Rodsmen’s Journal and Recommendations
Posted: Thu Dec 07, 2023 7:15 pm
Rodsmen’s back story and journal objectives
I am a very sexually active 67 year-old married gay man, together with my husband for 30 years in a totally open relationship. I never, ever had my dick fail on me until I was 50, and then started using dick pills for sex parties. I started using them regularly by my late 50’s, as I recall. They worked, in combination with cock rings. By the time I was 64 I resorted to Trimix. I am in the 20% that have sensitivity to the main ingredient. I tried Bimix, but even 100 units was unreliable. I tried 3 different formulas of Trimix and countless dosages. It is very inconsistent, and after about 90 minutes it would result in severe pain that made a hard-on useless. I ended up using less, along with a very tight overall cock ring (around my dick and balls), as well as a ball stretcher. I would have to constantly take the tight rings off to give it a rest and put them back on. Keeping the Trimix refrigerated on trips, and shooting it at bars and parties was a real drag, to say the least. Fortunately, it is very common in gay circles in the US, to the extent that some bars and parties have sharps containers for Trimix users, and I would often meet other men using it at parties, which was obvious by those of us that had hard-ons non-stop, even when we were getting drinks, being social, etc. I then started using a pump just before using Trimix to get a better result. A ten-minute pump session alone would work for about 20 minutes (with very tight cock rings), but that is way too little time, and like with Trimix, hardly something that enhances spontaneity. I spend $9,000 on low-impact penis therapy at two urologists, as well as enriched plasma shots. None of that did anything, and after I had spent $6,000 with the last urologist, he did an ultrasound test that showed that I had venous leakage, which can really only be dealt with by getting an implant. I only wish he had done that test before I spend another $6,000 with him.
I spent quite a bit of time doing research on implants, including every peer-reviewed medical paper I could find and reading many hundreds of pages of personal accounts on FrankTalk.org and other sites. The hardest thing was to find the best surgeon in Los Angeles. Unlike many who have few, or even only a single choice where they live, there are many dozen surgeons in LA that purport to do implant surgeries. None of them are on-line rock stars like in NYC or Houston. I talked with the Boston Scientific (AMS) and Coloplast (Titan) reps and got their lists of high-volume surgeons. I cross-referenced that with my gay urologist (as opposed to my urologist that did my TURP surgery last year, and recommended the gay one for this) who recommended two surgeons at UCLA. I was unimpressed with the one he told me about first, but then I went to see Dr. Jesse Mills, who heads the Men’s Clinic at UCLA, and teaches the surgery internationally. About a third of his patients are re-do’s from botched jobs from other surgeons, as well as quite a few porn stars. (I have located a few of them. Most are closeted about having implants, with the biggest exception being “Dallas Steele.”) The only concern I had about him is that he only uses the AMS implant. He clearly works very closely with them, as he had detailed knowledge of their factories world-wide. He cited the better reliability of their current pump, the rigidity of the AMS 700 CX variant, and the built-in antibiotic. Since my biggest fear was of the terrible consequences of infection, I felt good about it. My real concern was with size. I had been pumping in anticipation of the surgery and had gotten to over 8” x 7-1/2”, and the forums all said that you had to get a Titan to avoid losing size in that range. Dr. Mills assured me that I would not lose size relative to my un-pumped size, so I trusted him and went ahead with the AMS 700 CX.
In this journal I hope to provide good advice to men who are considering, or are getting implants in the future. There are extensive photos of my resulting appearance and progress over time, which I hope are comforting to others who might be alarmed by what they see at various points of recovery. I will also be posting an overall timeline of a compendium of what I have gleaned from my doctor and the posts of hundreds of other men who have gone before me of what I believe to be best practices for an optimum recovery. The list has not (yet) been vetted by a physician, but I believe it to be conservative, with nothing that really contradicts what appears to be widespread advice. I refer to dates as surgery plus or minus the number of days before or after surgery so that readers might better be able to translate it to their own dates. If time permits, I would like to create a spreadsheet to which a man could enter their surgery date and clearly see when recommendations apply. Ideally, it would access a calendar that would also translate the date relative to surgery to actual calendar dates, adjusted as needed for future years. (Please let me know if anyone is a good at writing spreadsheets, I would love to work together.)
