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Brief history: Age 70. ED present since 2000 but well managed with Viagra/Cialis until RALP on 3/11/18. Following surgery ED drugs have had no effect. VED was extremely uncomfortable and not effective. Trimix injections only give occasional, short lived erections suitable for penetration. Was going to talk with urologist about implants during last PSA following up, but because of slight uptick in PSA, doctor suggested we hold off until we figure out what is going on with that. So hopefully we can start that discussion in three months or so.

Now to my question. Have had several discussions with my wife of 49 years about possibility of having implant, and she appears to be less than excited about it. When asked why, she can't fully explain it other than it seems to "mechanical". So for those who have implants, how does your partner feel about them? Looking for all responses both positive and negative. Thanks gang!

some women are glad that chore is over .... i suggested injections my wife said ... WHY a real man is judged on how well he provides

This has been discussed several times on this forum. Several excellent answers have been given. The main concern for men seems to be that the wife/girlfriend will be turned off by not being able to cause a guy’s hardon. I suppose that has some validity and readily applies to a certain type of woman.

I’ve read numerous times women’s chief complaint is that guys don’t last long enough. That doesn’t apply any longer to implanted men. I think it’s obvious that despite any negatives a woman may perceive with an implant, the actual experience with one has the potential to be the most memorable sex of her life.

My wife was done with sex by the time I began to consider an implant. She made it clear that if I were to get an implant it would be for me, and not for her. I thought she might change her mind so I went ahead. Then I had a stroke that left me with no interest in sex whatever. My wife was not happy about the stroke, of course, but was by no means unhappy that I wasn't going to be bugging her for sex.

For us, more frequently than not, sex is a true communion of our beings. This might sound like something you’d read in a women’s magazine, but it’s what we have and I would not describe it any other way. I realize that some men’s wives lose interest; it is my hope that we will have our sex to share forever.

I read this somewhere and kept it. A more colorful description of what could be and what we have:
Sex is exquisitely, powerfully, terrifyingly enjoyable. Sex is an overwhelming explosion of raw physical pleasure that consumes you in its fire and leaves you shaking, breathless, and incoherent. Sex strips you naked and exposes your core being directly to the unfiltered light of another human being. Sex destroys pretense. Sex compels authenticity. Sex is amazing.

So, my wife looked at my implant as a means to an ends... to continue to enjoy this part of our relationship. And she is delighted.

My wife loves it.

We enjoy ours. Sometimes for hours and hours and over and over again.

She just got back to being able to give oral and says pumped I feel no different than my prior ed self.

No squishy erection in her mouth. Just something hard for her to play with as long as she wants. If I finish and she takes that in it just makes her hornier and we go to penetrative sex. It is nice to hear I want you inside me now and I can make that happen.then we just keep going. Normally I can go again.

For me the implant did not affect me at all except I have to pump it up. She likes it hard so no issue with her. I have no problem finishing so that may help with her feeling accomplished. With ed I rarely finished orally, and it made her feel like she was doing something wrong. If I did get hard enough to get inside it was a race to finish before I softened up and slipped out.

We both finish now and keep going till we want to stop. We are using this thing up until she has her next brain surgery in a couple months.

It still puts it in perspective for me. Having someone cut open my dick will never top having someone cut her skull open. But we both enjoy the hell out out of this thing. Made us a lot closer over past 6 months. Sex is not everything but it helps to be intimate. You never know what life holds.

My wife and I have been married for 52 years, I am 75 and she is 73. We have always had a very active sex life. I started having ED problems about 20 yrs. ago. Tried pills but hated the side effects, then tried Trimix injections and they worked great and I had good hard erections that lasted 2 plus hours, and over the 12+ years I used them, the injections also added over an inch to my girth, 6.5+" . But like most things, nothing last forever. Slowly over the last year or so, I started having problems keeping it hard after 15 or 20 minutes, I would just go to a semi. Of course, this went into my head that I was going to fail and I did. So our "sex" was hand jobs (wife does not do oral ), and a vibrator for about a year. Then I found out about implants and did some research, watched some videos of the procedure and gave it a lot of thought. I kind of let it roll around in my head for a couple of week then decided it was time to tell my wife what I had decided to do. Her first reaction was to say that I did not have to do it for her, and I responded by saying that it would be for both of us. From that point on she was behind me all the way. It was a great decision, I love my implant. I have had no problems with it, really like my "New" flaccid size, and the fact that I can make it as hard as I want whenever I want for as long as I want, what more could you ask for.
If you would like anymore of my thoughts on this or would like to see the results, please PM me.
Andy

My wife of 56 years said she had no interest in an implant. I did it for myself. About once a month she gets extremely horny. She really, really, really likes it at those times.

We have been married 46 years and I agree with Happy and oldbeek did it for us but for myself too ED robs a guy and leaves you depressed not wanting to try sex. Our sex is better than ever and she was supporting through it all. Both 100% happy with mine.