How well has your partner adapted to sex with your implant?

[Lost Sheep]

I am 66 years old and beginning to experience some problems to the point I can see eventually not being able to have sex with my wife. I have read for years the benefits of having sex and what happens when you stop having intercourse. Sex has always been important to both of us. We are very sexual beings. My wife acts like she could do without sex and always says it’s not the most important thing. I agree it’s not the most important thing in a relationship but I can see what can happen when that closeness comes to an end. I have thought a lot about getting an implant when the time comes because I think it would help maintain our intimacy for years to come. Being able to fuck my wife just gives me something that I cannot get anywhere else...whereas not being able to fuck my wife doesn’t paint a very pretty picture for me. Honestly, I don’t think I would be a very happy or pleasant person to be around if I could not have sex. I need sex both physically and psychologically. I’m just being honest with myself and trying to see how I will react when I can’t get an erection an longer. My dad went through through this and I felt sorry for him. He just said that sex was longer an option for him. I understood what he was saying. I would really like to hear from anY guys who went through these feelings. I just think I would live a happier and longer life the longer I could fuck my wife. She is in much better shape than I am and loves sex. I want to fill her up as long as I possibly can!

Determining what the cause of your E.D. is should inform your decisions on what to do next. About your E.D. and also about other things.

E.D. is sometimes a warning sign for clogged arteries (which has real significance for your cardiac condition) or Diabetes or other conditions. When is the last time you had a full physical exam? (Rhetorical question - you don't have to answer.)

I took oral medications for as long as they were effective. Sildenafil (Viagra) Tadalafil and Levitra (can't remember the names on the generic bottles). Then researched the other methods of continuing sexual relations before finally deciding an implant was the way to go (for me). In the interim, I also got fairly good at cunnilingus (which is a viable option for many couples who want to maintain their sexual relations without the PIV (penis in vagina) aspect. It works for some and not for others, depending on the couple.

It is an important part of manhood to be able to get and maintain an erection, even if he does not have a partner. I have felt it, especially after getting the implant, though the psychology behind the improved self-image defies my understanding.

It is a wonderful thing when a couple has appetites for intimacy that match each other. Don't waste it. Act now.

I always advise taking the least invasive solutions first. Lifestyle changes, dietary health, frequent sex, pills when necessary, urethral suppositories or injections do work, vacuum devices can do two things (maintain health and elasticity of penile tissues as well as provide an erection usable for sex) and lastly, the drastic step of an implant (which pretty much completely destroys natural erectile function but does provide a pretty darn good hydro/mechanical substitute). There are other treatments (venous ligation, and others) and some promising research on the horizon (where much of it has been for 30 years and may continue there for an unknown length of time).

Most of the treatments I named do not involve irreversible changes/damage to your erectile function. My erectile function was such that losing all that I had was no loss, so an implant was an appropriate choice for me. AFTER I had fully informed myself on everything I could find.

Some people adapt to losing sexual capacity. I choose not to go easily, nor to "rage against the dying of the light", but to resist and overcome. I expect you will, too.

Getting back to your central question:

I would really like to hear from anY guys who went through these feelings. I just think I would live a happier and longer life the longer I could fuck my wife.

Just being able to get an erection was a boost to my feelings of well-being. Being able to please my lover, even more. Medical science has discovered that mere skin contact releases endorphins beneficial to a relationship with the other person and with oneself. And there is no more intimate skin contact than coitus, is there?

Mason Williams wrote: "She dove into the pool and I envied the water's ability to touch her totally." Sex comes pretty close to that, I think.

[tomas1]

I really think you nailed it.
I know several relationships where sex is in the past and so is love.

I know there are exceptions though.
I can guarantee you that sex has brought my wife and me much closer and possibly more in love.
59 years next month on 9/16.

[oldbeek]

I really think you nailed it.
I know several relationships where sex is in the past and so is love.

