Merry Christmas to me.

[Jack317]

I have been an occasional lurker here who had a prostatectomy in 2013 and all my nerves were taken. I used to do injections which worked but were painful. I was in a long distance relationship so I didn't have a local willing participant and I think i shied away from even trying too much because of the fear of the injection not working and the inconvenience of trying to do it on the sly if I did meet a willing victim, er, girl. Anyway after a bunch of years now of looking down at a flaccid dick and having zero sex I have decided to take the plunge. December 26th Dr Warner at City of Hope in Glendora CA will be doing my implant. I don't know that I have any questions as I have seen pretty much everything here but wanted to introduce myself. My biggest fear at this point is that I waited too long and the combination of not being hard and the loss of the inch or so they say you lose from the prostate surgery itself will leave me with a less than appealing unit. I have been pulling on it in the shower trying to visualize what it will look like and hoping for the best. Was average size prior to the prostate cancer but never had any complaints and had lots of sex and long term relationships. I am doing this on the sly my 26 year old daughter and 5 year old granddaughter are living with me and I am telling my daughter I am having a hernia repair but wonder how obvious it may be while I recover? Last thing is I am trying to get back to work asap and have seen anywhere from a few days to a month here on other posts. I have a pretty high pain threshold and don't do physical labor (construction Superintendent) but will not be getting any narcotic pain medication just heavy duty Motrin so I am a little nervous about that too. Anyway I am rambling, but thankful for all who have gone before me, for all who have shared and helped me to make this decision. I am beyond excited and can't wait. My first sexual experience after implant I am quite sure will be as exciting as the day i lost my virginity.

[Agfa13]

Jack, congrats on arriving at your decision.
You may have to come clean with your daughter, and hopefully get her support, because the day of surgery, you will need transportation AND that transportation will be required to be there, so I don't think Uber or Lyft is allowed (but Hernia explanation sounds good to me). Also, you will feel crappy the day of surgery and after. We all respond differently in recovery, so don't know if you will be able to get back to work the following Monday after surgery. I had to take a week off, plus the rest of the surgery week...about 8 working days all together.
I was uncomfortable after surgery, could not sit up, had to sit towards the back of my ass because it felt like the taint area pushing was up into my guts and I was walking funny the whole time.
Your cock and balls may be swollen too.
Bottom line, you will require support from your family or a friend. You will probably be miserable for a while and can't do much of anything.
Clothes...you need some support underwear to cup your balls ONLY, and have your dick hang out. You will be sensitive. The articles of clothing are posted somewhere around this implant thread. Good luck.

[David_R]

Jack, after my prostatectomy in 2000, followed by two years of always soft and fearing atrophy, then an implant inserted in 2002, I am back to my "original" (meaning pre-prostatectomy) length of 5" hard/inflated (and my soft/uninflated length has grown from 2" to 3.5"!). Hang in there, brother.

[WhiteCane]

You’ll shoot your eye out, kid!

[Chiefy]

OP, no pain meds? There's NO WAY I could have done that. I've had 4 spinal surgeries...I know pain. everyone is different of course but I would absolutely get pain meds. if you don't need them, and some don't I hear, then great. I had to take them for 2 weeks, especially to sleep. Your back to work schedule might be optimistic too. I fly a desk, but couldn't go back for 9 days. You'll have 2 problems. Getting up and down is tender for a long time, the boys don't like the company, and finding the right clothes so you don't look like your watching porn at your desk is tough too. I wore sweats to work for a week (protruding too much in dress slacks). Once you can tolerate bending it more, you can wear a jock on the outside of your underwear to keep things in place...what I'm wearing as I type this. Good luck!

[Skier123]

Hey Jack, I just wanted to send you some good wishes. I am scheduled for dec 23rd with Dr. Levine in Chicago. I am optimistic and excited about the possibility of getting my life back.

Once I made the decision to have the surgery my anxiety about the whole process pretty much disappeared. Nothing more to do now but get 'er done.

Merry Christmas to us both, I hope.

[Jack317]

Thanks to all for the replies and yea I will be smart about getting back to work I imagine it will be tough to walk around for awhile. Not sure how to respond to each message individually? As far as the pain meds yea I’m a little concerned about that but my doc said he’s really against prescribing them. I have my pre op next week maybe I will see if I can plead my case I’ve never had an issue with them and while I understand the addiction fears a couple weeks isn’t gonna hook me. I had a full month of Percocet when I had my surgery and I am glad I did. My daughter and I are close so yea maybe I’ll confide in her my fear is that she’s gonna think it’s a cancer recurrence if I’m vague. Good luck to everyone I can’t wait for it to be over and healed so I can start stalking the young chicks!

[oldbeek]

Jack, I also had my RARP at city of Hope. I was Gleason 3-4, but they removed all my nerves also. Friend had one there. They took all his nerves also. Starting to wonder if that is just what they do at City ofHope. It sucks because after implant your dick is still dead but full of pumped up implant. No glans engorgment and very little feeling. I was not happy with C of H because I was told that I may need Cialis after rp. Then was told they removed all my nerves. My URO just said Warner was the best at C of H. Tried to find out how many implants Warner does. Couldn't get a straight answer. That is why I went to USC keck and DR Boyd. I was a super. also. No way you are going right back to work. Your entire dick will be super sensitive to touch ANYTHING including silk underwear. I built a tube to keep my wrapped up dick inside of for 2 weeks if I tried to wear cloths. Went naked mostly with loose shirt to cover myself. If the tail of that shirt just touched my dick, it would send me through the roof. I don't know what to do with the grand child but just tell your daughter what is going on. I am sure she has seen a hard dick. You will need to hang it out. Nudity is not a problem in our family, hell my daughter in law has even seen it. Best of luck.

[Gt1956]

Jack & any other single guys facing implant surgery. I would suggest trying to hire a CNA to help transport you home. At all of my wife's many surgeries. The hospital wouldn't let her go home alone. If that is an issue for you. Either no friend/family member available. Or maybe you would prefer to not broadcast this through your family network. Try arranging for a taxi/Lyft style ride service. Accompanied by a CNA. Not sure how to find one but I'm fairly sure that there are temp agencies that specialize in this.
Best of luck to you guys.

[Agfa13]

What is a CNA and did not know this was possible.
I had to hunt down my friends and see who was available day of surgery to take me home!