I am a very sexually active 67 year-old married gay man, together with my husband for 30 years in a totally open relationship. I never, ever had my dick fail on me until I was 50, and then started using dick pills for sex parties. I started using them regularly by my late 50’s, as I recall. They worked, in combination with cock rings. By the time I was 64 I resorted to Trimix. I am in the 20% that have sensitivity to the main ingredient. I tried Bimix, but even 100 units was unreliable. I tried 3 different formulas of Trimix and countless dosages. It is very inconsistent, and after about 90 minutes it would result in severe pain that made a hard-on useless. I ended up using less, along with a very tight overall cock ring (around my dick and balls), as well as a ball stretcher. I would have to constantly take the tight rings off to give it a rest and put them back on. Keeping the Trimix refrigerated on trips, and shooting it at bars and parties was a real drag, to say the least. Fortunately, it is very common in gay circles in the US, to the extent that some bars and parties have sharps containers for Trimix users, and I would often meet other men using it at parties, which was obvious by those of us that had hard-ons non-stop, even when we were getting drinks, being social, etc. I then started using a pump just before using Trimix to get a better result. A ten-minute pump session alone would work for about 20 minutes (with very tight cock rings), but that is way too little time, and like with Trimix, hardly something that enhances spontaneity. I spend $9,000 on low-impact penis therapy at two urologists, as well as enriched plasma shots. None of that did anything, and after I had spent $6,000 with the last urologist, he did an ultrasound test that showed that I had venous leakage, which can really only be dealt with by getting an implant. I only wish he had done that test before I spend another $6,000 with him.
I spent quite a bit of time doing research on implants, including every peer-reviewed medical paper I could find and reading many hundreds of pages of personal accounts on FrankTalk.org and other sites. The hardest thing was to find the best surgeon in Los Angeles. Unlike many who have few, or even only a single choice where they live, there are many dozen surgeons in LA that purport to do implant surgeries. None of them are on-line rock stars like in NYC or Houston. I talked with the Boston Scientific (AMS) and Coloplast (Titan) reps and got their lists of high-volume surgeons. I cross-referenced that with my gay urologist (as opposed to my urologist that did my TURP surgery last year, and recommended the gay one for this) who recommended two surgeons at UCLA. I was unimpressed with the one he told me about first, but then I went to see Dr. Jesse Mills, who heads the Men’s Clinic at UCLA, and teaches the surgery internationally. About a third of his patients are re-do’s from botched jobs from other surgeons, as well as quite a few porn stars. (I have located a few of them. Most are closeted about having implants, with the biggest exception being “Dallas Steele.”) The only concern I had about him is that he only uses the AMS implant. He clearly works very closely with them, as he had detailed knowledge of their factories world-wide. He cited the better reliability of their current pump, the rigidity of the AMS 700 CX variant, and the built-in antibiotic. Since my biggest fear was of the terrible consequences of infection, I felt good about it. My real concern was with size. I had been pumping in anticipation of the surgery and had gotten to over 8” x 7-1/2”, and the forums all said that you had to get a Titan to avoid losing size in that range. Dr. Mills assured me that I would not lose size relative to my un-pumped size, so I trusted him and went ahead with the AMS 700 CX.
In this journal I hope to provide good advice to men who are considering, or are getting implants in the future. There are extensive photos of my resulting appearance and progress over time, which I hope are comforting to others who might be alarmed by what they see at various points of recovery. I will also be posting an overall timeline of a compendium of what I have gleaned from my doctor and the posts of hundreds of other men who have gone before me of what I believe to be best practices for an optimum recovery. The list has not (yet) been vetted by a physician, but I believe it to be conservative, with nothing that really contradicts what appears to be widespread advice. I refer to dates as surgery plus or minus the number of days before or after surgery so that readers might better be able to translate it to their own dates. If time permits, I would like to create a spreadsheet to which a man could enter their surgery date and clearly see when recommendations apply. Ideally, it would access a calendar that would also translate the date relative to surgery to actual calendar dates, adjusted as needed for future years. (Please let me know if anyone is a good at writing spreadsheets, I would love to work together.)
