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I'm in my mid-20s and I'm considering implants. (my ED doesn't respond perfectly to pill or injection and i dont want to use injection)
Women's reactions, infection, and natural appearance are my main concerns.


I posted my story on the university Internet forum I graduated from (it is anonymous, of course)
The women said they can totally understand if their boyfriend is in the same situation as me.

I was relieved to see that, but here at FrankTalk, someone says his wife is negative about the implant and just calls it mechanical device.


of the two what type of woman is more than other?

(because i'm non american my english may be clumsy. sorry)

benefitter wrote:I'm in my mid-20s and I'm considering implants. (my ED doesn't respond perfectly to pill or injection and i dont want to use injection)
Women's reactions, infection, and natural appearance are my main concerns.


I posted my story on the university Internet forum I graduated from (it is anonymous, of course)
The women said they can totally understand if their boyfriend is in the same situation as me.

I was relieved to see that, but here at FrankTalk, someone says his wife is negative about the implant and just calls it mechanical device.


of the two what type of woman is more than other?

(because i'm non american my english may be clumsy. sorry)

My wife says she never thinks about it.

Larry

My wife loves it, I’m completely healed and wife says I look natural except I’m bigger and fuller than before surgery

I have not counted the number of men here who report positive and negative feelings of their partners but I think the favorable / unfavorable split is greater than 90 / 10. Statistics says we should be suspicious of those figures because the population of members here all voluntarily joined. So, the means the members here selected themselves to report on their experiences This puts a bias on any statistics.

Some prior threads are so illuminating, I made a list. Read them, especially this one,

viewtopic.php?f=6&t=6513

which starts out
by 1023km » Sun May 29, 2016 10:31 am
Hi guys! I thought hearing from a women might be helpful for some of you so here goes...Me and my boyfriend are 23 - "

The firs page of responses were from members who did not believe the author was actually a 23 years-ole femal partner of an implanted man. Ignore those skeptics. I believe 100% that the poster (1023km+ is real. It is a shame that she does not participate more.

Other threads to read:
Advice for Women
Wife's perspective
Making her man hard -- wife's perspective
Erection: Organic or Mechanical
Re: Advice for women
Female acceptance
Young man's biggest concern about implant
How should I tell women about my implants

Having said that, there are some women who take a "pride of authorship" over the erections they produce in their men. These women miss the spontaneity of the naturally-occuring erection. But most women I have heard of appreciate the fact that an implanted penis can stay erect nearly forever. No matter how it is produced (naturally, chemically or mechanically), the endurance factor is VERY important to a woman's satisfaction.

(Edit)
The most important thing about your woman is how she feels about YOU, not your penis. If she likes you, how you achieve your erection is not as important as you she feels about you.

If you are just in a physical relationship, it probably will not matter, either, because how you USE your penis (and any other parts of your body you use on her) is likely to be more important to her than how you got your erection.

Having said that, some women do have a problem with getting started (and more to the point, how YOU get started) But, once she knows you have an implant and gets over that starting point, the issue of the implant ceases to be an issue.

Accidental double post instead of an edit.

After years of both my wife and I being frustrated by my ED, she is very happy that once again I am fully able to please her sexually.

Are you familiar with a young guy here who goes by the name dustyknox? If you have not read his posts, please do. He had casual sex with several women, who he was able to please without them even knowing he had an implant. Then he met a woman who he wanted a longer relationship with. After having sex, he decided to tell her and she said it didn’t matter.

I don’t think there is a guy here who doesn’t wish he could have the perfect natural erection, but both for us and the women who love us. An implant that works and satisfies is a great alternative. My thought is if the relationship is strong, an implant is liked at as a positive. If there are other issues, an implant is probably going to be another thing to complain about.

Greg

Most women don’t even know what an implant is.

ED2013 wrote:Most women don’t even know what an implant is.

Until she stumbles across the pump or you tell her or she begins to wonder why your erection doesn't go down after orgasm.

Women are not dumb, but they do have a tendency to not confront/question men (male egos are often quite fragile on certain subjects). Particularly if she is gratified by aspects (sexual or other) of the relationship, she is likely to be reluctant to risk her happiness by "rocking the boat", especially if the boat rocks her world.

So, if a woman figures out that you have an implant (because she is not dumb), she may PLAY dumb and go along with your decision not to tell her. Most women are cooperative that way. My suggestion (for myself) is once she indicates that she really likes sex with your penis, there is no downside to telling her how you got that way.

There are likely as many possible responses as there are women.

as dg_moore states "there will be as many different responses as there are women". So it is hard to generalize here. As we have heard over and over again, we at franktalk like to believe that most women will "put up with the implant" if they like the man. But, I must agree with Lost_sheep that there are many women who have a "pride of authorship" in being able to excite their man enough to see a tangible, visible erection. Being able to get her man "erect and hard" proves to a woman that she is sexy, and that she is attractive to her mate. If that proof is gone, then some women, especially the neurotic and sexually insecure ones, will be bothered by the notion that the bionic man's erection is "fake."
This has been discussed by an expert, Virginia Sadock, MD in New York who discusses the fake nature of a viagra induced erection (something some women also find disturbing) and here is Dr Sadock's opinion:

Dr Virginia Sadock states:
"....Some women think ED drugs make men amorous and that their presence isn’t required." “What a lot of women need to be turned on is the feeling that they’re desired,” adds Virginia A. Sadock, M.D., director of the program in human sexuality at New York University Langone Medical Center. “So with Viagra, they think, Oh, it’s not me he wants; it’s the Viagra talking. In my practice, I spend a lot of time reassuring them that this isn’t the case — and I tell men they must reassure the women too.”

My wife is bothered by the fact that she is not able to make me hard; however, I do know that her orgasms are far far better now that I have been implanted. She now has some real toe curling, seriously explosive orgasms which are way better than what she had even during our honeymoon years ago. So, I think that, from her perspective, this was a worthwhile trade.

Of course, the point is that facing sex with the problem of a "limp, erectile dysfunctional, dick" is 100 times worse then having to deal with the whining of an insecure and/or neurotic woman who wishes to have visual validation that she is able to author a great erection in her bed partner.

Moral of this story: "only get the implant if you have severe erectile dysfunction which is refractory to pills"
Second Moral of the story: "own your situation and act with confidence" (in other words, if you are bald--own it, if you are bionic and need to pump up--own it) None of us are perfect, and we need to try to feel confident in our own skin.