LookingUp wrote:So many possibilities, as to why she's no interest in sex or your daily Peacock display. Few woman are visually aroused. If you have one such, keep it a secret. Between the disconnect caused by years of ED (from any source), her menopause, body changes (dry Vag, weight gain) long marriage, most surly family issues that block intimacy. Recent Social movements in the News Daily, M2.
For most men, getting back to sex is much like finding out the Express Bus just started a new Route by your Cave. Just hop on and expect everyone on-board is of the same mind/desires. More than a few women regard "love making" as that, the need to be in Love to Make Love. To most guys, Sure I love you.... but this basic physical need needs resolve.
Wify and I started out with Side-by-Side, Skin-to-Skin. I had the beginnings of ED when we met, 11 years ago. Faught it with Pills and injections. She stayed on with me. And now, she's happy to be a roommate. Kisses are pecks your old Aunt or Grandma gave you at Christmas. The Spark is definitely gone. Resentment, negotiating a Business Deal. Is an Implant going to change all that? doubtful. so...
I do this for me. As an important part of my Pysch and physical pleasure. Much better than a fine cigar after dinner or a glass of Whiskey. Part of me long lost. If She can't see my sexuality is important enough for me to slice up my Penis, long term.... I'll get sex somewhere with a hard dick. I very much wish Her to participate but that is her decision.
Enjoy your body. If nudity is that important, join a Nudist Colony (or visit on vacation). Scratch your own itch. I believe your wife resents your display or she would've joined in by now. Just my thoughts... I haven't been right since my last divorce....
Lookingup
A lot of the whys are probably true. Is it ok with me? Yes and no. No because none of those are a physical condition that would prevent having sex. The dryness would be the only thing and a good lube would take care of that. Yes because you cant really change someone's mind if they aren't willing to do so. And I will never force my will on her. As far as her resenting me walking around nude, with or without an erection, she'll have to get over that. And actually she been more accepting of it. And she has never said, as of yet, why am I pumped up or that I need to let it off.
I said all along that the implant was for me. When l desided to get it it was for me and I told her so at the time. She said she was ok not having sex so dont it thinking she was missing sex. I didnt. If it brought back or sex life, great, but it was for me and my physical and mental wellness.
Now nudity . Is it important to me, no. Its not something I have to have or do. It is a pure pleasure. I am quite comfortable nude. And being nude around others. I did nude modeling for art classes for a few years and thourouly enjoyed it. I enjoy being nude and will continue to do so.
71. ED for about 10+ years to one extent or another. Implanted 9/14/2016 AMS CX 18+3 Fl/ Ky