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Hello Community, I come from Germany, I am 45 years old and wanted to share my experiences, or hear others about experiences. I myself have a "back disease". I myself have been missing 3 vertebrae since birth, which in turn has to follow in the short form that I have been suffering from ED almost since birth. I think it's a lot for the first time, at least, because I can only remember darkly, in my teenage years openly when it came to graduating from high school.
It wasn't super hard, but something like 60%, but I had never thought about it. I had a few girlfriends until I was 18 but it was all about petting. At 22, however, I met my ex-wife (with whom I had been together for 22 years). She was really more than understanding and loved me too, so she went through everything. Sex was ALWAYS so bad. Halfway he just got hard and then everything went very fast. Quite often, however, not.
Es war sehr demutiviere. It was very nerve-wracking, but I've always been very, very confident, so we always "survived" it. I then went to the urologist myself. He gave me pills, which then went for a while. I mean for us it was a big step, from very bad sex to relatively normal in missionary. But no change of position. I had inquired myself and went back to the urologist. I asked him about injections. (By the way, there was never a test in any form at the time, which in retrospect was just laughable, but you didn't know any better) In any case, the injections hit like a bomb. I have been using them for 7 years. It was like a new life, especially at the beginning. Sex was possible in all situations. incredible. I am someone who knows very well how he reacts to injections, so it is not a problem for me either.
To inject 3-5 times a week or sometimes 2x within 24 hours. No NW, no scar tissue. I'll have that checked. We even got pregnant, but then we lost the children.
You get a different perspective through something like this, because you were already suffering until then. But that's not what it's about, it's also about perspectives. Since we became more and more sexually open-minded, we were even on the road as swingers. Later I separated from my wife, but that had nothing to do with sex. As a single I have already met with some ladies, but I did not want anything solid. I am very skilled with the injections.
So I could always time it very well, and never a lady noticed anything. It was similar with swinging. My wife knew of course but I told them that it was related to my back. Currently I read a lot about franktalk and am very grateful to have found this page because in Germany everything is seen rather gloomy.
I noticed that there are always the same questions and I think it's important to just accept that no one is the same and everyone reacts differently. Every person should go astray for himself what he wants and also see the disadvantages. For my part, I have to visit a urologist in the summer and talk to him about an implant. Because I often have sex and then bothers me the bottom line is that being limited. Because you can't do it as often as you'd like. At the moment, only the "normal" state is holding me back. By this I mean that it takes 15 minutes until he is hard. The women like to make him hard in time. I would not have this with an implant. But here you just have to weigh up and it is now more important to me to be able to do more often than to rely on the normal mechanism.
Women are really understanding about this from a certain age. You shouldn't worry about that either. Because you only make yourself crazy and can not change it. Of course I would rather get a natural erection. But what does that mean, I never really had it. And sex is really an important component, but not everything and you see a lot differently when you have experienced a lot. It's true, you can wish for a lot, but that doesn't help, so you have to think about the best options and go astray for yourself. And whether injections or implants.. The main thing is that you are sure, because believe me, better to make two compromises here or there and put up with it than to torture yourself again and again for weeks, why didn't he get hard, because that's the alternative. Thank you for all your useful tips. I just wanted to say not to think too much. and only be negative. But just take life as it is and make the best of it. Then it will be much better. And having sex at all with restrictions is so much better than none at all. Especially if you can do it with several women at the same time !!!

