mod123 wrote:If you have had lifelong PE and now ED and if you opt for a implant, does the implant conceal the PE issue? Normally after you cum you go soft almost immediately but having an implant you can keep on going after cumming if I am correct or is over after cumming the 1st time?
Can others with both PE and ED confirm their experiences? Did your implant help you overcome your insecurities over PE? What was sex like after having an implant and still suffering from PE?
Welcome to the forum, mod123
I had lifelong PE for reasons I will explain further down my post (where I refer to the "path").
Hrc714's experience is the same as mine. My PE went away after implant. I suspect due to nerve trauma, not damage (as Waynetho mentions, this did not happen to me, but it sometimes does, particularly if a prostatectomy was involved). The delay abated over the following year. Soon after my implant I sometimes did not orgasm/ejaculate at all. This did no bother me since my partner did, and that was what I was after with the implant anyway.
(Aside) I often thought that if I were offered the Faustian bargain of being able to stay erect long enough to give my partner orgasms, but would never ever in my life be able to cum, I would make the trade. Of course, if that ever became a reality, I might, as Faust did, regret the bargain. As I said, though, I cum often enough to be satisfied and as the weeks go on, cum more often, satisfactorisly.
Two years after my operation I am able to cum with regularity and rarely do not cum. But, thankfully, usually AFTER my partner has done so. Still, she has never run out of orgasms before me.
My PE was not like indusvalley's, as mine was lifelong. From my youth, my penis would enthusiastically cum. This in not uncommon for boys. As I matured, my penile enthusiasm abated and I was able to stay erect for longer periods of time, even inside a vagna. But before long, I moved right in to indusvalley's description. I would get erect and then the erection would collapse unless stimulation would continue. Vigorously. Such stimulation inevitably crossed the threshold to cumming. So, I would attempt to stay in the path. Stray off to the left (stop stimulation to avoid cumming) and the erection would collapse. Stray to the right (continue stimulation to maintain the erection) and cum, leading to refractory collapse. As the years went by, the path became narrower and narrower until it "petered" out altogether.
As GT1956 posted, having an implant allows one to delay cumming by simply stopping stimulation. The erection does not collapse (though your spongiosum tissue might lose engorgement, that is not a vital factor in penetration). (Note: Some women can tell vaginally when your glans is engorged. But they have to really be paying pay attention.) The other viable option is to go on ahead and cum. You may lose (as I do) energy, but if you are young, energetic and enthusiastic you can put off the sleepiness and keep on, since the erection (without spongiosum engorgement) WILL endure. It is even possible to pull out, change positions and continue on. Also, your semen will provide some additional lubrication.
And, yes, training yourself to ignore your past coital failures is VERY possible...and gratifying! You can get out of that run GT1956 mentions and get on the smooth highway to cumming for BOTH of you. After decades of E.D., my tendency to EXPECT coital failure persisted for at least 3 years and I still have it in the back of my mind. But it is getting much better now, with the help of a good woman.