I know there are exceptions though.
I can guarantee you that sex has brought my wife and me much closer and possibly more in love.
59 years next month on 9/16.

Just keep monitoring that prostate cancer. Don't fuck the rest of your life up by treating it. In fact quit monitoring it. Stay away from the prostate snatchers.

[Lost Sheep]

I really think you nailed it.
I know several relationships where sex is in the past and so is love.

I know there are exceptions though.
I can guarantee you that sex has brought my wife and me much closer and possibly more in love.
59 years next month on 9/16.

Just keep monitoring that prostate cancer. Don't fuck the rest of your life up by treating it. In fact quit monitoring it. Stay away from the prostate snatchers.

Truism: "More men die WITH prostate cancer than FROM prostate cancer."

This is true because most prostate cancers are slow-growing. But there are fast-growing cancers and the slow-growers don't give any protection against acquiring the fast-growing ones. The slow-growing cancers do not have to be deadly to be problematic enough to justify surgery, either. And not all surgeries are removals.

If you get something, anything, cancer, diabetes, atherosclerosis, whatever, educate yourself. Don't let any healthcare provider or insurance company herd you unknowingly.

Knowledge is power. Use it to your betterment.

[vajim1]

My doctor keep telling me about watchful waiting and not to use radiation, so after waiting too long I ended up with recurrent cancer. So now after 2 years I am getting an implant on Sept. 5. Wife said she did not realize how much it had affected me. ???
Finally she is on board with it.
To have sex I had to get a shot of trimix, pump my dick up, put on a ring release pressure and pumpit up over the ring and repeat as it would leak out before I was done.

[Smetro]

I am 66 years old and beginning to experience some problems to the point I can see eventually not being able to have sex with my wife. I have read for years the benefits of having sex and what happens when you stop having intercourse. Sex has always been important to both of us. We are very sexual beings. My wife acts like she could do without sex and always says it’s not the most important thing. I agree it’s not the most important thing in a relationship but I can see what can happen when that closeness comes to an end. I have thought a lot about getting an implant when the time comes because I think it would help maintain our intimacy for years to come. Being able to fuck my wife just gives me something that I cannot get anywhere else...whereas not being able to fuck my wife doesn’t paint a very pretty picture for me. Honestly, I don’t think I would be a very happy or pleasant person to be around if I could not have sex. I need sex both physically and psychologically. I’m just being honest with myself and trying to see how I will react when I can’t get an erection an longer. My dad went through through this and I felt sorry for him. He just said that sex was longer an option for him. I understood what he was saying. I would really like to hear from anY guys who went through these feelings. I just think I would live a happier and longer life the longer I could fuck my wife. She is in much better shape than I am and loves sex. I want to fill her up as long as I possibly can!

The sooner the better I say......

[Lost Sheep]

I had a sex date with a woman who I had told weeks previously that I went bionic. We went at it four times that night and left a sizable wet spot on the bed. Pussies don't lie! LOL The day after she said that she wanted to ride it again, but knew that my new equipment was on a shakedown cruise. Neither the thought or the action was a concern for her. Unlike my partner, she has a very strong libido and gets wet.

Yeah, that was my plan, too. After my implant I intended to take my “hot rod with the rebuilt engine” on as many different road courses and race tracks as possible, Gymkana, Grand Prix, oval tracks, and park in as many varied carports and feminine garages as would have me. In an effort not only to have the experiences and education I missed during my decades of ED as possible but also to redeem the tremendous debt of orgasms I owed to the women in my past. They gave me orgasms for I was unable to reciprocate at the time. Alas, those wonderful women are absent from my life now, so I thought to redeem that debt of orgasms to women in my present and future.

That plan of promiscuity has fallen by the wayside, though.

The wonderful and marvelous lady who has accepted me as her lover owns my fidelity, which I will not violate.

