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I've made the decision, the date is set. I want to have my sexuality back and this is the only way. But dang, there's no going back and I gotta admit I'm scared. What if it doesn't work? What if something goes wrong? I've had lots of operations for various things, three very serious back surgeries, hernia, hand, knee, prostate, never been this apprehensive. Tell me it's gonna be all right

mwm

Congratulations on your decision to move forward, and welcome to the forums.

Who is your doctor? Surgery is generally always scary unless you're crazy like me. I've been through this many times (8 IPP implants, many revisions and a malleable too).

I'm sure you'll be fine and have a great result, most people have no issues, but if you do all is not lost.

I have had many surgeries, one year 10. I always tell myself it will be what it will be. No need to dwell on it. More people have a good result than not. A good doc will try to get it corrected if there is an issue which there likely won't be. Do what you can to help your doc. Share any pertinent info that might help him. Be attentive and help double check things. You have an intimate relationship with your own body. You know it best, you live in it 24/7. If something seems off you may know it first and knowing early helps. Share what you know about your body. If there were issues in the past share them, if something worked well like a particular anethesia, maybe it would be a good choice again. I'm a firm believer in give your doc every tool available to work with, no making him guess. Outcomes are better that way. d

Yup, there's no going back. Going back to what? You said you want your sexuality back so you obviously don't have it. What is there to go back to? Just go forward. I think you are feeling what everyone feels/felt. Me too but I asked myself the same question, going back to what? There have been literally hundreds of thousands of these devices implanted in men for decades now and the satisfaction rate is into the 90 percent range. Your chances are VERY GOOD that your surgery will go well and once you have got past the recovery period, you will wonder what all the fuss was about and why you waited so long to do it. I am 5 months post surgery and I'm smiling this morning and so is the missus. Congrats on your decision. Go forward, there's nothing back there you want.

It's amazing to me what great advice and support comes bubbling to the surface on this forum. I conclude there are some great guys out there anxious to help us in the cue any way they can. Midwest man, I'm in the Midwest, I'm scheduled ahead of you, and guess what -- I'm scared like you. I'm waking up in the middle of the night questioning this. I'm sure looking back I'll wonder WHY but it seems when it's your Dick under the knife, it just is hard to come to grips with it. Opps, shouldn't have said "come to grips" for those just coming out of the procedure.

A great puzzlement is how some come out of surgery and report no significant PAIN, while the next guy reports the opposite. WTF/??

Twanger wrote:...A great puzzlement is how some come out of surgery and report no significant PAIN, while the next guy reports the opposite. WTF/??

As I mentioned in an earlier post this AM, everybody has a different procedure, a different pain threshold, and different healing. Discomfort is not a one-size-fits-all thing. But in the end the discomfort will be gone and you'll have a working penis.

First off, thanks everyone for the words of encouragement! I really appreciate it. I especially appreciated this:

Watsup wrote:Yup, there's no going back. Going back to what? You said you want your sexuality back so you obviously don't have it. What is there to go back to? Just go forward.

You're right Watsup! There is nothing to go back to but a limp penis, a disappearing penis, a non-useful penis. So I must look forward at what is to come! Can't do anything about the past. Second guessing if I should have had the surgery or not is stupid, I'm here and the decision was made so I have to move on.

Again, thanks everyone!

mwm