needhelp wrote: how do you pump it with out them seeing you?
I never felt the need to conceal my implant. But I do feel that concealing the pumping up process is polite. So, I have some tactics that might work for you. And I added in some speculations I think might also work for you.
Start out the evening partly inflated. 1/4 to 1/2, whatever is convenient to not appear too "eager".
Depending on how the disrobing process proceeds (will she be feeling you up through my clothes, etc?) a discreet pump once in a while through my pocket can increase size and firmness.
Any time you reposition yourselves (especially if disrobing has proceeded) a discreet pump can be accomplished.
Most women will allow you a bit of privacy to put on a condom. If she wants to put on the condom for you, of course, you should be fully inflated by that time, so that is a different situation.
Excusing oneself to urinate is a popular way to give yourself enough privacy and time to get fully inflated.
If you perform cunnilingus on her she cannot easily see anything you are doing.
A woman accustomed to her man being erect as soon as any intimacies begin might wonder that your erection does not follow the usual timeline, but consider that a woman who has decided to have sex with you is not likely to change her mind as long as your penis is larger/harder each time she has a chance to tell.
DO PRACTICE pumping up one-handed with each hand. Know exactly how long it will take you and make sure you do not make strange facial expressions or take on odd postures as you do.