Recently joined the bionic brotherhood, advice welcome
Posted: Wed Mar 13, 2024 6:36 pm
Hello all,
My name's Dario and I am on my 8th day post surgery.
I've been reading through the chat while waiting for the okay to join, wow, I am amazed by the amount of information, support and guidance from everyone, also, the open approach to discuss anything.
I have suffered from ED since early 20s, because I was very active and into sports, I kind of managed to get by, Viagra and Cialis were great support (so I thought) and never bothered myself to seek help as I was thinking it was just occasional failures due to work, being tired, stressed, so, I was lying to myself and deep down I knew it.
Until one day, I was having sex when I felt like losing my hard on, I tried everything to no avail, I just couldn't get up, we cuddle a little bit and she was very understanding and thought that I was just tired, but I knew better, coming morning I popped more Viagra and after the shower I was able to perform as normal, so again, I decided to ignore.
I then started dating someone who became a 16 years partner and it started well, with pills pumping in and lots of gym, I did manage to hide this issue for more years and when there was a failure it was not a big deal as we both worked crazy hours.
Eventually failures started to happen more often and I developed petformance anxiety and my head was constantly reminding me of my failures and afraid to fail again, after 10 years together things started to go downhill, sex drive was going fast, libido as well, pills not working, my partner starting to become uneasy, unhappy, sex was now very limited as I was afraid to fail and seing my partner getting more distant was even more pressure on me.
Cutting short, started talking to my GP (family doctor) back in 2015, nothing progressed, insisted, wrote complaint letters to the local government representative, nothing, no help no nothing, meanwhile the pressure at home was increasingly difficult to manage, almost no sex, no support from my partner, she thought that I had a problem and needed to resolve it on my own, eventually we came to a very difficult break up in June 2023, with lots of arguments and very nadty stuff said from her side to me, at this point I thought about ending my life, I was absolutely buried in the mud and alone, in one of those moments that you can't explain, I asked God for help and guidance to carry on, wisdom and strength and, I felt I was not alone anymore.
Meanwhile, I met this beautiful woman, inside out, and we started dating, I told her my situation and what I was thinking about doing, getting an implant, she was supportive, although I think she still doesn't understand the all situation, still, she stood by my side and gave me a lot of strength and support till now, we managed to have a decent sex life, with pills and so on, but lots of failures, still, always other ways to compensate and wait for the day of the surgery.
Fast forward to March 2024, after four months being followed by Dr Raheem, we came to the conclusion that IPP was the only solution for me, all booked for the 5th March and there I was, finally, I had no second thoughts, no concerns, not scared, nothing, felt absolutely in peace with myself.
Surgery took four hours and everything went well, went home, back to the clinic next day, and apart from the removal of the catheter and sonda I almost felt no pain so far, I'm now eight days post surgery and the only thing I've noticed is the uncomfortable feeling of the pump in my Scrotum, also, any sudden movements cause pain, my balls are less swollen by the day and almost look normal, I left the painkillers on the fourth day and just taking antibiotics as recommended by the surgeon.
I haven't started touching anything as Dr Raheem asked me to just relax until the 20th of March when I'm back to see him, although, after reading all the amazing stories here in the site I started feeling like I want to try and explore, my girlfriend told me to be quite haha and to wait until the 20th March.
I have a few questions for the community, which I will post further down, after the next consultation.
Apologies for the long post and thank you for reading.
Happy to have taken this path!
My name's Dario and I am on my 8th day post surgery.
I've been reading through the chat while waiting for the okay to join, wow, I am amazed by the amount of information, support and guidance from everyone, also, the open approach to discuss anything.
I have suffered from ED since early 20s, because I was very active and into sports, I kind of managed to get by, Viagra and Cialis were great support (so I thought) and never bothered myself to seek help as I was thinking it was just occasional failures due to work, being tired, stressed, so, I was lying to myself and deep down I knew it.
Until one day, I was having sex when I felt like losing my hard on, I tried everything to no avail, I just couldn't get up, we cuddle a little bit and she was very understanding and thought that I was just tired, but I knew better, coming morning I popped more Viagra and after the shower I was able to perform as normal, so again, I decided to ignore.
I then started dating someone who became a 16 years partner and it started well, with pills pumping in and lots of gym, I did manage to hide this issue for more years and when there was a failure it was not a big deal as we both worked crazy hours.
Eventually failures started to happen more often and I developed petformance anxiety and my head was constantly reminding me of my failures and afraid to fail again, after 10 years together things started to go downhill, sex drive was going fast, libido as well, pills not working, my partner starting to become uneasy, unhappy, sex was now very limited as I was afraid to fail and seing my partner getting more distant was even more pressure on me.
Cutting short, started talking to my GP (family doctor) back in 2015, nothing progressed, insisted, wrote complaint letters to the local government representative, nothing, no help no nothing, meanwhile the pressure at home was increasingly difficult to manage, almost no sex, no support from my partner, she thought that I had a problem and needed to resolve it on my own, eventually we came to a very difficult break up in June 2023, with lots of arguments and very nadty stuff said from her side to me, at this point I thought about ending my life, I was absolutely buried in the mud and alone, in one of those moments that you can't explain, I asked God for help and guidance to carry on, wisdom and strength and, I felt I was not alone anymore.
Meanwhile, I met this beautiful woman, inside out, and we started dating, I told her my situation and what I was thinking about doing, getting an implant, she was supportive, although I think she still doesn't understand the all situation, still, she stood by my side and gave me a lot of strength and support till now, we managed to have a decent sex life, with pills and so on, but lots of failures, still, always other ways to compensate and wait for the day of the surgery.
Fast forward to March 2024, after four months being followed by Dr Raheem, we came to the conclusion that IPP was the only solution for me, all booked for the 5th March and there I was, finally, I had no second thoughts, no concerns, not scared, nothing, felt absolutely in peace with myself.
Surgery took four hours and everything went well, went home, back to the clinic next day, and apart from the removal of the catheter and sonda I almost felt no pain so far, I'm now eight days post surgery and the only thing I've noticed is the uncomfortable feeling of the pump in my Scrotum, also, any sudden movements cause pain, my balls are less swollen by the day and almost look normal, I left the painkillers on the fourth day and just taking antibiotics as recommended by the surgeon.
I haven't started touching anything as Dr Raheem asked me to just relax until the 20th of March when I'm back to see him, although, after reading all the amazing stories here in the site I started feeling like I want to try and explore, my girlfriend told me to be quite haha and to wait until the 20th March.
I have a few questions for the community, which I will post further down, after the next consultation.
Apologies for the long post and thank you for reading.
Happy to have taken this path!
