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Hi everyone,
I was lucky enough to get a great implant in August 2019, when I was 36 years old. I had previously really struggled with ED for the previous 4 years, it only getting worse the last few. I put my life on hold in some ways because of the ED. I turned down many women. I was likely in my physical peak from 32-36. Now, I have just turned 38, am having relationship issues with long-time girlfriend, and am just feeling like I got it too late. Did anyone else struggle with this and how did you make peace with it? No, I'm not falling apart in any other way yet. I'm in a great position, dick wise, to, if this relationship falls apart, date other women. I just feel like ED robbed me of a lot of time.

I know, I am lucky to have the implant! I know it logically. I just can't shake this feeling that has gotten stronger over the past few months as birthday has come.

Any thoughts or ways to re-direct my thinking?

Yes, ED robbed you of some time BUT you didn't wait that long and you are still young.

You can't live in the past.

Just focus on the present and, if your current relationship ends, find someone else to enjoy life with.

Good luck!

My man! I’m 63 and living my best bionic life! You have a LOT of life and great sex in FRONT of you. Don’t miss it by looking backward. Ruminating about the past serves you not one iota of good.

We all have stuff we wish would’ve been different, or wish we could change. The healthiest perspective is just so simple:

The past. Let it go.

Don't think of what you lost, think of what's to come. Even at 68 I was so happy to find a solution to my ED. Hated pills and injections and if I had known what I know now that first Viagra would have never happened. Yes, I regret it didn't happen sooner, but then lots of this info wasn't easy to find 15-20 years ago.

Yeah, given your age I understand your reflections at this time. but honestly, a year from now you won't recognize the 'voice' of your post.

Time has a funny way of smoothing over the bumpy parts of your past. You are very young, have a system in place to avoid the normal effects of aging on your penis, and will make up for any perceived 'lost time' by living life to the fullest, while other men are slowing down and dealing with what you had to but only too early.

It's ok to reflect and even grieve a bit, but it's not where you are going to stay, mentally or emotionally. It's impossible. The river will continue to pull you downstream with the rest of us and you will do your part to make it great. Chin up, and keep your thoughts on your future goals and plans.

aslanglobal wrote:Hi everyone,
I was lucky enough to get a great implant in August 2019, when I was 36 years old. I had previously really struggled with ED for the previous 4 years, it only getting worse the last few. I put my life on hold in some ways because of the ED. I turned down many women. I was likely in my physical peak from 32-36. Now, I have just turned 38, am having relationship issues with long-time girlfriend, and am just feeling like I got it too late. Did anyone else struggle with this and how did you make peace with it? No, I'm not falling apart in any other way yet. I'm in a great position, dick wise, to, if this relationship falls apart, date other women. I just feel like ED robbed me of a lot of time.

I know, I am lucky to have the implant! I know it logically. I just can't shake this feeling that has gotten stronger over the past few months as birthday has come.

Any thoughts or ways to re-direct my thinking?

I feel for your situation man, perhaps some more detail would help in giving advice. Personally, I had peyronies from age 29 -34, I just got implanted one month ago. I can tell you in those 4.5 years I had a great physique, was wanted by women, and unfortunately turned down many relationships and one night stands. I also neglected my mental health and studies.

In saying that, I kind of empathise what you mean by lost time. Other members may be married for years and enjoying their married life, they already lived their good single years. But, we lost some of the best years of our life to peyronies and depression.

The way I handle it, is by excelling in every other aspect of life, finances, physique, intelligence etc. Be the best version of yourself that you can, it's never too late. If this relationship of yours doesn't work out, and you peak in other aspects, women will flock to you and you'll easily make up for any lost time.

Either way, as hard as it is, try to focus on any positive in your life, know everything happens for a reason. Peyronies while took a lot of time of my life, has definitely made me a better, wiser, stronger person.

Feel free to vent, or give more details, will try to give more accurate advice. My inbox is also open, myself and some other members are looking at making a men's health group where we can get on zoom calls and just discuss mental health, peyronies and women.

Hope this helps!

J

Aslan,

You are getting some great advice. You had a problem, you studied and solved your problem, why are you looking backward, you have a great future. Every man on this board has lost time to ED, you aren't any different, losing to ED hurts at any age, getting your dick back is a triumph at any age, you should be one of the happiest men on Earth. I agree with others, just become the best man you can be and go forward.

I needed the implant at least 5 years before I got it. If I'd gotten it when I first needed it I might have had a chance to use it, so I'd have to say I regret not getting it sooner.