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Yeah, i think im over it, cant focus on other areas of life when im anxious 90% of the time about getting it up.

So ive been dealing with ED for 10 years now, i strongly assume that its because of finasteride, but at this point its irrelevant now. That plus the psychological and emotional effects of feeling uncapable, of course may make it 10x worse.

Now, when i say i can achieve erections on 90% of the time, that is of course with the use of drugs, and is still a hassle to keep it up, switch positions, if my heart rate gets slightly fast (as in going too hard or too fast on certain positions) i lose the erection, if i get a text and i get distracted i lose the erection, if im not constantly stimulated, i lose the erection, etc. I know everyone here knows the feeling, everyone goes trough that phase of feeing in constant combat with your own mind/dick.


I am able to achieve penetration the vast majority of the time, but still, thats not good sex to me, since i have to be constantly stimulated in order to keep the erection, which more often than not results in me eyaculating way too fast, since im scared to take a small break because i know the erection will go. So im always on the edge of cumming to keep the erection.


Since im young, and highly attractive and successful (im not bragging, wouldnt be wise for a guy with ED to go around bragging about superficial stuff like that), i do have my fair number of encounters with gorgeous young women. However, i struggle when it comes to intimacy because i know for a fact that i cant compete with most guys that these women meet.

Now you may say its not healthy for me to compare myself, but im simply being realistic, i cant keep up with them. Im comparing myself to even my old pre-finasteride self, i remember i could go easily 3-4 times in a 2-3 hour session, i remember cumming fast on the first two times and then let myself go on the 3rd one and go hard and fast for a long time. I could go for hours (as many young healthy men here could go im assuming), and i just know that the women i meet nowadays are used to that, and i cant really live the life i want and have the type of relationships i want with women if i cant perform on the bedroom. May seem shallow but thats how i really see it.


My last bad experience was last night with my GF. Shes a gorgeous super fit 23 year old, the type of woman that makes guys boldly stare (btw guys if any of you does that, please dont btw, its uncomfortable, just a FYI), anyway she was giving me a handjob/blowjob, my cock was 100% hard, i had 100mg of sildenafil in me so no surprise, but suddenly it just went away. Like just randomly, maybe she stroke it for a few seconds in a weird way or something and the erection flew to the next country.


So shes on her knees stroking and sucking on a chubby dick, but the crazy thing is that since it still felt good, i was on the edge of cumming. I know all of you guys have experienced this before, you arent hard, but still you feel like you could cum anyway, thats some embarassing shit aint it? No 23 year old gorgeous babe should ever experience having a limp dick just jizzing all over the place like a garden hose. So obviously the session ended there, had one of those awkward "what happened" talks, i went to the gym then we tried again right before sleeping and this time it went smoothly.



But you guys get the point. Do i have a sex life? Yes. Could i keep going like this for 10 more years? Possibly yes. Would that be a satisfactory sex life? Hell no.

The amount of women i dont approach because my insecurity is way too high. The way i want to live my life and how i want to connect with women does not align with how my sexual performance is. The way i see it is, why wait 10-20 years when i wont even be able to use it as much as right now when im in my prime? Why live anxious 10-20 more years and beat myself up after bad/mediocre encounters, if i could solve it now?

I can pay out of pocket. I can mentally endure any bad experiences due to the surgery, i can pay for revisions out of pocket if necessary. I realize that some see implants as a last resort, but if things go well, isnt it worth it? Id be going to a top surgeon btw.


I know this post is a bit too much but im just venting a bit too TBH

You will see different opinions on this. Alot of people will say go through all the progressions, ( viagra, bimix, trimix,) before the implant option because once it is done and you cant go back. The other half is why didnt I do this sooner! I myself went through all of the same issues, and also did the injections which only worked for 6 months and I developed venous leak. Its only been 3 weeks since my implant and I had sex for the first time today. I can honestly say that I am now a why didnt I do this sooner kind of guy. There are so many emotional tolls ED takes you on. Always a roller coaster. I can honestly say I have no more worries and look forward to having an on demand hard on the rest of my life. As is my wife!

I'm 71, so in a very different place in life than you. I started having ED trouble in my 50s. I wish I'd done the implant much sooner. I missed a lot of years of potentially great sex by not dealing with the ED earlier. In addition, I really love the implant. I can get hard whenever I want, stay hard as long as I want, and I have no worry about getting it up or keeping it up.

That said, if I was to do it over, I'd still wait on the implant for a while. As long as pills or injections worked reliably, I'd stay with those. The implant is great but it's still "different". I miss that great feeling you get when aroused and your dick gets hard little by little, all by itself. And the pump in my sack is noticeable if anyone plays with my balls. Clearly, I have something extra in there and it could be a turnoff to potential partners. Sometimes it seem obvious in the locker room, at least to me. Probably not a big issue if you stay with a single partner or those that understand, but it is something you may have to explain a little. I'm married and monogamous so not an issue for me but might be for you.

Not saying you're wrong to move to an implant. Totally your decision, i just would think about it deeply before making an irreversible move. See if you can get an in person demo of an implant and it might help you with your decision.

Best wishes with whatever you decicde.

Quincy.

[quote="Sakabato"]Yeah, i think im over it, cant focus on other areas of life when im anxious 90% of the time about getting it up.

So ive been dealing with ED for 10 years now, i strongly assume that its because of finasteride, but at this point its irrelevant now. That plus the psychological and emotional effects of feeling uncapable, of course may make it 10x worse.

I say go for it, i love my implant and have zero regrets. Some people will say fear the worst and be cautious, i have always been of the mindset of best case scenario, with 96% of patients happy, that should say alot. Very few procedures have that high of satisfaction.

Hey man I’m on a exact boat u are exactly same symptoms of Ed women give me so much attention and I ignore it I get hard but lose it very quick but some times works very well but I’m going through implant it’s my only choice to be happy

I could've wrote this post!

I'm a few years younger but waiting on a consultation for implant.

Might have to take out a huge loan for it but I'm at the F*** it point, I need to be able to do what I do in the bedroom at the level I used to. It's the feeling of knowing what you had before and not being able to do it now is a mind f*** also.

+ the thought of being able to just stay hard consistently sounds like it'll be lots of fun.

Im 30 and getting implanted next month.
Only difference is I dont have any other choice, pills/ved/injections dont work. I have a bad venous leak.
Tbh im a bit nervous about getting the surgery and possible revisions needed in the future. If ur good most of the time i wouldnt get an implant. This isnt a joke and its not reversible.

I’m 32 could still have sex before but implant but got implant for distal peyroines you can read my journal here https://www.peyroniesforum.net/index.ph ... 261.0.html

Same story over here with Finasteride PFS. I got some scar tissue causing a sort of venous leak. I'm still having trouble in deciding if I should get an implant. Finasteride causes low to zero libido too. I need advice too

Same story here. 34 years old venous leake thanks to finasteride. I went for the implant in June. Best decision ever. When I read your post it was like a ED throwback, constantly worring to keep it up, being to soft to switch position, basically not being able to enjoy sex and your mind being occupied with ED for 24/7. When on TV or friends made jokes about no longer getting it up, this was every time like a punch in the gut. Especially when I was sitting next to my girlfriend. This now all is gone.

Best of luck brother!