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Hello everyone i would first like to begin by saying that i appreciate the guts many of you have for sharing your stories on the internet and respect you for that. I am new to this and i want to share my story. I am 25 years old and i am in great physical condition. I play sports and i also have (HAD) other hobbies that kept me in top shape. My life turned upside down the beginning of this year. I was masterbating (like thousands of other normal guys do) and felt that when i cummed my sperm went flying out pretty damn hard but i didnt make much of it. ( i am not a "chronic masterbator i would only do it like 2 times a week). The next morning i woke up with the next symtptoms
-shaft and testicle numbness
-contraction of the penis and loss of girth and length
-Rubbery kind of feel to my skin and glans
-veins popped out alot more than usual
- it harder to urinate and shit
-penis has become very hard like a rock in a flaccid state
-my glans and spongy tissue do no fill up anymore
-no nightly errections/spontatnous
-feel a lack of blood flow (my penis doesnt begin to get hard when i see a sexy girl anymore like it always did
-premature ejaculation
-anorgasmia (i know because they next day i came on my girlfriend i didnt feel a thing)

As you can see a whole lot of fucked up shit happened to not only my penis but also to all senses down there. I started experiencing what many other online have called the "hard flaccid". Ever since then i have gone to 3 Urologists and they have prescribed me with Cialis for 2 months over night and some anxiety meds because they have said "its all in my head" (ive been in m body for 25 years and i respect their opinion but i know when something is not right, thats why im here!). Its only been 4 months since this happend to me but i have become really deppressed and i feel like im pushing my girlfriend away. the first week after this happened i was still able to have sex with my girl friend but only with drinking like 1 or 2 beers but even then i was numb and couldnt orgasm. She knows that something is wrong and all i have told is that i feel numb and that its not her fault at all. She has been very supportive with me so far.

When i explain my symptoms to the urologists they all give me the same confused look and have all prescribed me the same medicine with the same doppler exams. i have seen a psychologists and a psychiatrist and the psychiatrist said i was suffering from "dysmorphophobia" thinking i have an abnormality in my body when i really dont. Then i showed him the pictures and he gave me the same confused look every other doctor i have seen gives me. I do not have a history of mental illness and neither does anyone in my family. Basically i have come to realize that the doctors just want to either give me ED meds or anti depressants and send me on my way.

I really do not want to live with this problem and im currently taking generic viagra and cialis to help me have sex with my girlfriend (she doesnt know im taking them). from what the doctors have told me an from what i have read i could only keep pulling this off for maybe another year or two. but the psychological aspect of having ED along with lack of pleasure is destroying me. i love having sex and i have been with many women and this i cant accept like everyone else wants me to and move on. I am really considering an implant and contacted Dr. Kramer the other day. I have come to the point where i can accept losing sensation in my penis but i cant accept losing my errections. I would like your help guys please answer any of the following questions and i would really appreciate it

1.) Has anyone else had an implant done because of the "hard flaccid" or any other self induced injury with positive results?

2.) Has anyone that has had their surgery with Dr. Kramer loss any length?

3.) I am paying out of pocket for Dr. Kramer does anyone know the total cost?

4.) i am currently 5.5 inches in length erect 5 inches stretched. does the implant give you only your stretched length or erect length?

5.) How many of you have a "wobbly head" my glands dont fill up with blood that much anymore so should i be worried about this?

6.) from 1-10 how much sensitivity is lost after the surgery (i probably have like 5/10 of what i used to have and cant risk losing more)

7.) Does my situation call for an implant?

i would appreciate nay responses. thank you all!

Twenty-five is pretty young to consider an implant, mate. Because of your age I recommend going to a top urological medical facility for a full workup before making any decisions. While implants are not covered by health insurance such workups generally are. It's possible to lose some length after the surgery but the chances of that happening are greatly reduced by being operated on by a top surgeon who does a lot of implants. Others here have reported that Dr. Kramer charges $20,000.

KMeister

Kmeister thanks for your reply! i appreciate it!

