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Longtime Lurker (50/single/gay). I have sufficient erections to masturbate but have never really had a hard, lasting erection necessary for penetration--basically, it needs intense stimulation--beyond normal foreplay--to get hard at all and goes away quickly without it. I tried Cialis/Viagra without great effect and I don't have the hand dexterity for injecting Tri-mix. I thought it was physical/mental/medication, but the Doppler showed a circulatory problem.

My surgery date is August 30 with a very reputable doc, who recommends a Titan (he believes they have greater axial rigidity and better girth). I saw another surgeon for a second opinion and he thought surgery was appropriate.

I am thinking of cancelling in next day or two so the surgeon's office has a chance to fill the slot (hopefully) and waiting until I'm more confident. The whole thing scares TF out of me. Besides complications and pain, the "Titans feel like straws in my dick" is giving me pause. My biggest fear, perhaps irrational, is ending up with a totally non-functional penis.

I know I've got to make this judgement on my own, and soon, but I guess I'm looking for moral support or at least guidance on what to expect. Besides the doctors, I have very few people IRL to discuss with.

Have you tried injections? They work but do become hit and Miss after sometime. I think everyone has fears about getting an implant but 99% say they should have done it years ago.
It has been the best thing I have ever done and would not hesitate in getting it done again.
Go for it - you won’t regret that decision.

To be honest, an implanted penis will never be as good as a healthy, fully-functioning one. It will, however, get the job done as often as you please. I had the same reservations, postponing the surgery several times before resigning myself to the fact that if I wanted to have sex with a person then it was the only viable alternative. I tried the injections (and developed Peyronies shortly afterwards) but the veinous leak prevented erections that lasted more than a minute. The only real post-operative pain I had was when I awoke from surgery, but the nurse quickly injected pain killers and I was good to go. I wish I had done this instead of injections, but the delay allowed me to find this group and a top-notch surgeon.

Best wishes!

I am kind of in the same boat.....I will be seeing a Dr. in August.......I am going to do it though....i am 60 and am running out of time...what ? am I going to wait until I am 70 ?........I have veinous leakage and i am a worthless as far as being with a woman now....I do not want the surgery and worry about the maybe bad side effects, but without the surgery i can not even jack off anymore with my limp cock...i do not want to be the guy in 10 years wondering "Maybe I should have done it".....if you have gone to all the trouble and nothing else works what choice do you have....thank goodness we have the bionic cocks we have now...if this was 1964 you would not even have a choice....i guess you can go by Frank Talk and from what i read it is hard to find a guy who has regretted it....even the guys who had tube failures get it done again without saying bad things about the device....good luck to u brother....

I absolutely love my new cock. I love that it always just works, no matter what. I love the psychological effect that has on me. I know that it will always just work, no matter what. It is a little different than it was. I have a Titan, and if I drain it completely, it does have a little bit of a "crinkly" feel. I typically drain it fully like that when I plan to keep it in my pants, and especially in thin pants or bathing suit where it might show. In situations where it might come out, I plump it up a little ahead of time, more as the evening goes on.

Look, every surgery has some risk. So I suppose that you might have a problem. But in most cases it simply works perfectly the first time. And in the cases where it doesn't, it seems that one revision usually fixes things. Of course there are exceptions! And of course you might get in a car wreck and die tomorrow. I can't tell you what to do, but what I can say is that I'm so, so glad I had the surgery.

Well, if you are a long time lurker, you may have read some of my dissertations before. I will apologize in advance for my lack of brevity. I never apologize for being blunt, occasionally crude, and painfully honest.

Except for the gay part, and the being 50 part, I think you and I have been in exactly the same place. I have always been quite capable of generating a really good erection. What I have never been able to do is sustain it for more than a minute or two without violent levels of stimulation. This became painfully obvious after I had been married for a short while, and led to me being diagnosed with organic ED in 1987 back then there were no pills, just injections so over the last 37 years I have been the beneficiary of all the ED therapies medical science has had to offer.

So forget all of the “it’s not as good is a real erection” bullshit. What that implant is going to do is give you, possibly for the first time in your life, a real erection. Then it becomes up to you what you want to do with it, and (lol) I’m not sure I really want to know.

The guys at franktalk all mean well, and are generally a really good group. We can share our experiences and opinions, but ultimately you have to make the decision is to what is right for you. I know if I were you, in your shoes, I would suck it up and get it done. I can say that because I’ve been there. The night before surgery was agonizing, as I continued to debate whether or not I wanted to let doctors remove any possible capability of generating an erection on my own. I finally just decided that it was time to say piss on the pills and shots and enjoy the ability to have something that emulated a very real erection prosthetically.

Other than marrying my wife, or joining the army, I’d probably say getting implanted was the smartest thing I ever did. It looks completely natural. Unless somebody is poking around in my Nutsack, nobody is going to know. Sex is now fun and relaxing and enjoyable with zero stress.

