privacy

[Lost Sheep]

A big thank you and a big lol to all of ya'll that have responded. Really great answers!

Why keep your light under a bushel?

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see this thread for ideas
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[stephen54]

That question is one of the most asked in this forum and the answers range from "tell anyone who asks" (vanishingly few subscribe to this option) to not acknowledging any surgery at all (take a vacation to undisclosed locations-hard to pull off without at least some pictures).

The most popular in prior threads (of which there are many over the past couple of years) is to refer vaguely to "urological conditions" or more specifically to fixing a hernia.

Some elect to share with a select few friends, relatives or co-workers.

Very few men report over-inquisitive interrogatories. Most people respect others' medical privacy.

No one I have read just refers to "HIPPA forbids me disclosing that information.", but that is a possibility, too.

Use the "search" function to get a fuller view. You will find many answers you may not get in today's thread.

OMG so funny. That's what I told people, too...hernia. It's literally all I could think of to explain what I assumed would be the tentative wobbling walk for awhile. The word "hernia" must be roughly akin to the word "phlegm" or something, because people seemed to almost across the board mildly tense up and recoil. No one wants to talk about a hernia. I'm batting 100% so far. Other than my wife, only my best / guy friend will know and for me that's my sphere of interest in the story getting out. Hernia. Hernia. HERNIA. hahahahaah

[David_R]

I said that I had had urological surgery, and no one wanted any details.

[3rd-Nut]

You don't have to tell anyone. I was lucky enough that no one knew I had been gone a few days. If you have it done in the winter and you live in a cold climate no one misses you outside.
Tell them you had a colon resection for diverticulosis. I had that this summer. I told those asking, that the doctor actually removed the section by taking it out my rectum, which made it really sore. The questions stopped at that point. Who will know the difference? Tell them you had hemorrhoids removed, no one wants to ask any further questions. Tell them to watch those operations on youtube, if they want particulars.
Don't worry about it, unless you can't lie and keep a straight face.

[Txagq8]

Shoot, I’ve told some folks what I’m about to have done.

Very few know, however, that I’m on the schedule for January 22.

Hemorrhoids, hernias, colon resection are all good.

Another good one that shuts people up quick: a kidney stone the size of a grape.

You tell people that sitting in the ultrasound tank didn’t work, they went up your urethra with a wire loop and lassoed the grape size kidney stone, and pulled it out the only available exit.

It explains a lot of strange behavior below the waist, and I had it done. It wasn’t pleasant. I hope the implant isn’t too much worse than that.

[Gt1956]

If a funny walk is the only clue that they have to work with. Tell them that you pulled your sciatic nerve, doc said it would go away in 2-3 weeks.
Fell & cracked my tail bone would be believable.
There are just so many stories that you could use if you want privacy.

[David_R]

How about saying you had penis reduction because your dick was so huge?

[Bumble]

I told several very close male friends and family to include my sons. I know anything can go wrong with general anesthesia and if the worst thing happened, ie death, I didn't want my wife to have to tell those people who i love and trust why I was having surgery. The second reason is that i have something wrong with my body and it doesn't work, the way i need it, if it were my knee or hip or shoulder, i wouldn't think of any reason to hide it from them. I shared and it helped, they all gave me support during my recovery and none made fun of me. My older friends I told asked lots of questions and if was never more invasive then how it works. The same questions that guys have when they first find FT. the women who knew were also very supportive and asked similar questions of me. I have no idea what the ladies asked my wife, a few did ask if their husbands could talk to me and of course I said yes, anytime. a few have. hope you find who you can trust and share your story if you like. support is important.
Bumble

[Waynetho]

I am 70 and tired of the pills and injections and ready for the final frontier. Met with Dr Brian Kansas in Austin Tx this morning got scheduled for an inflatable miracle worker. I was very impressed with docs confidence, energy, presentation and demeanor.My question is how do you handle your privacy when friends, family and neighbors wonder why you are hiding out in the house and walking like a duck for however long it takes to get normal again?

When I went out to a fast-food restaurant after only a couple of days post-op, as I was walking in, I grabbed my crotch while attempting to resituate my penis in my pants and trying to get some twinges of pain to subside when I noticed a young female cashier at the counter looking my way. I simply apologized for the apparently inappropriate crotch grab and explained that I just had surgery a couple of days earlier. I didn't have to elaborate. I Simply explained that my apparent rude gesture was actually due to pain from a medical procedure. She shrugged it off and went about taking my order.

[Waynetho]

I said that I had had urological surgery, and no one wanted any details.

After I returned from my two weeks off after my 10/28 surgery, I was asked by a guy at work, why I had been off. I said something similar to your comment above and the guy said "AGAIN!?" The reason for his surprise was that in the middle of August I had a UroLift procedure and he remembered that I had been out a day after that procedure.