Recently joined the bionic brotherhood, advice welcome

[dmmp76]

Hello all,

My name's Dario and I am on my 8th day post surgery.

I've been reading through the chat while waiting for the okay to join, wow, I am amazed by the amount of information, support and guidance from everyone, also, the open approach to discuss anything.

I have suffered from ED since early 20s, because I was very active and into sports, I kind of managed to get by, Viagra and Cialis were great support (so I thought) and never bothered myself to seek help as I was thinking it was just occasional failures due to work, being tired, stressed, so, I was lying to myself and deep down I knew it.

Until one day, I was having sex when I felt like losing my hard on, I tried everything to no avail, I just couldn't get up, we cuddle a little bit and she was very understanding and thought that I was just tired, but I knew better, coming morning I popped more Viagra and after the shower I was able to perform as normal, so again, I decided to ignore.

I then started dating someone who became a 16 years partner and it started well, with pills pumping in and lots of gym, I did manage to hide this issue for more years and when there was a failure it was not a big deal as we both worked crazy hours.

Eventually failures started to happen more often and I developed petformance anxiety and my head was constantly reminding me of my failures and afraid to fail again, after 10 years together things started to go downhill, sex drive was going fast, libido as well, pills not working, my partner starting to become uneasy, unhappy, sex was now very limited as I was afraid to fail and seing my partner getting more distant was even more pressure on me.

Cutting short, started talking to my GP (family doctor) back in 2015, nothing progressed, insisted, wrote complaint letters to the local government representative, nothing, no help no nothing, meanwhile the pressure at home was increasingly difficult to manage, almost no sex, no support from my partner, she thought that I had a problem and needed to resolve it on my own, eventually we came to a very difficult break up in June 2023, with lots of arguments and very nadty stuff said from her side to me, at this point I thought about ending my life, I was absolutely buried in the mud and alone, in one of those moments that you can't explain, I asked God for help and guidance to carry on, wisdom and strength and, I felt I was not alone anymore.

Meanwhile, I met this beautiful woman, inside out, and we started dating, I told her my situation and what I was thinking about doing, getting an implant, she was supportive, although I think she still doesn't understand the all situation, still, she stood by my side and gave me a lot of strength and support till now, we managed to have a decent sex life, with pills and so on, but lots of failures, still, always other ways to compensate and wait for the day of the surgery.

Fast forward to March 2024, after four months being followed by Dr Raheem, we came to the conclusion that IPP was the only solution for me, all booked for the 5th March and there I was, finally, I had no second thoughts, no concerns, not scared, nothing, felt absolutely in peace with myself.

Surgery took four hours and everything went well, went home, back to the clinic next day, and apart from the removal of the catheter and sonda I almost felt no pain so far, I'm now eight days post surgery and the only thing I've noticed is the uncomfortable feeling of the pump in my Scrotum, also, any sudden movements cause pain, my balls are less swollen by the day and almost look normal, I left the painkillers on the fourth day and just taking antibiotics as recommended by the surgeon.

I haven't started touching anything as Dr Raheem asked me to just relax until the 20th of March when I'm back to see him, although, after reading all the amazing stories here in the site I started feeling like I want to try and explore, my girlfriend told me to be quite haha and to wait until the 20th March.

I have a few questions for the community, which I will post further down, after the next consultation.

Apologies for the long post and thank you for reading.

Happy to have taken this path!

[jasejuk]

Welcome bro and congrats!

Similar story to me, for years always thinking it was this and that and one day I would overcome it all.

Im only 4 weeks out, and all is going well.

While I am not 100% (as expected -- healing is a process --plus adjustments) I am overjoyed. Absolutely the right decision.

It gets fun when you start pumping up etc, even though it is all tricky stuff at first.

When you first see a rock hard boner without doing anything other than pump, I hope you'll be like me --ecstatic.

Rest and recover like the doc says. You'll soon be ready for the next steps.

[Franklin22]

Great post. I did the same thing for years and just thought I’d overcome it eventually. Life’s too short. Nothing like enjoying great sex.
Welcome to the brotherhood!
I’m 8 months out and enjoying my new life.
After about 6 months you will love your new weapon.
Total game changer for me!

[dmmp76]

Welcome bro and congrats!

