32 year old. 11+ years with ED. Finally bit the bullet.
Posted: Fri Sep 23, 2016 1:14 pm
Thank you gentlemen for having this place to share on a topic that feels like such a shameful secret anywhere else. I've been browsing these forums for years looking for advice and help, and that all finally culminated in me getting a Coloplast Titan implant on 9/9/16. 14 days post-op. I'm hoping this will be the start of a new chapter.
When I was 21, I married my high school sweetheart. On our wedding night, we attempted to have sex for the first time (both were virgins), and I found I wasn't really able to penetrate her for longer than a few seconds. We chalked up to newness and performance anxiety, and figured we'd try again tomorrow. Fast forward a few weeks of frustration and borrowing of some viagra pills, and I found myself at the doctors. Every professional I talked to said the same thing- you're young, you're healthy, you're just overthinking it. He prescribed me some cialis to boost my confidence, and sent me on my way.
The pills worked okay, but only if we started and finished within a few minutes. We used them for the next couple years with varying degrees of success. It grew more and more difficult to want to submit my wife to what seemed to be painful, quick sex, or sex that ended with me deflating and feeling ashamed. I went to a urologist who ordered a cavernosography, and I was diagnosed with significant venous leak. Being from the middle of nowhere, he recommended a few specialists, and I landed on one in Boston- Abraham Morgentaler. I traveled to visit a few times over the next couple years, and we tried some various hormone therapy methods, but ultimately was told, it's venous leak. There's no cure. Keep using the pills if they work for you, and when you're ready, the only solution is an implant.
As an otherwise healthy 23 year old, an implant seemed insane. Was it really all in my head? Did I really want to do something so irreversible at such a young age? What if something went wrong? Besides, we could KIND OF have sex. So I just kept up with the Cialis. Years turned to a decade of marriage, and the pills didn't work very well anymore. A "successful" sexual encounter with my wife happened maybe one out of every four or five times, and the anxiety was crippling. Without saying so, my wife was clearly terrified that sex was going to end in my being disappointed and ashamed, and we both avoided sex. After going back and forth with my local urologist (who advised AGAINST an implant, saying people who got them never really liked them), I traveled back to Boston some 7 years later to say I wanted the implant.
Unfortunately Dr Morgentaler was no longer working with patients unless they paid an annual $5,000 to be in a specific club, but one of the people he trained, Dr William Conners met with me and agreed to do the surgery.
So that's my story. Here I am 14 days after the procedure. I'd be happy to answer any questions, post any pictures of the process, anything to help someone going through the mess of ED. Thank you guys for your boldness and your bravery. Hopefully it can continue to bring brothers out of the darkness and into the light.
When I was 21, I married my high school sweetheart. On our wedding night, we attempted to have sex for the first time (both were virgins), and I found I wasn't really able to penetrate her for longer than a few seconds. We chalked up to newness and performance anxiety, and figured we'd try again tomorrow. Fast forward a few weeks of frustration and borrowing of some viagra pills, and I found myself at the doctors. Every professional I talked to said the same thing- you're young, you're healthy, you're just overthinking it. He prescribed me some cialis to boost my confidence, and sent me on my way.
The pills worked okay, but only if we started and finished within a few minutes. We used them for the next couple years with varying degrees of success. It grew more and more difficult to want to submit my wife to what seemed to be painful, quick sex, or sex that ended with me deflating and feeling ashamed. I went to a urologist who ordered a cavernosography, and I was diagnosed with significant venous leak. Being from the middle of nowhere, he recommended a few specialists, and I landed on one in Boston- Abraham Morgentaler. I traveled to visit a few times over the next couple years, and we tried some various hormone therapy methods, but ultimately was told, it's venous leak. There's no cure. Keep using the pills if they work for you, and when you're ready, the only solution is an implant.
As an otherwise healthy 23 year old, an implant seemed insane. Was it really all in my head? Did I really want to do something so irreversible at such a young age? What if something went wrong? Besides, we could KIND OF have sex. So I just kept up with the Cialis. Years turned to a decade of marriage, and the pills didn't work very well anymore. A "successful" sexual encounter with my wife happened maybe one out of every four or five times, and the anxiety was crippling. Without saying so, my wife was clearly terrified that sex was going to end in my being disappointed and ashamed, and we both avoided sex. After going back and forth with my local urologist (who advised AGAINST an implant, saying people who got them never really liked them), I traveled back to Boston some 7 years later to say I wanted the implant.
Unfortunately Dr Morgentaler was no longer working with patients unless they paid an annual $5,000 to be in a specific club, but one of the people he trained, Dr William Conners met with me and agreed to do the surgery.
So that's my story. Here I am 14 days after the procedure. I'd be happy to answer any questions, post any pictures of the process, anything to help someone going through the mess of ED. Thank you guys for your boldness and your bravery. Hopefully it can continue to bring brothers out of the darkness and into the light.