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I've asked this question more than a few times in some ongoing threads, but it's still not clear to me what to expect, since I absolutely don't find pleasure in receiving a blowjob, in fact I feel annoyed, I would like to ask this question to veterans for at least 4/5 months then, this is the question: on a scale from 0 to 10, classifying the pre-implantation blow job as 10, as for the dates given to the blow job with implant, I ask you to be realistic without getting caught up in easy enthusiasm, thanks.

Not sure how this is different than the other thread. If you're setting pre-implant as a 10 then post-implant is at least 20 for me. The past few years pre-implant blowjobs always resulted in a limp dick in her mouth. First post-implant bj last night was great in comparison. I still have some numbness on the underside of my penis or I would rate it even higher, but no problem cuming.

If I had to guess you are going to get the same types of answers as in the other threads. Some people are happy with bjs post implant, some are not for various reasons.

What answer are you looking for?

Reshuffle wrote:Not sure how this is different than the other thread. If you're setting pre-implant as a 10 then post-implant is at least 20 for me. The past few years pre-implant blowjobs always resulted in a limp dick in her mouth. First post-implant bj last night was great in comparison. I still have some numbness on the underside of my penis or I would rate it even higher, but no problem cuming.

If I had to guess you are going to get the same types of answers as in the other threads. Some people are happy with bjs post implant, some are not for various reasons.

What answer are you looking for?

in pre-implantation I had no problems getting hard for a blowjob with pills, I'm mostly trying to find out if the pleasure of the blowjob with implant is the same as the pre-implantation, at the moment 10 weeks apart from my implant I don't feel pleasure, on the contrary it gives me annoyance, before without implant it was great, i stopped only to not have an orgasm before fucking

Pre-implant, starting with a blowjob tended to make me cum too soon.
I'd have to stop her before I started feeling the urge.
Oddly, I could fuck anywhere from 30 minutes to an hour without cumming. Often she'd have to finish me with a blowjob.
I've always loved cumming in my girl's mouth, especially those that swallow.

With the implant, it's pretty much the same. Blowjobs still feel amazing, but now I also like to cum inside her pussy, and continue fucking until I'm ready for her to suck off my second shot.

Bigdave wrote:Pre-implant, starting with a blowjob tended to make me cum too soon.
I'd have to stop her before I started feeling the urge.
Oddly, I could fuck anywhere from 30 minutes to an hour without cumming. Often she'd have to finish me with a blowjob.
I've always loved cumming in my girl's mouth, especially those that swallow.

With the implant, it's pretty much the same. Blowjobs still feel amazing, but now I also like to cum inside her pussy, and continue fucking until I'm ready for her to suck off my second shot.

my wife has never allowed me to cum in her mouth, i used to go to escorts and i choose them all with cum in the mouth, now i'm even scared when they take it in my mouth because i feel annoyed, when i fuck i can't get inflated to the max or almost beyond 30/35 minutes, if I don't reach orgasm in those times I don't reach it anymore due to the annoyance that turns into pain, I've never had orgasm delay problems, in fact I used to put the spray or take dapoxetine to delay orgasm, it's great for you that you had surgery after me and that you recovered before me and great, I hope to recover the oral otherwise I'll end up hating this implant

frank66665 wrote:

Bigdave wrote:Pre-implant, starting with a blowjob tended to make me cum too soon.
I'd have to stop her before I started feeling the urge.
Oddly, I could fuck anywhere from 30 minutes to an hour without cumming. Often she'd have to finish me with a blowjob.
I've always loved cumming in my girl's mouth, especially those that swallow.

With the implant, it's pretty much the same. Blowjobs still feel amazing, but now I also like to cum inside her pussy, and continue fucking until I'm ready for her to suck off my second shot.

my wife has never allowed me to cum in her mouth, i used to go to escorts and i choose them all with cum in the mouth, now i'm even scared when they take it in my mouth because i feel annoyed, when i fuck i can't get inflated to the max or almost beyond 30/35 minutes, if I don't reach orgasm in those times I don't reach it anymore due to the annoyance that turns into pain, I've never had orgasm delay problems, in fact I used to put the spray or take dapoxetine to delay orgasm, it's great for you that you had surgery after me and that you recovered before me and great, I hope to recover the oral otherwise I'll end up hating this implant

So when you say annoyance and lack of pleasure, what exactly do you feel that you don't experience now? Is it that part of your dick is numb from feeling? For the most part that tends to come back over time, although some people it seems to take longer. Is it only a problem with BJs, not with other types of stimulation/sex?

