one. No complaints. Take care all!

[Mountnman]

90 to 0 is a tremendous change! My wife had to go through an attitude adjustment period when I was required to start using Trimix. She didn’t think it was somehow real, that I wasn’t excited and hard because of her but only because of the shot. I explained that the shot was merely taking the place of the nerves that had been removed during surgery. I was able to convince her that I was still attracted to her and the blood in my penis was the same blood as before.

Possibly from your girlfriend’s point of view, she isn’t as excited to give you oral as before when she can feel the prosthesis. My wife commented that if I got an implant it’s not me anymore, it’s not my blood anymore, it’s like I’m a terminator and if you peel back the skin, the non-human skeleton is revealed. Men don’t think of their implant in those terminator terms, they’re just damn happy they can penetrate a woman again. I hope over time your girl will get back to her loving ways.

I don’t HAVE to get a penile implant. Trimix works, and a daily 5 mg cialis keeps my dick from shrinking up into my groin.
Fortunately this forum is here to help guys like me decide to implant or not to implant.
So far a cold cock, a 90% reduction in oral, and an unsure wife make it 0-3 for me implant-wise.

[Spanishxb]

90 to 0 is a tremendous change! My wife had to go through an attitude adjustment period when I was required to start using Trimix. She didn’t think it was somehow real, that I wasn’t excited and hard because of her but only because of the shot. I explained that the shot was merely taking the place of the nerves that had been removed during surgery. I was able to convince her that I was still attracted to her and the blood in my penis was the same blood as before.

Possibly from your girlfriend’s point of view, she isn’t as excited to give you oral as before when she can feel the prosthesis. My wife commented that if I got an implant it’s not me anymore, it’s not my blood anymore, it’s like I’m a terminator and if you peel back the skin, the non-human skeleton is revealed. Men don’t think of their implant in those terminator terms, they’re just damn happy they can penetrate a woman again. I hope over time your girl will get back to her loving ways.

I don’t HAVE to get a penile implant. Trimix works, and a daily 5 mg cialis keeps my dick from shrinking up into my groin.
Fortunately this forum is here to help guys like me decide to implant or not to implant.
So far a cold cock, a 90% reduction in oral, and an unsure wife make it 0-3 for me implant-wise.

Haha MountainMan I’m sorry you have the wrong impression! Shots are nice but you only have so much time before it ends…and eventually scar tissue will form…my dick isn’t just always cold. As I said, it was cold sometimes preimplantation even when full of blood which even I thought was odd…the oral thing sucks but sounds like that’s mainly just an issue for my relationship…but yes, the unsure wife thing is a bummer…what i wish I would’ve done is just not explained it to her in detail and told her it just “helps pump my blood into my penis since my brain doesn’t understand how to do it”…i think saying it like that and being vague with it would’ve saved me trouble….nevertheless, the way she orgasms and looks at me during sex is like never before and she cums multiple multiple times…probably things other guys used to do to her in her college years that i never even knew were possible. I’ve become an A+ lover and I’m fully satisfied. Plus a girthier dick which she definitely notices….

To end it on another bad note lol Anal has gone downhill too..just too big and too hard for her. She lets me do it whenever, but it’s definitely a chore and she definitely is hurting for a couple days. No regrets….

[aussiePeyronies]

My dick head would be cold at time preimplantation. Not sure why but sometimes on viagra my head would just be frozen. So nothing really different for me, but yes sometimes my head is still cold, other times not. Usually only I’m in nervous or cold in general. Warms up quick…but It does make me more self conscious as I used to not care when it was cold but still had blood in it, now that there’s two tubes with no blood I feel like my gf would judge me if she felt my ice cold dick head…but I just warm it up or put cold lube on it so she can’t tell….she can’t feel the rods during sex I don’t think…but definitely during oral..which now I no longer get cause I think the pointy rods either hurt her throat or just freak her out. Still would get the implant over and over again zero regrets life changing and she’s never came harder before with my old dick. So it must be a good thing.

Does she flat out refuse to give you a bj, if so did she say why? or has it just not happened?