If i do decide to get the surgery i would only get it with Dr. Kramer since i wouldnt want my dick to be in someone elses hands. I have had a doppler test and it showed that i had good blood flow. i have checked my testosterone, STDS, prostatitis infection, and urine. all came back clean. im not sure what other tests i should have done? i feel like my ED is getting worse each month that passes. I know its not psychological because (heres goes another story)
Ive had sex with a 38 year old beautiful and sexy woman. I remember being really nervous as we started kissing and i couldnt get it up. I KNEW that i was having performance anxiety so i told her that i was nervous and had never been in this situation. so i asked her if we could just lay there for a bit and talk. and she was really nice about it and we did exactly that. about 10 minutes later of talking and laughing i began to get hard just by feeling her a little and we had sex the rest of the day. THAT IS PERFORMANCE ANXIETY and i tell the doctors i know the difference. I used to even have a case of premature ejaculation but i just practiced on not cumming and laid of the porn for a while and it went away. So i can say that ive faced Performance anxiety and premature ejaculation and i KNEW i was experiencing these and faced them and overcame them. But now i know i have a much bigger problem since i have the desire but just cant anymore. NOW i just feel like my body doesnt cooperate with me and that even when im relaxed i cant. Any suggestions or similar experiences i would greatly appreciate it.

Well my advice is very much in line with KMeister's.
Don't go ahead with the implant at this stage, that'd be crazy.
You are only 25, and you have only had these problems for a few months.
Besides, pills seem to work for you as far as I understand from your posts.
If I was 25 and could choose between having an implant or having good effect from pills - I'd choose the pills for sure. 100%.
And there is nothing that says they'll only work for 1-2 years. They can work for 2 years, 20 years or 50 years. You'll just have to see.

Plus, the beauty with the pills is that you buy yourself time to possibly get your problem fixed.
If you get implanted, you're doomed to have a plastic prosthesis in your dick and a pump in your scrotum for the rest of your life and never ever have a blood induced erection ever again.

So take it easy. Hold your horses.
Having an implant is not perfect either, especially not for a physical active 25-year old.

@merrix Thanks for your reply! i have seen some of your comments on other discussions so i really appreciate it

I find myself taking a 25mg generic viagra every day and every time i see my girlfriend. im scared i will quickly grow a tolerance. How long did pills work for you? and how often would you take them? I think your right on the part where i should wait a little longer until i know forsure whats going on. Its just really hard psychologically to deal with this at "such a young age". The thing is i dont want to lose my girlfriend over this since its making me a different person. How do you like your implant and what was your pre op length and girth compared to post op?

Just because of your question about "from 1-10 how much sensitivity is lost after the [implant] surgery?" I offer the following: I lost no sensitivity after my implant was put in. And I have heard some guys talk about having even more sensitivity after the implant is inserted because just by being hard the penis is stimulated more than when not hard. (But that's kind of an individual thing based on anatomy, etc.)

I would suggest you read all the responses and than take all your medical records to Dr. Kramer for him to review. He will not place an implant without knowing you need one. He did my surgery and it has been the best decision I made. I am much older and waited for years to get fixed. My Late wife fought cancer for three years and I was having trouble for 10 years before she passed in 2011. I should have done this much sooner even if I had to pay. Sometimes AMS will provide assistance with the cost. I put it off and we paid for that decision.

Your medical records can be sent to Dr. Kramer NOW which will allow him to review and even share with other doctors at the University of Maryland for more input. I have seen others here who were 29 and also had an implant placed. Why suffer when it is not needed. Remember, at your age you will probably need another implant in the future as they wear out and being 29 it will. To see the recovery and help answer questions, read "My Journey" here under implants. One more thing, I am engaged and I have the full support and help of my lady. She is thrilled with it and always there for me. You need to decide if your lady is one who you can share with. If so, have her with you when meeting the doctors and through the whole process.

If you have question, let me know and good luck

Have you been tested for venous leak?

I'm with the other guys here in that there is no way you should investigate an implant at this time until you have all other causes investigated. An implant is an irreversible procedure as the corpus cavernosa is eliminated in order to insert the cylinders used in a penile implant.

ED2013 nailed it. You should definitely be checked first for a venous leak (it generally is categorized as one of the only forms of erectile dysfunction that affects younger men). Many of the symptoms that you have described are indicative of that situation. If it is severe, it very well could lead to the necessity for an implant, but let the professionals decide that.

I should mention that if an implant is the only way, it is an excellent solution. I have one and my wife an I both agree that sex has never been better. So don't get depressed and by all means do not push any relationships away. Your girl sounds great.

@dirtman1993 i Did see your story and your youtube video (like 3 times) i appreciate your response

I think you are right and i should give it time but its just killing me psychologically. I was used to having such a good and normal sex life and now im not confortable in my own body. My confidence is fading. Im not sure if telling my gf about this issue will make things easier or more difficult.

I know you did your surgery with Dr. Karmer and i would like to ask you about your preop size and post op size.
have you lost any length or girth?
Do you glans still fill up during sex?
From 1-10 how similar is your implant to a natural errection?