Hello to all,
I am suffering from severe ED (25 years old) and have a date on wednesday. The chances that I will not get an erection are quite high - with my current medication I still need constant stimulation.
An implant is very probable in the summer -but I got to meet a wonderful girl and we already went on 1.5 dates - and now she is coming over on wednesday.
Besides the fact that this might happen, I try already to prepare myself how to react to the situation and how much I will/could tell her.
I d love to get some insights from you people. She is the same age I am and the situation is driving me nuts rn.
Additionally because of the ED I have very little experience which worries me as well.
Best,
(Important) date with severe ED - 25 yo - emotional advice
(Important) date with severe ED - 25 yo - emotional advice
1993
ED since 2012
nothing works properly
ED since 2012
nothing works properly
Re: (Important) date with severe ED - 25 yo - emotional advice
Mr. Skin
Sorry to hear about your ED problem. I am 66 yrs old and just had implant surgery on January 9,2020. I have done remarkably well and am on week three after my implant. My doctor wants me to wait six weeks before he let me start cycling and before activiating my implant. It's weird how different doctors have different routines for their patients. I cannot tell you anything about how sex is at this point because I have not exoerienced any sex yet. But I can tell you based on my feelings three weeks out that I would do this again in a heartbeat. I used trimix prior to my implant for four years and developed scarring on both sides of my penis. It grew more difficult as the weeks went by to inject successfully. If you have any specific questions I would be happy to answer them. I wish you all the luck in the world. God Bless!
Sorry to hear about your ED problem. I am 66 yrs old and just had implant surgery on January 9,2020. I have done remarkably well and am on week three after my implant. My doctor wants me to wait six weeks before he let me start cycling and before activiating my implant. It's weird how different doctors have different routines for their patients. I cannot tell you anything about how sex is at this point because I have not exoerienced any sex yet. But I can tell you based on my feelings three weeks out that I would do this again in a heartbeat. I used trimix prior to my implant for four years and developed scarring on both sides of my penis. It grew more difficult as the weeks went by to inject successfully. If you have any specific questions I would be happy to answer them. I wish you all the luck in the world. God Bless!
66 yr old male married 36 yrs use trimix four yrs, cilais and Viagra. trimix work well developed scarring on both sides had implant 1/9/2020 at UT Med Ctr, Knoxville, TN Dr. John Lacy.
Re: (Important) date with severe ED - 25 yo - emotional advice
Thanks for your answer, but I am not quite interested in information about the implant right now (but will certainly come back to you later) and more in how I should deal with my date. I am a bit lost ...
1993
ED since 2012
nothing works properly
ED since 2012
nothing works properly
Re: (Important) date with severe ED - 25 yo - emotional advice
notaes wrote:Mr. Skin
Sorry to hear about your ED problem. I am 66 yrs old and just had implant surgery on January 9,2020. I have done remarkably well and am on week three after my implant. My doctor wants me to wait six weeks before he let me start cycling and before activiating my implant. It's weird how different doctors have different routines for their patients. I cannot tell you anything about how sex is at this point because I have not exoerienced any sex yet. But I can tell you based on my feelings three weeks out that I would do this again in a heartbeat. I used trimix prior to my implant for four years and developed scarring on both sides of my penis. It grew more difficult as the weeks went by to inject successfully. If you have any specific questions I would be happy to answer them. I wish you all the luck in the world. God Bless!
1993
ED since 2012
nothing works properly
ED since 2012
nothing works properly
Re: (Important) date with severe ED - 25 yo - emotional advice
Well I guess first perhaps you’re worrying is premature, unless your relatively new girlfriend has already said she’s expecting you to have sex with her on the next date! If that’s the case, since this relationship is relatively new, I suggest honestly is the best policy.
