What is it really going to be like?
Posted: Wed May 25, 2022 2:56 pm
Three weeks from tomorrow I'm scheduled to have a Coloplast implanted by Dr. Christine in Birmingham, Alabama. He said I "need to wrap my mind around the fact that I will lose some size" or he won't do the operation. Then he followed up by saying some of his guys say they don't lose size. It's just that "a few guys have made his life miserable". I told him I'm not worried about losing a quarter of an inch.
Two years ago I had a "nerve sparing" radical prostatectomy at the age of 59; I just turned 61 and I have no erectile function (I guess I'm supposed to be glad I'm cancer free & have no other issues). I watched my father died from prostate cancer and felt like I was doing the right thing, and I believe that I did. Prior to the surgery I had a very active sex life with my girlfriend. Trimix worked / works, but three times per week on a pre scheduled basis is not at all consistent with how our lives were. Also, when my urologist, the one that did the prostatectomy, educated me on how to give the shots, he drew a picture of a penis & showed me the area to inject. I said "is it self explanatory?" And he said yes! (I had never put a needle in any part of my body prior to that.) Eventually, I found the correct method on the internet, but not before causing some scare tissue, etc... That has healed now and is not an issue. At least half the time after using Trimix and having sex, it felt like I got stung my three yellow jackets on my scrotum (not during sex)!
Since three weeks after the prostatecomy, I've been using the vacuum pump multiple times per day for rehab, so I haven't lost any size, and I used the Trimix quite a bit too, as well as a daily 5mg Cialis.
This whole situation took a toll on our relationship and it eventually ended; I'll take the blame. This makes the whole thing that much more difficult for me; I'm single and would love to find a wife before I'm too old to enjoy life. So, yes, I'm freaking out! I told Dr. Christine that I've had a lot of surgeries but I've never felt like this. He said "you'll do fine".
What is this thing going to be like? What is my penis going to feel like, to me and to my girlfriend? How will it compare to a naturally functioning penis? Will it feel cold? Will it feel normal to my girlfriend, or will it be noticeably harder than natural? I read one guy's post that said his ex wife called it a "skin dildo"! That's not very encouraging. Apparently, I have no nerve function. My sensitivity if normal and my orgasms are fine. Will it move around (up, down, sideways...) like a normal penis? What are the chances of either losing length, girth, or maybe even gaining girth? I've read all the stats, but some are conflicting.
I really appreciate all the candid information I've read here and hope you guys can tell me what it's really going to be like. Two years ago I never thought I would be in this situation, and even after the prostatecomy I felt sure I would regain my erectile function based on everything I had read.
Two years ago I had a "nerve sparing" radical prostatectomy at the age of 59; I just turned 61 and I have no erectile function (I guess I'm supposed to be glad I'm cancer free & have no other issues). I watched my father died from prostate cancer and felt like I was doing the right thing, and I believe that I did. Prior to the surgery I had a very active sex life with my girlfriend. Trimix worked / works, but three times per week on a pre scheduled basis is not at all consistent with how our lives were. Also, when my urologist, the one that did the prostatectomy, educated me on how to give the shots, he drew a picture of a penis & showed me the area to inject. I said "is it self explanatory?" And he said yes! (I had never put a needle in any part of my body prior to that.) Eventually, I found the correct method on the internet, but not before causing some scare tissue, etc... That has healed now and is not an issue. At least half the time after using Trimix and having sex, it felt like I got stung my three yellow jackets on my scrotum (not during sex)!
Since three weeks after the prostatecomy, I've been using the vacuum pump multiple times per day for rehab, so I haven't lost any size, and I used the Trimix quite a bit too, as well as a daily 5mg Cialis.
This whole situation took a toll on our relationship and it eventually ended; I'll take the blame. This makes the whole thing that much more difficult for me; I'm single and would love to find a wife before I'm too old to enjoy life. So, yes, I'm freaking out! I told Dr. Christine that I've had a lot of surgeries but I've never felt like this. He said "you'll do fine".
What is this thing going to be like? What is my penis going to feel like, to me and to my girlfriend? How will it compare to a naturally functioning penis? Will it feel cold? Will it feel normal to my girlfriend, or will it be noticeably harder than natural? I read one guy's post that said his ex wife called it a "skin dildo"! That's not very encouraging. Apparently, I have no nerve function. My sensitivity if normal and my orgasms are fine. Will it move around (up, down, sideways...) like a normal penis? What are the chances of either losing length, girth, or maybe even gaining girth? I've read all the stats, but some are conflicting.
I really appreciate all the candid information I've read here and hope you guys can tell me what it's really going to be like. Two years ago I never thought I would be in this situation, and even after the prostatecomy I felt sure I would regain my erectile function based on everything I had read.