Yes, I had a good surgery, a rapid recovery, and a great outcome, with zero complications. Even so get the two week mark I was wondering WTF have I done to my junk? But now, just under five years later, I am a 68-year-old stud. I weigh 75 lbs more than I did when I graduated from high school (I’m at 190 now) but wear the same size jean (31” waist). The implant did not do that – I did – but everything is interconnected. I feel great about my sexual abilities, and that has encouraged me to maintain my physique, and overall it has really enhanced my quality of life.

Cold feet and second guessing yourself is perfectly normal and natural, and not just confined to implant surgery. Think about first day of school, first day in a new job, first time I jumped out of an airplane. All of these represent a fear of the unknown. It is up to us as individuals to manage and conquer those fears.

You might talk to the doctor. If an implant is destiny, there is no merit in delay. I’m not sure that I agree totally with your doctors view of titan versus AMS products but those are opinions & that’s why you pay the doctor - for his expertise in determining what is best for you based upon your anatomy. Right now, I don’t think it would be possible for anything to outperform the reliability and natural appearance of this LGX. Trust me when I say it is plenty rigid and stable. But who knows what I will want them to do years down the road when I wear this one out.

Yes, I have rambled. And we’re right back where we started. You have to be the man making the decision. The vast majority of us who have gone before you are totally satisfied with our implant. There are a few who aren’t. There are some guys who have had to fight complications and additional installation surgery. But most are completely satisfied. And there is a good size contingent of men who, like me, are beyond satisfied – we are thrilled!

It’s a process. The guy worries and agonizes about this even when he’s checking into the surgical center. Then they knock him out in the next thing he knows is he’s waking up in the recovery room with an implant and the doctor saying everything went well. Then you’re looking at two or three rough weeks.

I’m not sure if this will make sense to you or not: think about it, but don’t overthink it. You will get this done whenever your desire to have normal and reliable erections outweighs your fear of the unknown and the risks of complications.

Execute an informal decision making process. Write things down. Gather the facts. List the pros and cons. Consider any alternatives. Develop a bunch of pertinent questions and take those to the doc. Review all of this information, and only then make an informed decision.

Regardless of what you ultimately decide to do, I wish you good luck. I’m sorry that we can’t hold your hand (or any other body part lol) during this process. But you are a 50-year-old man and you didn’t get that way without making decisions.

Majestic wrote:Longtime Lurker (50/single/gay). I have sufficient erections to masturbate but have never really had a hard, lasting erection necessary for penetration--basically, it needs intense stimulation--beyond normal foreplay--to get hard at all and goes away quickly without it. I tried Cialis/Viagra without great effect and I don't have the hand dexterity for injecting Tri-mix. I thought it was physical/mental/medication, but the Doppler showed a circulatory problem.

My surgery date is August 30 with a very reputable doc, who recommends a Titan (he believes they have greater axial rigidity and better girth). I saw another surgeon for a second opinion and he thought surgery was appropriate.

I am thinking of cancelling in next day or two so the surgeon's office has a chance to fill the slot (hopefully) and waiting until I'm more confident. The whole thing scares TF out of me. Besides complications and pain, the "Titans feel like straws in my dick" is giving me pause. My biggest fear, perhaps irrational, is ending up with a totally non-functional penis.

I know I've got to make this judgement on my own, and soon, but I guess I'm looking for moral support or at least guidance on what to expect. Besides the doctors, I have very few people IRL to discuss with.

ALL of us had the fear before surgery.
I can tell you without hesitation its quite possibly the greatest gift I ever gave myself.

At 50 you still have MANY good years in front of you.
I wouldn't hesitate.
If you have the time, money and resources.... MOVE ON IT.

Best wishes.

If you are not confident then don't do it. And your fear of ending up with a non-functional penis is not irrational. The chances are statistically low, but exist.

I canceled a procedure in 2022 at the age of 48. Now I am 50 and a bit more ready to take the irreversible plunge. I have a surgery scheduled in December

I also am wary of the Titan and plan on the AMS CX. If your doctor doesn't give you a choice and says he only does one I would see another doctor.

Does anyone know if Eid does AMS at all?

No need to over think this. It is your chance to have a functional working penis. Waiting can cause loss of size.
As bad as my recovery was I would do it again in a minute now that I know the difference it made to my life.

Mark1974 wrote:If you are not confident then don't do it. And your fear of ending up with a non-functional penis is not irrational. The chances are statistically low, but exist.

I canceled a procedure in 2022 at the age of 48. Now I am 50 and a bit more ready to take the irreversible plunge. I have a surgery scheduled in December

I also am wary of the Titan and plan on the AMS CX. If your doctor doesn't give you a choice and says he only does one I would see another doctor.

Does anyone know if Eid does AMS at all?

I believe dr. EID will do either AMS or Titan. He will decide when he tests you. For me he went with Titan because of my girth, and I decided ahead of time to do what he recommended
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