smphead wrote:Bro's,
Life is not all about sex. In fact, the average male in his 40's has only 1,33 times sex a week, which last appr. about 15 minutes a session. I know, you, the Frank talk member is not the Joe Average and has at least 6 hot long sessions a week, with 7 seven different girls.
But imagine you are the Joe Average or just an average single Bro who is lucky if he even has once in a while a hook up. Is it worth the hassle?
With hassle i mean, the recovery, the costs, replacements, problems with clothes, walking with a semi-erect, embarrassing moments, etc.
Just wondering how you guys things about this perspective.
I think I am your average guy. I had ED most of my life (albeit unrecognied). After my implant, the stretched feeling in my penis is pleasurable. The ability to have penetrative sex (as opposed to cunnilungus and fellatio) is important to me, but is not central to my being. I have sex with my girlfriend once of twice a week Never more than 30 minutes at a time (and 10-15 minutes of actual penis-in-vagina action, at most). So, sex is NOT a major driving force in my life.
Sexual congress is an important (not the only, of course) part of emotional intimacy. That emotional connection to one's significan other IS a vital part of most human beings' life.
Sex was not high up on priorities before my implant but It HAS moved up in importance a few steps because now, I CAN. (Just like a non-singer would not see singing as not very important before discovering he had a loverly voice. With that discovered ability, singing woud moveup in ranking, naturally.)
Dealing with the other factors you mentioned: The cost is about the same as a decent new car favored by men in mid-life crisis and has about the same service life. Dresing around an implanted penis is no more a problem than dressing around a penis that occasionally spontaneously erects. A change in wardrobe is not usually required, but, as with any new item, sometimes a man will obsess over maintaining it. (Polishing his new car obsessively vs finding comfortable underwear with the same obsession) Normal human behavior, not limited to his sex organs. My penis is a bit larger with implant deflated than my natural penis was in a flaccid state, but not significantly.
It may seem that members here are obsessed with their penises, but consider this: This is a forum devoted almost exclusively to penises with problems. So, (as you pointed out) the subject matter of most postings here will, perforce, be on that subject. These men also have other hobbies, values, concerns (and other obsessions, too).
Yes, the hassle of getting my implant was worth it. And, I believe I am not ourside the norm of the gerneral population of men.
Thanks for asking such a probing question. Every man considering an implant (penile, aural, dental, whatever) should weigh the drawbacks, benefits, sacrifices and costs.