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Chronicling my implant journey (40)

Posted: Thu Nov 14, 2024 7:41 am
by Newstralian
Hi people, after having found this forum very useful, I’ve decided to give back and chronicle my journey here. Maybe it’s helpful for someone out there.

I'm a 40 year old male who's had ED for most of his life. I became so used to it that I basically avoided most sexual interaction or forced myself into it in hopes that it would make it better - it didn’t.

Doctors told me it was all in my head, so I tried everything from meditation to coaching for anxiety - didn’t help. Even in the best case scenario (turned on, in love, no stress, perfect location/setting) I would randomly not get it up, or lose it quickly.

Pills did kind of help but erections didn't last for very long, also a lot of positions never worked for me, particularly standing ones. I was told that's because I don't work out enough so I got fit and it made no difference.

When I recently moved countries and wanted a new prescription, they sent me to do a doppler ultrasound and discovered that I actually have a venous leak - and suddenly all the above made sense. I wish I had known 30 years ago.

Pills are having less and less effects and the side effects are getting stronger (massive headaches). After looking at my other options including injections, i've decided to go straight to nuclear and get an implant.

I figured I have probably about 10 years of looking pretty good and having lots of fun left in me and I realized how much my inability for erections has affected who I am dating, under what circumstances, and whether I approach women at all.

Currently 18 (7 inches) centimeters length and 13 centimeters (5.1 inches) girth. So if I lost length, it wouldn't be the end of the world, and women have told me before that I have “a soft head” so I guess I already don’t engorge a lot.

Side effect of the above issues was that I got pretty good at “everything else”, and I’m pretty active in the kink community, who is generally very supportive (most of my friends know of my plans), and I’m zero worried any of my play partners would find the implant weird. (Currently mostly getting comments like “can please I try when you’re healed?” or “does that mean you stay infinitely hard when I tie you up?”) :lol:

5 days to surgery, Dr.Love in Australia, who is high volume and seems well regarded from all I can gather. I’m slowly getting a bit stressed out though, because I am thinking about whether 15% erection fun with understanding people is better than potentially wrecking my dick forever….also stressed because I never had a major surgery. Having a bit of a cold feet moment and thinking of cancelling. :?

Any comments, tips, thoughts welcome.

Re: Chronicling my implant journey (40)

Posted: Thu Nov 14, 2024 9:35 am
by Stampede
Newstralian wrote:Hi people, after having found this forum very useful, I’ve decided to give back and chronicle my journey here. Maybe it’s helpful for someone out there.

I'm a 40 year old male who's had ED for most of his life. I became so used to it that I basically avoided most sexual interaction or forced myself into it in hopes that it would make it better - it didn’t.

Doctors told me it was all in my head, so I tried everything from meditation to coaching for anxiety - didn’t help. Even in the best case scenario (turned on, in love, no stress, perfect location/setting) I would randomly not get it up, or lose it quickly.

Pills did kind of help but erections didn't last for very long, also a lot of positions never worked for me, particularly standing ones. I was told that's because I don't work out enough so I got fit and it made no difference.

When I recently moved countries and wanted a new prescription, they sent me to do a doppler ultrasound and discovered that I actually have a venous leak - and suddenly all the above made sense. I wish I had known 30 years ago.

Pills are having less and less effects and the side effects are getting stronger (massive headaches). After looking at my other options including injections, i've decided to go straight to nuclear and get an implant.

I figured I have probably about 10 years of looking pretty good and having lots of fun left in me and I realized how much my inability for erections has affected who I am dating, under what circumstances, and whether I approach women at all.

Currently 18 (7 inches) centimeters length and 13 centimeters (5.1 inches) girth. So if I lost length, it wouldn't be the end of the world, and women have told me before that I have “a soft head” so I guess I already don’t engorge a lot.

Side effect of the above issues was that I got pretty good at “everything else”, and I’m pretty active in the kink community, who is generally very supportive (most of my friends know of my plans), and I’m zero worried any of my play partners would find the implant weird. (Currently mostly getting comments like “can please I try when you’re healed?” or “does that mean you stay infinitely hard when I tie you up?”) :lol:

5 days to surgery, Dr.Love in Australia, who is high volume and seems well regarded from all I can gather. I’m slowly getting a bit stressed out though, because I am thinking about whether 15% erection fun with understanding people is better than potentially wrecking my dick forever….also stressed because I never had a major surgery. Having a bit of a cold feet moment and thinking of cancelling. :?