If it's not numbness, then I'm not sure what else physically would be caused by the implant. Arousal issues and other psychogenic causes of it not being pleasurable would be my only guess. I know some people have issues with 'connecting' with their implant and having it feel like it's a part of their body. It's a major change and how we feel about ourselves and the implant after surgery including feelings of regret or grief about what we used to have I think are more common then is often talked about.

Reshuffle wrote:

frank66665 wrote:
If it's not numbness, then I'm not sure what else physically would be caused by the implant. Arousal issues and other psychogenic causes of it not being pleasurable would be my only guess. I know some people have issues with 'connecting' with their implant and having it feel like it's a part of their body. It's a major change and how we feel about ourselves and the implant after surgery including feelings of regret or grief about what we used to have I think are more common then is often talked about.

Exactly. What he says about “connecting” with your new reality takes time. Many past threads on the forum members have reported that it takes some time for it to “become a part of me”. These early months are a time of adaptation. You’re weeks in, some of those authors report 6 months…a year…until it feels completely “normal”. Maybe you’re one of those people.

If you are wanting BJs to feel the same, now, at barely 12 weeks postop as they did before, you are inviting disappointment. I would caution you that since you have made several other posts about this “possibly being the worst decision of my life”, and “i wish i would not have done it”, you have already created neural pathways of negativity. That is, if your self talk is predisposed, as it seems to be, toward negativity…then that is exactly what you will experience.

Sometimes this is referred to as confirmation bias. Finding “the evidence of an already established assumption.

For me BJs are not at the same pleasure level as before my implant. Pleasurable now? Absolutely, but not at the same level. Want to know why i’m not freaked out over this?

Because, like you, i’m right at 3 months out. As i’ve reported, and another author above did, si STILL feel numbness in my scrotum and lower shaft. And i’m not worried because i know that nerves sometimes take months to return to normal sensation….and they WILL. I promise, if at 6 months this has not improved considerably, i will report that here for all go see, and you’ll be the first to know.

In the meantime, i’m enjoying the process of adaptation.

ThailandBound wrote:

Reshuffle wrote:

frank66665 wrote:
If it's not numbness, then I'm not sure what else physically would be caused by the implant. Arousal issues and other psychogenic causes of it not being pleasurable would be my only guess. I know some people have issues with 'connecting' with their implant and having it feel like it's a part of their body. It's a major change and how we feel about ourselves and the implant after surgery including feelings of regret or grief about what we used to have I think are more common then is often talked about.

Exactly. What he says about “connecting” with your new reality takes time. Many past threads on the forum members have reported that it takes some time for it to “become a part of me”. These early months are a time of adaptation. You’re weeks in, some of those authors report 6 months…a year…until it feels completely “normal”. Maybe you’re one of those people.

If you are wanting BJs to feel the same, now, at barely 12 weeks postop as they did before, you are inviting disappointment. I would caution you that since you have made several other posts about this “possibly being the worst decision of my life”, and “i wish i would not have done it”, you have already created neural pathways of negativity. That is, if your self talk is predisposed, as it seems to be, toward negativity…then that is exactly what you will experience.

Sometimes this is referred to as confirmation bias. Finding “the evidence of an already established assumption.

For me BJs are not at the same pleasure level as before my implant. Pleasurable now? Absolutely, but not at the same level. Want to know why i’m not freaked out over this?

Because, like you, i’m right at 3 months out. As i’ve reported, and another author above did, si STILL feel numbness in my scrotum and lower shaft. And i’m not worried because i know that nerves sometimes take months to return to normal sensation….and they WILL. I promise, if at 6 months this has not improved considerably, i will report that here for all go see, and you’ll be the first to know.