Similar story to me, for years always thinking it was this and that and one day I would overcome it all.

Im only 4 weeks out, and all is going well.

While I am not 100% (as expected -- healing is a process --plus adjustments) I am overjoyed. Absolutely the right decision.

It gets fun when you start pumping up etc, even though it is all tricky stuff at first.

When you first see a rock hard boner without doing anything other than pump, I hope you'll be like me --ecstatic.

Rest and recover like the doc says. You'll soon be ready for the next steps.

Thank you,

I have to say that I'm excited with everything and looking forward to getting back my sexual life and enjoy.

The pump is the only thing that has been uncomfortable so far, I can feel it moving left and right.

Other than that, I've been quite lucky.

Regards

[dmmp76]

Great post. I did the same thing for years and just thought I’d overcome it eventually. Life’s too short. Nothing like enjoying great sex.
Welcome to the brotherhood!
I’m 8 months out and enjoying my new life.
After about 6 months you will love your new weapon.
Total game changer for me!

Thanks,

I'm looking forward for the opportunity and ability to have a normal sex life, with no concerns on the back of my mind, lost too many years due to pure stubbornness.

[Old Guy]

Welcome to the bionic side. Lots of stories like yours are here. Glad you found the solution needed to carry on.

[dmmp76]

Welcome to the bionic side. Lots of stories like yours are here. Glad you found the solution needed to carry on.

Thanks Old Guy,appreciated, it was a bumpy road but I reached the destination

[silver daddy 1960]

Hi dmmp76, Congratulations and yes FrankTalk is an amazing place to talk and learn without any hangups. I truly wish you the best going forward and for me after over two years, it's the best thing I could have done !! Ask away we are all happy to help from our experiences!

[Rider1400]

Congratulations on the implant! I felt with ED for over 10 years and like you it was a major pro in my marriage! Caused more problems than anything else in 35 years. My wife would say that ED wasn’t the problem but funny how within a few months after I was able to start using it things started working out. Not saying it was all her by no means. I would get hung up on fear of losing it and the arguments would start as she thought I wasn’t turned on by her and wasn’t happy w her. It will take a few months up to 6 before it become a more normal feeling to use it and for me it took about 6 months to get it in my head that I was fixed!!! Took 6 months to learn to just relax and enjoy sex again. Been almost 2 years and it’s just getting better and better! The last year My wife and I have probably had some of the happiest times out of the last 15-20 years!
Ed has a massive affect on our lives! On our outlook towards our jobs and friends and overall moods! Like I said, it takes some time to get your mind back in the game!

[HikerMan]

Cutting short, started talking to my GP (family doctor) back in 2015, nothing progressed, insisted, wrote complaint letters to the local government representative, nothing, no help no nothing, meanwhile the pressure at home was increasingly difficult to manage, almost no sex, no support from my partner, she thought that I had a problem and needed to resolve it on my own, eventually we came to a very difficult break up in June 2023, with lots of arguments and very nadty stuff said from her side to me, at this point I thought about ending my life, I was absolutely buried in the mud and alone, in one of those moments that you can't explain, I asked God for help and guidance to carry on, wisdom and strength and, I felt I was not alone anymore.


I know how this feels.
My sexual function was perfect until Prostate cancer entered my life at 55 years of age.
Not only was sexual performance a subject I NEVER thought of, but I had never even felt any real bout of depression ever in my life.

After my RP my Doctor had me start the usual "cocktail" of drugs and injections to get things re-fired in the bedroom, but it was always hit and miss.

Man, I cant tell you how much it hurt when your appendage is not cooperating and afterwards your significant other pats you on the shoulder and says... "Its OK, I still love you" when both of you know this is heading in a bad direction-FAST.

I was there.
I entered a very dark place.
Someplace I don't wish for or on anybody.

This drug protocol lasted about 2 months and the IPP was the only thing on my horizon that looked like it would work.

I thank God every day I found this forum and the magnificent people and information I found in here.
!5 months after my surgery and I'm as good(probably better) than I have ever been sexually.

My wife calls me "the machine' now
LOL!

The best is yet to come for you soon.
You will see why the vast majority of men in here rave about their implant.

It's good to have you with us.
Welcome aboard.