Sick and tired of weak erections. Need emotional support and no one to talk to about this.

[Kevzx1]

Hi all. I’m a long time lurker and first time poster. I’m depressed that I have this condition. I still don’t know how I got it or why I even have this. I just know that it all started when I was 12 years old. It happened overnight. I remember sleeping one night and the next morning my erections were weaker than usual. Still to this day I don’t know how I got this horrible condition. When I was 15 I tried to go to the urologist to see if they can find out what’s wrong but the urologist didn’t want to treat me because I was a minor at the time. Ever since then I stopped trying to find out and had to deal with this disease alone because I didn’t tell anyone about it. I’m sick of having this disease. I’m 27 years old now. So I had this for 15 years and it feels like I been robbed. I feel like I wasted 15 years of my life not getting this fixed. In that time frame I had many opportunities to enter a relationship with different women but I turned it down or avoided it because I was afraid I couldn’t satisfy them in bed so I missed out on many opportunities. And now I’m depressed because I just realized those 15 years I’m never going to get back. I compare myself to other people who are around 21 to 25 and they all have girlfriends and are living it up right now. But for me I missed out on all those chances because of this stupid disease. Pretty soon I’m going to be 30 in a few years and I’m afraid if I don’t get this fixed then I’ll continue to be alone.

I accepted that there is no cure for this disease few years ago but I just started to become depressed about this recently because of this girl at work that I been talking to. I like her a lot and I can tell she likes me and she would always send me signals that she’s into me and that she wants to have sex but I keep putting it off and making up excuses and telling her that I’m busy with school and can’t come over to her house. I’m very afraid to get intimate with her because I know I won’t be able to satisfy her while having this disease and she works at my work place so I’m afraid that she might think I’m gay or something and then tell other people. My parents think I’m gay and all my guy friends who all have girlfriends probably think I’m gay as well and I hate it. I thought about just ending my life at one point because what’s the point of living life alone? I had girlfriends before and I’m pretty sure they all knew there was something wrong with me down there but we never talked about it.

On top of all this, I was diagnosed with chronic bacterial prostatitis a few years ago but I had prostatitis when I was 20 years old since i noticed symptoms around that age. Having Ed and chronic prostatitis is the worst combination and I wouldn’t wish it on anyone. Ever since having prostatitis my orgasms became very weak and doesn’t feel as good as before and my libido is almost non existent. I am currently in the process of trying to beat this prostate infection that I have for 7 years already but I don’t know what’s going to happen. I’m planning on taking phages which are good viruses that only kill specific bacteria so they don’t affect the good gut baxteria in your stomach. And they can destroy bio films that the bacteria creates which increases the chances of getting rid of the infection. This is the advantage they have over antibiotics (which are bad for you).

I don’t know what’s going to happen though. I’m not sure if I’m even going to be cured from chronic prostatitis. I really want to get penile implants but before I can do that I have to cure prostatitis first. It just sucks so bad that i have these two awful conditions. I don’t talk to any of my friends anymore and I’m a loner now so I don’t know who to turn to for support and guidance. I really don’t what I’m going to do if I can’t cure these two diseases. I’d probably just give up on life. I’m just tired of carrying all this weight alone.

Anyways back to the ED part,

My erections are very weak and I noticed over time there is a bend at the base of my penis (it bends downwards like a hook). I don’t get morning wood and haven’t got it for a long time. I’ve tried cialis and other similar drugs but they don’t help so I think I may have a venous leakage, or maybe peyronies or even both. I’m not too sure.

Thank you for taking your time to listen to my story and sorry for the long post. Just wanted to tell somebody I don’t want to deal with this alone anymore

[Hero83]

Hello, I have a lot of empathy for you after reading your post. Know that you aren't alone in your feelings, sexual dysfunction is difficult for anyone. I felt somewhat hopeless at one point and I found it helpful to seek out a urologist that specialized in sexual dysfunction. For emotional support, if you have access to it, you may find mental health therapy to be beneficial. I know ive benefited from it greatly over the years. I wish you the best of luck. Try not to give up hope.

[Kevzx1]

Thank you for the reply. I don’t have health insurance right now and I don’t make a lot of money and I’m currently saving up money to get rid of the prostate infection first so I’m not in the position to see a specialist at the moment.