Besides, she is not only eagerly accepting of me, but enthusiastic about trying anything under the sun, sexually. No number of women could provide the variety of sexual experiences as she is eager to share with me (and my rebuilt-engine “hot rod”).

Some men seek variety in their lovemaking life by bedding a variety of women. I have found as much variety as I ever could want - in a single woman.

And let it be known that a woman who knows you bed other women will not commit fully to you. But a woman who knows she is your “only” is far more generous in her lovemaking than ever she could be if she did not have that confidence.

My woman is such a river of love as that. And this river not only runs wide, but runs deep, as well. She commits to our sexual activities and passions MUCH more fully and deeply than any woman I have ever known.

Just one man’s opinion. I do value enthusiasm in sex and such enthusiasm is rare without commitment. Without commitment, there is always a little bit held back.

[Smetro]

Lost: really lovely words, you’ve put it in a nutshell.
I totally agree with you as I now seemingly live as you do.
Yes I have had some adventures over the last 2 1/2 years of being implanted and yes it involved several really amazing women. Previous to being implanted I was happily married to the love of my life for over 20 years but just as a bolt from the blue comes unexpectedly, life was turned upside down and she chose a new path.
What to do? I decided to open myself to new experiences and people(women).......I’ve learned much about myself and a whole lot about how women think and love.
My now permanent partner is just as you describe Lost, a treasure, a bottomless well of love and joy. She asks little but gives everything to those around her and that includes me.
I adore her and I will fulfill her sexual needs and desires completely
Because I AM BIONIC!

[TANGERINE]

There has been an interesting evolution of responses from my wife over the last 2.5 years that I have the implant:

a) first 6 months--she was glad to have her confident and happy husband back, and she liked the spontaneous sex . It is great to have no more waiting an hour with pills or running away to inject. Though, she really did miss the "validation of her sexuality by being able to author a strong erection in her man"

b) second six months--she got her hormones messed up and that led to a dried up pussy, so sex hurt and she was not real keen on long sex sessions with a big hard penis. BUT, she did (with my encouragement) decide to see a specialist gynecologist who worked with her to rejuvenate her vagina using estrogen creams and mona lisa and even some testostorone to boost her libido.

c) second year--pretty much our sex life has returned to what it was before I had ED. Importantly, I really do think that the sex experience for her is now much much better with the implant. Thanks to the girth and hardness and unlimited staying power, she orgasms from penis in vagina sex. She did not orgasm from my penis until I was on injections (since that also produced a super hard cock that lasted for a long time and before injection I had premature ejaculation). So, I would think she would crave sex all the time, but she just is not a hyper sexual woman. I think we all need to realize that most wives will not dramatically change into sex kittens just because you are bionic.
This "lack of changing your partner into a different sexual person" is a key concept: "the implant will restore you back to the state where you were before ED." In other words, it is a surgical cure for impotence that truly works; and it is most likely that a long in bed couple will pick up where they left off from the times when there was no ED (ie, return to their baseline sex frequency and libido). Importantly, we are traveling again to interesting places (because I love hotel sex) and she does put out more when in foreign lands -- so I have motivation to treat her to far away adventures !

d) Third year (this year)--we were having sex, and I reminded her that " I am adjustable and can be a little softer if needed". Her response "pump it all the way up baby, I want it as big and hard as possible." So, I guess her hormones and vagina rejuvenation worked. She loves the thrill of that first thrust.


In summary, we are a once a week couple (that is all she will put up with); but the spontaneity is great (she knows she can ask for sex anytime and I will gladly provide). The restorative features of the implant has truly helped my mood and confidence (life is fun again) even if I do not have sex as often as I would like. Having the implant is a surgical cure for impotence, and now I am "free from the worry and cloud" that used to hang over me when I had ED.

Finally, the knowledge that I can have sex at anytime for as long as I want and likely in a more powerful way then any non-bionic male gives me a certain swagger that just feels great in terms of peace of mind.

[David_R]

So happy for you (and your wife), Tangerine!