Any comments, tips, thoughts welcome.

Good luck on your surgery!

Currently 18 (7 inches) centimeters length and 13 centimeters (5.1 inches) girth. So if I lost length, it wouldn't be the end of the world
Well... I also was 7inces (NOT bone pressed) and lost almost 2 inches. Trust me, it IS the end of the world.

Hoping the best for you

Re: Chronicling my implant journey (40)

Posted: Thu Nov 14, 2024 6:12 pm
by TexasMax
good luck to you my man. and welcome to the club.

Re: Chronicling my implant journey (40)

Posted: Thu Nov 14, 2024 11:44 pm
by Doggedly_positive
Co-incidentally, I read your post just after reading about Dr Love and I'm seriously considering booking surgery with him. He seems to be the best choice in Australia.

I had a RALP 6 weeks ago and although I'm continent and have had one spontaneous erection during the day a week ago, I'm not looking forward to less than great sex in the months ahead. My much (41 years) younger wife and I have had "floppy but fun" sex a few times since, but I miss hearing her gasp on first penetration with the solid (tadalfil assisted) erection I had before surgery.

After all the struggles you've had, I'm sure that you will be happy going this route. I may be right behind you.

So, good luck. Let us know how it goes.

Re: Chronicling my implant journey (40)

Posted: Fri Nov 15, 2024 2:52 am
by Newstralian
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Good luck on your surgery!

Currently 18 (7 inches) centimeters length and 13 centimeters (5.1 inches) girth. So if I lost length, it wouldn't be the end of the world
Well... I also was 7inces (NOT bone pressed) and lost almost 2 inches. Trust me, it IS the end of the world.

Hoping the best for you[/quote]

Dude! I'm so sorry to hear that! That sounds like a big loss in length! Most of what I read wasn't this intense. Did you have a special setup? Or are you still growing back?

Re: Chronicling my implant journey (40)

Posted: Fri Nov 15, 2024 2:53 am
by Newstralian
Doggedly_positive wrote:Co-incidentally, I read your post just after reading about Dr Love and I'm seriously considering booking surgery with him. He seems to be the best choice in Australia.

I had a RALP 6 weeks ago and although I'm continent and have had one spontaneous erection during the day a week ago, I'm not looking forward to less than great sex in the months ahead. My much (41 years) younger wife and I have had "floppy but fun" sex a few times since, but I miss hearing her gasp on first penetration with the solid (tadalfil assisted) erection I had before surgery.

After all the struggles you've had, I'm sure that you will be happy going this route. I may be right behind you.

So, good luck. Let us know how it goes.


I will keep you posted! I know one person on here had I bad experience, but I think they also had a tricky setup.

Re: Chronicling my implant journey (40)

Posted: Tue Nov 19, 2024 10:56 pm
by Newstralian
Day 1 post surgery

Woke up and feeling pretty okay. Everything is chill thanks to painkillers. I sleep on and off for the day.

Staff at Holmsglen is incredibly lovely. Dr. Love is friendly but likes to keep conversations short. First tells me I got a 24cm implant, then turns out it's a 22cm. Odd move, but considering my pre-op size it's fine either way - maybe he misspoke.

Left hospital around noon, only light discomfort, and some movements hurt a bit, but totally bearable.

Afternoon, mild pain in abdomen, but nothing major. Had stomach aches that were worse. Taking Osteo Panadol, gabapentin, don't need the harder stuff they gave me so far.

Expected worse, let's see how it goes.

Re: Chronicling my implant journey (40)

Posted: Wed Nov 20, 2024 3:11 am
by frwmw1
Dr Love is pretty good at getting the size right from what I've read on the forums over the years.

Re: Chronicling my implant journey (40)

Posted: Wed Nov 20, 2024 3:13 am
by Hope84
Congratulations! All the best for your recovery.

Re: Chronicling my implant journey (40)

Posted: Wed Nov 20, 2024 10:22 am
by cbinspok
Each day is better than the last, enjoy the recovery