I have had this issue with my wife who is one of those women who gains "validation of her sexiness through the generation of an erection in her man." now that I am implanted , she no longer has that "pride of authorship". I have pasted below my response and comment to this whole issue:
as dg_moore states "there will be as many different responses as there are women". So it is hard to generalize here. As we have heard over and over again, we at franktalk like to believe that most women will "put up with the implant" if they like the man. But, I must agree with Lost_sheep that there are many women who have a "pride of authorship" in being able to excite their man enough to see a tangible, visible erection. Being able to get her man "erect and hard" proves to a woman that she is sexy, and that she is attractive to her mate. If that proof is gone, then some women, especially the neurotic and sexually insecure ones, will be bothered by the notion that the bionic man's erection is "fake."
This has been discussed by an expert, Virginia Sadock, MD in New York who discusses the fake nature of a viagra induced erection (something some women also find disturbing) and here is Dr Sadock's opinion:
Dr Virginia Sadock states:
"....Some women think ED drugs make men amorous and that their presence isn’t required." “What a lot of women need to be turned on is the feeling that they’re desired,” adds Virginia A. Sadock, M.D., director of the program in human sexuality at New York University Langone Medical Center. “So with Viagra, they think, Oh, it’s not me he wants; it’s the Viagra talking. In my practice, I spend a lot of time reassuring them that this isn’t the case — and I tell men they must reassure the women too.”
My wife is bothered by the fact that she is not able to make me hard; however, I do know that her orgasms are far far better now that I have been implanted. She now has some real toe curling, seriously explosive orgasms which are way better than what she had even during our honeymoon years ago. So, I think that, from her perspective, this was a worthwhile trade.
Of course, the point is that facing sex with the problem of a "limp, erectile dysfunctional, dick" is 100 times worse then having to deal with the whining of an insecure and/or neurotic woman who wishes to have visual validation that she is able to author a great erection in her bed partner.
Moral of this story: "only get the implant if you have severe erectile dysfunction which is refractory to pills"
Second Moral of the story: "own your situation and act with confidence" (in other words, if you are bald--own it, if you are bionic and need to pump up--own it) None of us are perfect, and we need to try to feel confident in our own skin.