In the meantime, i’m enjoying the process of adaptation.

I'm reporting what I'm going through, I was told by the doctor that I would have used the implant at 3 weeks, I would have lost nothing of what I had before, I would have lost only the erection I had and which had been replaced by the cylinders, length , circumference, orgasm, pleasure, excitement would have been the same, at the moment receiving a blowjob bothers me, I feel discomfort in the glans, when I fuck it is not the best, if I don't finish within 30/35 minutes it starts to hurt preventing me from orgasm , consider that my judgment with a good erection for 15/20 minutes, with 150 mg of sildenafil or 30 of vardenafil I fucked well, cannot be the same judgment of someone who did not get up even with the injections, who had nothing it is clear that he is happy

Reshuffle wrote:

frank66665 wrote:

Bigdave wrote:Pre-implant, starting with a blowjob tended to make me cum too soon.
I'd have to stop her before I started feeling the urge.
Oddly, I could fuck anywhere from 30 minutes to an hour without cumming. Often she'd have to finish me with a blowjob.
I've always loved cumming in my girl's mouth, especially those that swallow.

With the implant, it's pretty much the same. Blowjobs still feel amazing, but now I also like to cum inside her pussy, and continue fucking until I'm ready for her to suck off my second shot.

my wife has never allowed me to cum in her mouth, i used to go to escorts and i choose them all with cum in the mouth, now i'm even scared when they take it in my mouth because i feel annoyed, when i fuck i can't get inflated to the max or almost beyond 30/35 minutes, if I don't reach orgasm in those times I don't reach it anymore due to the annoyance that turns into pain, I've never had orgasm delay problems, in fact I used to put the spray or take dapoxetine to delay orgasm, it's great for you that you had surgery after me and that you recovered before me and great, I hope to recover the oral otherwise I'll end up hating this implant

So when you say annoyance and lack of pleasure, what exactly do you feel that you don't experience now? Is it that part of your dick is numb from feeling? For the most part that tends to come back over time, although some people it seems to take longer. Is it only a problem with BJs, not with other types of stimulation/sex?

If it's not numbness, then I'm not sure what else physically would be caused by the implant. Arousal issues and other psychogenic causes of it not being pleasurable would be my only guess. I know some people have issues with 'connecting' with their implant and having it feel like it's a part of their body. It's a major change and how we feel about ourselves and the implant after surgery including feelings of regret or grief about what we used to have I think are more common then is often talked about.

yes, in particular the glans and a sense of annoyance, the shaft less but I manage to have an orgasm, plus after 30/35 minutes that I'm fucking the annoyance begins due to the rubbing, when I ride a bicycle at the most I have no problems up to 1 hour 70 minutes, then the discomfort starts

frank66665 wrote:yes, in particular the glans and a sense of annoyance, the shaft less but I manage to have an orgasm, plus after 30/35 minutes that I'm fucking the annoyance begins due to the rubbing, when I ride a bicycle at the most I have no problems up to 1 hour 70 minutes, then the discomfort starts

I'm related to this particular thread but related to your post is an overall theme, have you tried inflating it less than maximum? Like maximum is supposed to be uncomfortable for a little while, it's stretching things out and you shouldn't even need to be near maximum to be able to have good penetrative sex/oral with a solid hard on.

Mind my experience is colored by my last year of ed 100mg viagra and 40mg cialis was "meh" erection quality... But a lot of guys on here have mentioned that their partners don't even like it maximum inflated because it's just too hard. Next time you're going out of it maybe just 90% and see how that works out you might find yourself having a lot better experience until the stretching and changes in your body become more adapted to.

And maybe I just don't know what I'm talking about, but it was a thought that came to mind.

Not to hijack the thread but my TRT is pathetically low, but it falls just within the bounds of normal for a man my age. How was your TRT? And how did you go about getting some kind of TRT therapy was it out of pocket or did your insurance cover it? I think it's around I want to look into especially since I'm going to be going into bariatric surgery later this year and I want to gain as much muscle mass afterwards as possible to help reduce the excess skin issues I'm going to encounter. Thanks for any advice Frank.