We the forum don’t have enough info about your ED to give much advice. Like what has your doctor said? What’s the cause? What kind of medication are you on? All oral meds require manual stimulation to make your penis get erect! However, Trimix injection will just make it hard, in most cases. I’m thinking if you two are going to do the deal, her playing with you stimulating your penis manually will just be part of fore play! If it lets you down, it may be partly anxiety from worrying about it! But again, if it doesn’t work on this occasion, tell her what’s going on and you’re working on getting it fixed. If she isn’t supportive and doesn’t want relationship, is she really the woman you want or need?
We the forum don’t have enough info about your ED to give much advice. Like what has your doctor said? What’s the cause? What kind of medication are you on? All oral meds require manual stimulation to make your penis get erect! However, Trimix injection will just make it hard, in most cases. I’m thinking if you two are going to do the deal, her playing with you stimulating your penis manually will just be part of fore play! If it lets you down, it may be partly anxiety from worrying about it! But again, if it doesn’t work on this occasion, tell her what’s going on and you’re working on getting it fixed. If she isn’t supportive and doesn’t want relationship, is she really the woman you want or need?
Diagnosed venous leak. Going with injections rather than implant for the time being.
Re: (Important) date with severe ED - 25 yo - emotional advice
ETGuy71 wrote:Well I guess first perhaps you’re worrying is premature, unless your relatively new girlfriend has already said she’s expecting you to have sex with her on the next date! If that’s the case, since this relationship is relatively new, I suggest honestly is the best policy.
We the forum don’t have enough info about your ED to give much advice. Like what has your doctor said? What’s the cause? What kind of medication are you on? All oral meds require manual stimulation to make your penis get erect! However, Trimix injection will just make it hard, in most cases. I’m thinking if you two are going to do the deal, her playing with you stimulating your penis manually will just be part of fore play! If it lets you down, it may be partly anxiety from worrying about it! But again, if it doesn’t work on this occasion, tell her what’s going on and you’re working on getting it fixed. If she isn’t supportive and doesn’t want relationship, is she really the woman you want or need?
Thanks for your answer.
Medically I am well aware of all the options, and trying desperately to get my hands on some injectable alprostadil. This will actually not induce a 5/5 erection either but sufficient for sex.
The other thing I could try is an additional penis ring (+ the oral medication I am taking Tadalafil and Sildenafil). But I am hesitant how to bring that up "Hey, I will just use the penis ring bc of an accident I had years ago". Does not sound very confident to me.
No girlfriend, just a "date" i truly care about.
I guess Sex might actually happen, last time did end in a heavy makeout and now she is coming over to my place.
1993
ED since 2012
nothing works properly
ED since 2012
nothing works properly
Re: (Important) date with severe ED - 25 yo - emotional advice
Ok. I might as well wade into the swamp. Here is advice from a guy who had ED while dating but wasn’t astute enough to recognize it as ED. If the only erection uouve seen is your own, then you tend to think however it behaves is normal.
Piece of advice #1. Don’t borrow trouble. You’re armed with oral meds and a cock ring. Very few women are going to mind a cock ring nor even ask for an explanation. In the event she does, just tell her it helps you stay harder longer.
Piece of advice #2. Honesty is the best policy, but there is such a thing as Too Much Information, Too Soon. Before you bare your soul about your erectile difficulties, wait and see where relationship is headed and what doctors say/do.
Piece of advice #3. See a doc for the injectables. Don’t be trying to score a vial of Trimix in the black market. Urologists aren’t free but a valid drug from a verified pharmacy based upon a real Rx is worth every penny spent. You’re going to be injecting it into your dick. You want to know exactly what it is.
Piece of advice #4. It’s nice to plan, but let spontaneity exert a stimulating effect and see where things lead without getting too uptight.
Piece of advice #5. Throw everything but the kitchen sink at her, sex-wise, before even thinking of intercourse. Oral. Manual. Fingers. Tongue. Maybe even toes. The more aroused she is, the less pressure and stress you’re going to feel. The lower your stress levels, the more likely you are to get a really good pharmacy infuced erection. In short...don’t worry about you, worry about getting her off. Truth be known a stiff dick is nice to have but isn’t really essential. If you’re concentrating on her and not worrying about you, your physiology might surprise you.