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lagerfeld2306 wrote:Hello Community, I come from Germany, I am 45 years old and wanted to share my experiences, or hear others about experiences. I myself have a "back disease". I myself have been missing 3 vertebrae since birth, which in turn has to follow in the short form that I have been suffering from ED almost since birth. I think it's a lot for the first time, at least, because I can only remember darkly, in my teenage years openly when it came to graduating from high school.
It wasn't super hard, but something like 60%, but I had never thought about it. I had a few girlfriends until I was 18 but it was all about petting. At 22, however, I met my ex-wife (with whom I had been together for 22 years). She was really more than understanding and loved me too, so she went through everything. Sex was ALWAYS so bad. Halfway he just got hard and then everything went very fast. Quite often, however, not.
Es war sehr demutiviere. It was very nerve-wracking, but I've always been very, very confident, so we always "survived" it. I then went to the urologist myself. He gave me pills, which then went for a while. I mean for us it was a big step, from very bad sex to relatively normal in missionary. But no change of position. I had inquired myself and went back to the urologist. I asked him about injections. (By the way, there was never a test in any form at the time, which in retrospect was just laughable, but you didn't know any better) In any case, the injections hit like a bomb. I have been using them for 7 years. It was like a new life, especially at the beginning. Sex was possible in all situations. incredible. I am someone who knows very well how he reacts to injections, so it is not a problem for me either.
To inject 3-5 times a week or sometimes 2x within 24 hours. No NW, no scar tissue. I'll have that checked. We even got pregnant, but then we lost the children.
You get a different perspective through something like this, because you were already suffering until then. But that's not what it's about, it's also about perspectives. Since we became more and more sexually open-minded, we were even on the road as swingers. Later I separated from my wife, but that had nothing to do with sex. As a single I have already met with some ladies, but I did not want anything solid. I am very skilled with the injections.
So I could always time it very well, and never a lady noticed anything. It was similar with swinging. My wife knew of course but I told them that it was related to my back. Currently I read a lot about franktalk and am very grateful to have found this page because in Germany everything is seen rather gloomy.
I noticed that there are always the same questions and I think it's important to just accept that no one is the same and everyone reacts differently. Every person should go astray for himself what he wants and also see the disadvantages. For my part, I have to visit a urologist in the summer and talk to him about an implant. Because I often have sex and then bothers me the bottom line is that being limited. Because you can't do it as often as you'd like. At the moment, only the "normal" state is holding me back. By this I mean that it takes 15 minutes until he is hard. The women like to make him hard in time. I would not have this with an implant. But here you just have to weigh up and it is now more important to me to be able to do more often than to rely on the normal mechanism.
Women are really understanding about this from a certain age. You shouldn't worry about that either. Because you only make yourself crazy and can not change it. Of course I would rather get a natural erection. But what does that mean, I never really had it. And sex is really an important component, but not everything and you see a lot differently when you have experienced a lot. It's true, you can wish for a lot, but that doesn't help, so you have to think about the best options and go astray for yourself. And whether injections or implants.. The main thing is that you are sure, because believe me, better to make two compromises here or there and put up with it than to torture yourself again and again for weeks, why didn't he get hard, because that's the alternative. Thank you for all your useful tips. I just wanted to say not to think too much. and only be negative. But just take life as it is and make the best of it. Then it will be much better. And having sex at all with restrictions is so much better than none at all. Especially if you can do it with several women at the same time !!!

Hello. I saw your previous posts that you use Bimix(Phentolamine and Papaverine). How did you find that in Germany? I am from another european country and I've been told there is only Alprostadil(Caverject) in all Europe. Do you get it from US or is it available in Germany as well?

No that is not correct. In Germany it's called Duomix and can be sold by a large pharmacy. But here you need a prescription from a German urologist.

What does “no NW” mean?

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your post serves as a reminder of that ED certainly knows no international boundaries! Welcome, brother.

I have a similar background as yours. That is, using injections until they stopped working for me. Was diagnosed with venous leakage, and had an implant eight weeks ago. things are going very well, and in a little more than a week, I go to Thailand to see my girlfriend there, where I am very excited to inaugurate my new, bionic penis!

Like you, my ex-wife, and I had considerable experience in the swinger world. And, like you, we did not part for that reason , and I consider that time in my life is really almost magic. We had lots of great experiences. But the worst experience was performance anxiety. As you know, in those settings, there is lots of opportunity, and it is so frustrating to know that you were a kid in a candy store, but there’s a good chance he won’t be able to take any of the candy off-the-shelf!. Sometimes lucky. Sometimes not.

Now, I am so excited to put that performance anxiety behind me for good!

Best wishes to you.

Thank you for your answers. Of course, it may make a difference whether you have had a normal erection for years or never. But in general, you can't change things anymore and you just have to make the best of it. I simply believe that the psyche is at least 50%. And if it fits, it is only very marginal with all the small restrictions/compromises.