I don’t think she would ever refuse…but she used to DEMAND I went in her mouth before sex as she loved it. Craved it…and since the switch, she has never once offered to give head or even hinted at wanting too. She’s very much avoided it. So it went from 90% to 0%. I’ve asked her too a couple times when we were drunk and she’s done it but not nearly as “romantic” or “sexy” as she used to. And definitely gagged a lot more….assuming due to the cylinders and it just being so hard and maybe more fake feeling in the mouth. I mean im sure the tongue can sense the rods very very easily. I’m not trying to diss the implant at all. Just relaying truthful factual Info. Again, I’d trade blowjobs for the dick I have now any day….this thing is a king….I can’t believe normal people just walk around with something like this haha I couldn’t imagine having this power. Pumping is awkward and makes you feel a little inferior but once you get inside her nobody cares anymore…again, she can cum in 30 seconds with this thing. Before she usually never came. She’s looked at me in ways I’ve never seen her look. Totally worth it….

Thanks for the honest feedback, it helps us, especially us younger guys.

Do you think maybe if you pumped less, blowjobs would be more comfortable for her?

[Gt1956]

Just my opinion based on a sample size of 1. If a woman wants to suck your dick? Shes gonna suck your dick. None of this stuff matters to them.

[Spanishxb]

Does she flat out refuse to give you a bj, if so did she say why? or has it just not happened?

I don’t think she would ever refuse…but she used to DEMAND I went in her mouth before sex as she loved it. Craved it…and since the switch, she has never once offered to give head or even hinted at wanting too. She’s very much avoided it. So it went from 90% to 0%. I’ve asked her too a couple times when we were drunk and she’s done it but not nearly as “romantic” or “sexy” as she used to. And definitely gagged a lot more….assuming due to the cylinders and it just being so hard and maybe more fake feeling in the mouth. I mean im sure the tongue can sense the rods very very easily. I’m not trying to diss the implant at all. Just relaying truthful factual Info. Again, I’d trade blowjobs for the dick I have now any day….this thing is a king….I can’t believe normal people just walk around with something like this haha I couldn’t imagine having this power. Pumping is awkward and makes you feel a little inferior but once you get inside her nobody cares anymore…again, she can cum in 30 seconds with this thing. Before she usually never came. She’s looked at me in ways I’ve never seen her look. Totally worth it….

Thanks for the honest feedback, it helps us, especially us younger guys.

Do you think maybe if you pumped less, blowjobs would be more comfortable for her?

She’s never said anything is wrong with it, she just hasn’t given head like she used too…idk why as too afraid to ask so I just leave it as is. I won’t go down in her then and foreplay can go out the window. Fine by me as I’m hard and stay hard now….not my loss really…wish I would’ve had this dick when we used to shoot porn though…she’s over that stage nowadays…

[Lost Sheep]

Do you think maybe if you pumped less, blowjobs would be more comfortable for her?

I know that fellatio is nearly impossible for my girlfriend if I am fully pumped up, but she enjoys it if my erection is just a little bit flexible and does not fill her mouth so full

More specifically, she cannot take in my full length if I am fully pumped up, but can get her lips all the way to the bottom of my shaft if I am less pumped. I am still rigid enough to stand up and could even penetrate her vaginally, but not so rigid that she cannot get me fully into her mouth. I don't think it is the length. I think my erection just does not conform to the inside curvature of her oral cavity if it is too stiff.

[Lost Sheep]

She’s never said anything is wrong with it, she just hasn’t given head like she used too…idk why as too afraid to ask so I just leave it as is. I won’t go down in her then and foreplay can go out the window. Fine by me as I’m hard and stay hard now….not my loss really…wish I would’ve had this dick when we used to shoot porn though…she’s over that stage nowadays…

OK, this is unasked for advice, so ou can ignore it if you want.

Do not be afraid to ask for what you want (but be sure you want it, though).

Foreplay is important to most women (and could be enjoyable for you, too, if you let yourself). Sure, I get the appeal of a "quickie", just get in, get your orgasm and get out, with or witout afterplay. But the luxury of an extended sex session is enjoyable, too, and may improve your relationship outside of the sex.

But it is your relationship and my advice is take it or leave it and only you can figure if it will improve your relationship or not. A woman willing to make porn with you is a keeper even if she does not want to do the documentation any more.