In my twenties and early thirties, with a venous leakage I didn’t know I had but which was later described as pouring out faster than you could possibly pump it in, I would still get really good, usable erections if I was relaxed, the situation was good, and I unconsciously set myself up for success by not having any performance anxiety. A “whatever happens, happens” attitude will help.
Piece of advice #1. Don’t borrow trouble. You’re armed with oral meds and a cock ring. Very few women are going to mind a cock ring nor even ask for an explanation. In the event she does, just tell her it helps you stay harder longer.
Piece of advice #2. Honesty is the best policy, but there is such a thing as Too Much Information, Too Soon. Before you bare your soul about your erectile difficulties, wait and see where relationship is headed and what doctors say/do.
Piece of advice #3. See a doc for the injectables. Don’t be trying to score a vial of Trimix in the black market. Urologists aren’t free but a valid drug from a verified pharmacy based upon a real Rx is worth every penny spent. You’re going to be injecting it into your dick. You want to know exactly what it is.
Piece of advice #4. It’s nice to plan, but let spontaneity exert a stimulating effect and see where things lead without getting too uptight.
Piece of advice #5. Throw everything but the kitchen sink at her, sex-wise, before even thinking of intercourse. Oral. Manual. Fingers. Tongue. Maybe even toes. The more aroused she is, the less pressure and stress you’re going to feel. The lower your stress levels, the more likely you are to get a really good pharmacy infuced erection. In short...don’t worry about you, worry about getting her off. Truth be known a stiff dick is nice to have but isn’t really essential. If you’re concentrating on her and not worrying about you, your physiology might surprise you.
In my twenties and early thirties, with a venous leakage I didn’t know I had but which was later described as pouring out faster than you could possibly pump it in, I would still get really good, usable erections if I was relaxed, the situation was good, and I unconsciously set myself up for success by not having any performance anxiety. A “whatever happens, happens” attitude will help.
Age 68. Physically fit educated red neck in Texas. Very married. 23 cm (18+5) of LGX installed by Dr. Bryan Kansas 12/31/2019. I fought the ED and my wife & I won. I’m either full of shit or sound advice. You decide which.
Re: (Important) date with severe ED - 25 yo - emotional advice
Great advise TX, I guess there's not much to add to this...
Dating with ED is horrible, life with Ed is too... But in the end it's not your fault and you shouldn't be ashamed of it. On top of that, today there are multiple solutions so it's not like you'll never be able to have sex with her (like it used to be 100 years ago).
It all depends on the girl, but if she's decently intelligent and educated, she'd understand the problem and if she has some feelings and plans for you she'll help you live with it. I know my wife did and many others do too.
If she isn't, she isn't for you and you shouldn't feel too bad about it either.
Dating with ED is horrible, life with Ed is too... But in the end it's not your fault and you shouldn't be ashamed of it. On top of that, today there are multiple solutions so it's not like you'll never be able to have sex with her (like it used to be 100 years ago).
It all depends on the girl, but if she's decently intelligent and educated, she'd understand the problem and if she has some feelings and plans for you she'll help you live with it. I know my wife did and many others do too.
If she isn't, she isn't for you and you shouldn't feel too bad about it either.
40 years old, married. ED all my life because of spinal cord injury caused by a tumor in early infant age. Using standard EDEX20 since 2007. Increasingly bad results with EDEX in the last few years, but had very good results for at least 10 years.
Re: (Important) date with severe ED - 25 yo - emotional advice
Great points by Txag and Hunchback.
Diagnosed venous leak. Going with injections rather than implant for the time being.
Re: (Important) date with severe ED - 25 yo - emotional advice
So how did it go?
40 years old, married. ED all my life because of spinal cord injury caused by a tumor in early infant age. Using standard EDEX20 since 2007. Increasingly bad results with EDEX in the last few years, but had very good results for at least 10 years.
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