Right now I’m in a situation where the girl at my work place is constantly sending me signals that she wants to get intimate and i really don’t know what to do. I’m afraid she will not like me anymore if I tell her I have ED or she might look at me differently like there is something wrong with me. I rather have her see me as the guy she likes than see me as a guy who has erection problems. This sucks so bad. I been in this position before but not with someone who I work with and who I see everyday. I don’t want things to change between us but she wants to take things a step further. I’m thinking about just telling her that I like her but we can’t be together at the moment but I don’t want to hurt her at the same time. Sorry I know this isn’t a relationship or dating forum but I don’t know who else to talk to about this. It has been stressing me out at work and I see her almost everyday. I’m pretty sure there are guys on this forum who dealt with the same situation...it just sucks so bad that you like this girl and she likes u but u can’t do anything about it

[Larry10625]

Hi all. I’m a long time lurker and first time poster. I’m depressed that I have this condition. I still don’t know how I got it or why I even have this. I just know that it all started when I was 12 years old. It happened overnight. I remember sleeping one night and the next morning my erections were weaker than usual. Still to this day I don’t know how I got this horrible condition. When I was 15 I tried to go to the urologist to see if they can find out what’s wrong but the urologist didn’t want to treat me because I was a minor at the time. Ever since then I stopped trying to find out and had to deal with this disease alone because I didn’t tell anyone about it. I’m sick of having this disease. I’m 27 years old now. So I had this for 15 years and it feels like I been robbed. I feel like I wasted 15 years of my life not getting this fixed. In that time frame I had many opportunities to enter a relationship with different women but I turned it down or avoided it because I was afraid I couldn’t satisfy them in bed so I missed out on many opportunities. And now I’m depressed because I just realized those 15 years I’m never going to get back. I compare myself to other people who are around 21 to 25 and they all have girlfriends and are living it up right now. But for me I missed out on all those chances because of this stupid disease. Pretty soon I’m going to be 30 in a few years and I’m afraid if I don’t get this fixed then I’ll continue to be alone.

I accepted that there is no cure for this disease few years ago but I just started to become depressed about this recently because of this girl at work that I been talking to. I like her a lot and I can tell she likes me and she would always send me signals that she’s into me and that she wants to have sex but I keep putting it off and making up excuses and telling her that I’m busy with school and can’t come over to her house. I’m very afraid to get intimate with her because I know I won’t be able to satisfy her while having this disease and she works at my work place so I’m afraid that she might think I’m gay or something and then tell other people. My parents think I’m gay and all my guy friends who all have girlfriends probably think I’m gay as well and I hate it. I thought about just ending my life at one point because what’s the point of living life alone? I had girlfriends before and I’m pretty sure they all knew there was something wrong with me down there but we never talked about it.

On top of all this, I was diagnosed with chronic bacterial prostatitis a few years ago but I had prostatitis when I was 20 years old since i noticed symptoms around that age. Having Ed and chronic prostatitis is the worst combination and I wouldn’t wish it on anyone. Ever since having prostatitis my orgasms became very weak and doesn’t feel as good as before and my libido is almost non existent. I am currently in the process of trying to beat this prostate infection that I have for 7 years already but I don’t know what’s going to happen. I’m planning on taking phages which are good viruses that only kill specific bacteria so they don’t affect the good gut baxteria in your stomach. And they can destroy bio films that the bacteria creates which increases the chances of getting rid of the infection. This is the advantage they have over antibiotics (which are bad for you).

I don’t know what’s going to happen though. I’m not sure if I’m even going to be cured from chronic prostatitis. I really want to get penile implants but before I can do that I have to cure prostatitis first. It just sucks so bad that i have these two awful conditions. I don’t talk to any of my friends anymore and I’m a loner now so I don’t know who to turn to for support and guidance. I really don’t what I’m going to do if I can’t cure these two diseases. I’d probably just give up on life. I’m just tired of carrying all this weight alone.

Anyways back to the ED part,

My erections are very weak and I noticed over time there is a bend at the base of my penis (it bends downwards like a hook). I don’t get morning wood and haven’t got it for a long time. I’ve tried cialis and other similar drugs but they don’t help so I think I may have a venous leakage, or maybe peyronies or even both. I’m not too sure.

Thank you for taking your time to listen to my story and sorry for the long post. Just wanted to tell somebody I don’t want to deal with this alone anymore

Good morning Kev;
Welcome to Frank Talk. First, I would like to suggest that you NOT get diagnosed. There are insurance companies that pay for ED treatments but not with a pre-existing condition. Try to find an insurance company that pays for implants (most expensive treatment) and then after you get that, you can get diagnosed. I know it's sneaky but we do what we have to do. Cialis and Viagra sometimes produce different results and then there are injections. Viagra worked for me but the needles hurt, burned and as a result, killed the mood but there are several guys on here that have been successfully injecting for years. Should those fail, there is always the implant... Implant works great but is PERMANENT... you can never go back. Do not harm yourself... you would be robbing the world of a potential super stud if you did that. You say you have not had an erection since you were 12... can we take that to mean that you are a virgin? If so, you may want to try an evening with a "professional" lady to make sure you can't get it up and to prepare you for your first night with that hot little co-worker of yours. Should you have more questions or just wish to talk, you can call me anytime or PM me.

