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Heading towards implant soon and suddenly realized that it has been it's been years since I fucked, and I remember what a workout it could be. This slightly overweight dad-bod could probably use a tuneup before hitting the road again.

So, for those of you already on the other side of surgery a question: how can I best get back in shape for sex?

Good for you wanting to improve not only your sex life but your physical condition as well.

There’s lots of guys on here who are some pretty serious gym-guys, triathletes, etc. I’m not at that level, i just am a regular in the gym for years and have the corresponding level of good health. As always, it’s about diet and exercise.

I really did not like how the implant recovery kept me a full month and a half out of the gym. At 10+ weeks, i’m back at it, gradually returning to my pre surgery levels of training. Not there, but that’s ok. Feels good to be moving again.

When i was less than a month out i started walking consistently. It’s a great starting point.

First was simply 1 mile a day. I still was partially inflated to 60%. That was annoying mostly because i had to wear a jockstrap over my underwear to hide the bulge, plus i didn’t care for the extra pressure on my already pressurized self. But did it anyway.

About 3 or 4 days of that, then increased to 1 1/2 miles daily. By the 6 week point i was walking 2 times daily for a total of 2-3 miles. After that, i personally do not increase distance, only the pace and intensity of my walking. Long distance bores me.

My opinion is that walking is good for your recovery in that it keeps things moving in your scrotum as the pump is settling into its new home. I’ve read here on the forum about guys with “stuck pumps”, fixed to some tissue in the scrotum. I can’t help but feel walking can only help in this regard.

At 8 weeks postop i stopped walking and began using the elliptical at my gym. 20-30 minutes, only increasing intensity over time. At this point i started weight training again.

If you’re open to the gym and you don’t have experience, you’ll likely be able to enlist the aid of a trainer in your gym, there are lots of books online of course, and youtube especially has some “workouts for older men” videos.

One book i might suggest is entitled: “Younger Next Year” by Chris Crowley. Great book for someone getting back in the game.

Also, i’d advise you to go very, very easy as you start. Ridiculously easy those first few times. Don’t break a sweat, don’t even get your heart rate up all that much. The idea is just to wake-up your body from its lethargy, and send it the message “now now, this isn’t SO bad”. Because push too hard, too fast, and your body will start talking back: “C’mon now, you’re sore today, this can wait until tomorrow….(repeat daily).

I say the heaviest weight I lift all day is the weight of my ass off the couch and onto the gym. Just show up for yourself. Baby steps. Consistent.

Great advice Tihlandbound!! Many years ago I was a gym nut but life got busy…. Since implant I’ve realized just how out of shape I am. I’m starting mostly on cardio…. Seems I run out of air before my muscles give out so that’s my goal. Walk, walk, walk further, walk faster! Thanks for your input

I can't speak for anyone else, because I only know what works for me, but I find as I get older (I'm 48) that the best combo is paying attention to diet and doing some light weight lifting. Nothing crazy with the weights , just enough to stay limber and keep some strength. I use dumbells at home so I don't need a gym membership. Also I like to a bit of yoga for the core. And water intake is essential.

Diet is reinforced by not only watching one's weight, but also paying attention to body fat. I try to keep it under 20%.

And now for some personal beliefs that are more controversial.

I no longer drink alcohol at all. However I'm not totally sober. I use marijuana because it's legal here in Illinois. I would like to say I'm moderate and I'm struggling to use less. But I do believe that marijuana is far better than alcohol for an older man trying to stay in shape.

And one more thing I'm trying to be more disciplined about is semen retention. When I don't release as often I get pent up sexual energy and that increased sex drive gives me more energy and makes me feel younger.

One thing I don't bother with anymore is cardio

Rider1400 wrote:Great advice Tihlandbound!! Many years ago I was a gym nut but life got busy…. Since implant I’ve realized just how out of shape I am. I’m starting mostly on cardio…. Seems I run out of air before my muscles give out so that’s my goal. Walk, walk, walk further, walk faster! Thanks for your input

New bionic me realizes that i need to step up my cardio. As advertised, i can now keep my duck up endlessly. It’s been taking me a long time to orgasm, sometimes more than an hour of solid fucking. Let me tell ‘ya, THATS a cardio workout! I have to surrender to getting winded and roll over on my back and let my lady take over.

What’s great now is changing positions doesn’t cause me to lose my wood. I have to remind myself of this, that it’s ok to relax. It’s not going away.

