stephen54 wrote:Gorrilla wrote:I'm not clear what you are looking for with regard to asking about "actual pumping time" and "average time of pumping in one session". These aren't baseball statistics. This is sex, not an Excel spreadsheet. Who in god's name keeps track of "average pumping time in one session"? Not clear what the value is in even trying to answer that for someone else. I mean, I personally don't track "number of times breast caressed" or "moans per minute" etc. We are both there to deeply enjoy one another and to have filthy sexual fun. The rest is just background noise.
Gorilla, I LOVE the question and the way you put it.
Certain individuals (and one does not have to be clinically OCD -obsessive compulsive disorder to participate) do count the number of strokes, the amount of time actually in active penis-in-vagina coitus, the number of orgasms either partner experiences.
Heck, the mind wanders. Even engaged in sex, I sometimes think about other things. It's not that I am bored, it is just that some sexual activities do not require all that much concentration. So, in addition to observing my partner's more subtle response patterns, I observe the clock, my reactions, plan our next position, etc.
I also like to keep track of performance statistics just as I like to keep track of my weight, blood pressure and how quickly I can swim 400 yards. Sex can be fun in more ways than just physical and emotional.
Humans are a competitive species. Even if they don't want to be "better" at something than the person next to them, most like to know where they stand in the pool of humanity (and even across species). How many of us have heard the statistics on penis size - to - body size ratios across species? (Note: Barnacles have penises 10 times their body length, the blue whale has the largest penis among mammals, etc.) These are popular internet searches. Why would that be if not for comparison.
So I often wonder EXACTLY what comprises some of these two-hour or 20-hour sexual sessions. How much is coital (and what positions) how much is oral, how much is manual, how much does not involve any direct genital contact?
I have always been curious. I have a catch-phrase I use often. "When I was born, the delivery doctor looked at me, looked at my Mom and remarked, 'Curious'." And I happily own both interpretations of the remark.
For those out there who are also curious, I will provide these personal statistics. After a few minutes (3 to 15 minutes) of active foreplay (manual or oral, both genital and over the rest of our bodies) we enter "the coital phase" of actively thrusting penis-in-vagina sex, during which my girlfriend and I usually go about 5 minutes. I usually orgasm in two or three minutes and she usually has two to five orgasms. Missionary position and "doggie" position most often. In an "X" position, (she on her back and me cross-ways underneath one of her thighs and my uppermost thigh between her legs resting on her belly) we can have slow thrusting for up to 20 minutes and let her have a half dozen orgasms or more if I speed up. This position is so energy-conserving that we have actually fallen asleep, for a short nap, joined in coitus and able to continue when we awaken. Hard to figure the length of time to count as technically "engaged in sex" under those circumstances.
So, Gorilla, you are not alone in wondering. Not by a long shot. We, as humans, think about sex in as many ways as there are to HAVE sex. Probably more.