Larry
Moderator

[dtwarren1942]

As an interim solution to your ED, you might want to try using a doubled over 1/2 inch rubber band around your whole unit (behind your balls). Make sure you use lube to prevent pinching. It worked well for me before my ED became too severe.

Also, check out the Pumping Forum.

[ED2013]

I’ve been there. ED can be torture. Living hell. There is hope. You cannot control the past, but you can control the future. The solution is out there. I’m confident that you will have a fulfilling, normal sex life in the future. As far as the girl that likes you, I’d say go for it. It’s very possible that she could support you, and that would help a lot. I had a similar experience. I met a girl and she really liked me. I didn’t have my implant yet and had all the feelings you had. I took her somewhere nice outside with a beautiful view and just told her the truth. I told her that first off I really like you, but I have a problem. I have a rare condition that affects my penis and I can’t get hard. But I’m working on it and it will be fixed by surgery or other treatment. She was supportive and we had a lot of oral sex and used toys and fingers. It ended up helping me a lot mentally. On the other hand, I have been rejected as well and that sux, but in time I got over it. It’s just like baseball. Even the best hitters fail more than they get hits. The key is when you strike out, you gotta get back in the batters box and try again. You can’t get on base on the disabled list lol

[Kevzx1]

Thank you all for the replies and support. Your replies helped me feel better about this whole situation. I won’t give up that easily and will do everything I can to get all of this fixed. I’m going to try and stay positive for now and just hope for the best. Main priority right now is beating the prostate infection I had for so long. I almost have enough money for treatment with phages. After I deal with this I’m going to get an official diagnosis of what is causing my weak erections and probably do what Larry advised me to do with the insurance.I’m trying hard to stay strong right now and I’m really grateful for all your support and this forum. I should of joined a long time ago. As for the girl I think I’m going to tell her that I want to be with her but I have to do something before I can be with her and I don’t know how long it will take. I’m going to tell her that it’s something I have to do before entering in a relationship. If she doesn’t want to wait for me, that’s fine. At least she will still see me as the person that she likes rather than someone who has ED. Last thing I want is for her to feel sorry for me. If she does decide to wait for me then we will just continue how we are now but I don’t know how long that will last. That’s why I’m in a hurry to get all of this fixed ASAP. Thank you all again for the support.

[Mazzio]

I have been in the same situation as you. I have always had ED. I realized the problem when I was about 15 years old. I could not get a proper erection. Never. The best erection that I had at that time was maybe a 80% and that vanished in a minute. When I was 18-20 old I had a series of dreadful experience with girls. I went to bed with nice girls but I could not get a proper erection. I was a good-looking guy and I could get any girl around. I started to avoid all circumstances where I could end up to be alone with girls. I turned my back to those girls that seemed to like me. I went to a doctor a few times when I was 20-22 years old. I explained them that I felt that there was a problem with blood circulation but they laughed at me and said that the problem was between my ears. This was way before Viagra. For almost 20 years I didn't not have any kind of attempt to have sex. I lived on my own. Some women thought that I am gay and probably still do. I had a job where there was a lot of parties and action going on. I usually stayed at home alone. Then about 1998 I was examined properly for the first time and I had a bad venous leak. I had known from the beginning that I had something like that.

I've been exactly in the same situation where you are now. I had a beautiful girl near me who was affected to me and I dreamed about her day and night. I was about the same age as you are now. I had the same thoughts as you have now. What should I tell her or should I walk away? I chose to walk away. I took distance her and did not talk to her. It took many months before she seemed to slowly forget me . When I think now that situation I think that it was the best to do. If I had tell her that "I am in love with you but I can''t have sex because I am sick", I have no idea what she would do. Most probably she would have told about that to some friend of her. My situation might have leaked out. That would have been dreadful.

So think very carefully what you do. You have a long life ahead of you and many things will happen. Maybe you should first get a proper treatment and try to catch her later?

In my case I never forgot that girl I was fond of when I was young. Finally a few years ago I did all that I could to find her. I was ready to tell her why I turned by back to her. I was ready to tell her everything. Then I got the news that she had died 6 months earlier. I took me many months to get over that. I still think of her almost every day.