Glad you asked! Everyone needs to realize this. If you're willing to get an implant shoved up your balls to cure erectile dysfunction and finally have a dick that works, sex will be a whole lot better and easier to find if the dick is also attached to a healthy body too.

If you don't mind reading my story, figured there might be decent advice somewhere in here for anyone trying to lose weight. This is what worked for me.

First, brain injury Oct. 2014. Me in coma:


Alcohol withdrawal led to seizure, fell face first on concrete surface walking to a gas station. Here's the medical report of the accident if you'd like to read. https://i.imgur.com/9Il0OfS.jpeg

Next is me after brain injury becoming morbidly obese while having little to no self-awareness of my awful physical health. Pic from 2016:


Geeze, these are embarrasing:


Next, it's 2018 and I move to a new city to get my masters degree. Happens to be a large state park a 3 minute drive away with tons of hiking trails. I figured I need to exercise every day, so I decide, make 10k steps on my Fitbit while hiking every day.


During this time I'm counting my calories closely. I was only making a few different meals then, so I just made the same meal and always using about the same everything and you'd know the calorie count. It's not hard. I used fatsecret.com to keep track, but figure there's lots of similar sites.

If you're not aware, calories really are essentially the only thing that matters at all if you're trying to lose weight. It's CICO - calories in, calories out. If you burn more calories than you consume, you lose weight. If you don't, you don't. Right there I just solved the entire billion dollar field of diet bullshit in two sentences.

Every time I reached a new number, to 179.5 from 180+, I'd order a pizza or something and splurge for 1 night, but the day after, back to my diet.

In the next spring I went back to hiking, and decided since I didn't get to 100 days last year I need to hike 10k steps 100 days exactly in a row (for full disclosure on a few days with heavy rain I just walked around sidewalks near my place).



Then in 2020 after losing all the weight and finishing school I start going to the gym. First it was Monday/Wednesday/Fridays at Planet Fitness. I use all the machines at their 30-minute workouts and then Stairmasters then back to machines. First time getting on Stairmaster I planned to go 5 minutes. I made it to 2 minutes and felt, "crap. This hard." But I decided that if I could do 2 minutes, the next time I could go 3 minutes. You can always make it one minute more. I did that until I got to 30 minutes, then I started the next highest level/speed at maybe 10 minutes adding 1 minute more every time until I make it back to 30, then start again at level 12+. (Made it to 30 minutes of every speed up to 19. After I finished 19 I was gonna do 20 but wussed out cause it was freaking hard lol. And learned that much intensive cardio wasn't even something my body needed anymore, aerobic vs anaerobic or something.)

At some point I upgraded my gym visits to all 5 weekdays, Mon/Tues/Wed/Thur/Fri. But then later at yet another point I read how the American Heart Association recommends 150 minutes of cardio exercise a week, so I might as well Stairmaster 25 mins every day = 175 minutes cardio exercise every week.

In conclusion, I'd say fixing my physical health has had a pretty major improvement in my life, so I'd encourage all others out there to do the same, and you'll be really, really happy that you did.

Great advice everyone! I started to respond to OP last night and stopped myself, knowing I wasn't qualified.

This is my main struggle post-implant. I am so bloody far out of shape I am gassing out after 15 minutes.

Now, my wife prefers it this way but I find it embarrassing (my wife is a machine, 15 minutes = 3 orgasms and she says she's done...). I have been paying for a membership to a great gym for the last six months, been there three times, and not lately. Unacceptable.

Yeah, time to just get after it. So I guess I offer OP my signature advice on every issue - "the secret is there is no secret." Let's get off our asses and start moving!

Good luck my brother - we're in it together. Make a start, make that start a habit.

2435tjklAS wrote:
In conclusion, I'd say fixing my physical health has had a pretty major improvement in my life, so I'd encourage all others out there to do the same, and you'll be really, really happy that you did.

I am happy for your recovery and healthy progress. I am truly impressed. And inspired.

Your cat in the lower left corner of your latest picture, though, seems to have a different comment.

Lost Sheep wrote:
I am happy for your recovery and healthy progress. I am truly impressed. And inspired.

Your cat in the lower left corner of your latest picture, though, seems to have a different comment.

Hah, thanks a lot! It's actually the cat yawning. He's usually in a much better mood.

2435tjklAS wrote:

That’s a remarkably inspirational post my friend. It’s a way at times to lose perspective given our unique life struggles, but your post reminds me of how fortunate i’ve been, and not to squander it.