FLSpeedo1 wrote:I live in daddy central in Fort Lauderdale and it’s hard to keep up with the young guys.
I struggle getting hard sometimes but it happens with age.
I struggle with the idea of getting the implant because I attend my fair share of naked pool parties and sex parties and hear the gossip about the feel of the implant.
I only know one person in my area who has it. He’s not a real big guy and has a small-average penis length. I don’t know if he added silicone or something else but it looks like the shaft is deformed. It’s obvious that penis has been altered to the naked eye.
I’ve watched him pump up and then hear the chuckles of guys calling it a toy or saying it feels like a straw or point and fake moaning and groaning before they move along to a larger, natural penis.
I have always been top bunk in relationships.
When I hear what people say about the one guy I know with the implant, it gives me pause about getting it. I don’t know if I could handle the embarrassment. I am generously endowed but can’t perform at optimal levels consistently.
I just want both my partner and I to enjoy sex again.
Have you heard anyone else report feeling the plastic tubing during sex?
Help!!!
Welcome to the forum FLSpeedo1. Thanks for bringin up this question. It touches on two subjects of value. 1) How bad does ED have to be before you want to make the sacrifices required for an implant (a question I may address later, as it has been addressed at length elsewhere in FrankTalk) and 2) How to handle sub-optimal outcomes.
It seems to me that the gentleman in question may be more deserving of pity than derision.
If he has the courage (or desperation) to put himself out there, perhaps if you approached him as a friend (not necessarily as a sexual partner, but just as a person with in a common interest, implant) you might find him a source of first-hand information which might be useful to you. At the very least, you would probably get the name of a surgeon to avoid.
It is not my intent to be judgemental of the group members at these parties. I wish to point out an opportunity for you to get some valuable information and to share some kindness in return.
As for my own experience, when completely deflated, my penis is a bit mis-shapen, but pumped up to 20% appears as a completely normal flaccid penis. When inflated, it is indistinguishable from my pre-operation penis except that the cross-section is more oval than its previous rounder shape. Arousal (which inflates my spongiosum tissues) does fill out the roundness a bit, but not as much as my pre-implant fully erect penis was. But the difference is barely discernable.
The distal tips (hard plastic) of my implant are palpable if you feel for them and know what you are looking for. The casual observer is unlikely to feel (much less see) the difference. Some partners of implanted men say they can feel the hard tips during penetration, but I suspect a little bit less inflation would relieve that.
The pump and pump bulb in my scrotum is another matter. If I am wearing snug, form-fitting underwear there is clearly a bulge on the left, about the size of my testicle, but protruding like no testicle of mine ever did. It is purely cosmetic and if I were naked or in boxer shorts would not be apparant.