I think my wife is jealous of my implant!?!

[Masonjames]

I was implanted in the end of December. My wife and I have been together for 10 years and all of a sudden after surgery no more sex. You wanted yourself why the hell did I go through this surgery?
We have literally turned into a sexless marriage I don't know if it's because of my new implant she does complain about the girth she's not the cheating type of person. Has anybody gone to this situation. I'm not a fan of masturbation I need my wife this might not end out well...

Larry what is her complaint with your girth? You have more of that than almost all men. Is she saying it's not as girthy as before of is it to much?

[Larryb8x8]

Too much Frankenstein penis

[Charlie2019]

Too much Frankenstein penis

It's almost the same length and girth as before. Except now you can go all night if the rest of your body can stand it... mine certainly can't

[TANGERINE]

too much frankenstein penis

It sounds like your wife does not like your implant perhaps because:

1) it is a fake erection, and she really wants the "validation of her sexual attractiveness" to her man by successfully producing an erection in him. My wife feels the same way about longing for the days when she could make me hard using her natural seductive powers. To this , my answer is: "heck, life is the way it is, not the way it is supposed to be -- learn to live with it" In other words, yes it sucks that you have ED and your dick will not respond to a woman, no matter how sexy she may be. BUT, at least you had the guts and forethought and resources to go out and get the problem fixed. You are now a fully functioning and sexual male--she needs to learn to live with that and to be a lot more forgiving of imperfections. Otherwise, use your wonderful bionic penis elsewhere

2) it is a large rock hard penis, and she finds sex painful. There are solutions to this. My wife had similar problems, so she went and got mona lisa treatment to rejuvenate her vagina. There are a large number of gynecologists who can help her "rejuvenate" her vagina. Also, use lots of lube and try to not fully inflate. If allthat fails, consider looking elsewheresince there are many women who crave a rock hard girthy penis.

3) sounds like the best course of action is to go into couples marriage therapy --- it sounds like you really need to do this. You are not alone in this disappointment and quandry. The whole thing reminds me of something Dr Eid has said in the past: "a man gets the implant for himself, not so that he can save a relationship or because the implant is what he imagines his partner would want"

sorry you are going through this bro, I hope it makes you feel better that your story (ie, a wife who is not thrilled about the sexual prowess of a bionic mate) is somewhat common

[erik821]

From reading these forums it seems like the older the spouse the harder time they have with embracing their mates implant. Sometimes even after being married a long time. There could be many reasons but they probably all fall under a sense of the mechanical, different, unnatural, general lack of interest in sex and/or wishing things were "as they used to be". Some women are like that for sure. Some women don't give a care and just want a hard dick and don't put much thought into the mechanics of an erection they just want the end result as often as they want it. Ironically, it seems that younger women (30+) tend to be more willing to accept implants and happily utilize them. At least that's my impression. It may also have to do with the female libido decreasing after menopause. How old is your wife?

[Larryb8x8]

Thank you gentlemen you were true bionic rock stars. I have no clue as to why she changed and we're hoping with this virus stuff and all the stress we're under maybe that's what it is my new implant is just as monstrous as my normal penis prior to surgery. It's like she's completely a different person. I honestly believe it's my Frankenstein penis it's beautiful but not for her. I do believe in the Lord with all my heart and I am no cheat. I have been considering completely removing it and discontinuing from sex but it doesn't seem right I don't know what to do

[erik821]

What do you mean when you say "Frankenstein penis"? Does that mean large or the fact that you now have tubes and a pump? Are those her words or yours?

And then you say you think she is jealous. Of what?

In any event I definitely think you two could benefit from counseling. There is something she wants to communicate to you that you are not picking up on.

[Larryb8x8]

Her words she doesn't see it as normal anymore. We had a beautiful sex life every night we would watch a movie with her head between my legs taking care of my penis and testicles during the entire movie it was awesome. Every morning I would wake up with her head between my legs servicing me before my eyes even opened my morning wood was huge and wide. She just seems to think it's too mechanical. Our sexual relationship was beautiful and healthy she just kept him form to where where are right now. She said it'll just take time but it doesn't feel the same does it react the same and she misses her natural morning huge boy toy. I don't know how to react to that I'm broken-hearted

[erik821]

I get it. It sounds like what got her off was the ability for her and her alone to stimulate you and now that that element is in her mind gone she feels less sexual. It was probably one of her favorite things. Interesting that she didn't expect this knowing what was involved with an implant. Or did she not?

[Waynetho]

Her words she doesn't see it as normal anymore. We had a beautiful sex life every night we would watch a movie with her head between my legs taking care of my penis and testicles during the entire movie it was awesome. Every morning I would wake up with her head between my legs servicing me before my eyes even opened my morning wood was huge and wide. She just seems to think it's too mechanical. Our sexual relationship was beautiful and healthy she just kept him form to where where are right now. She said it'll just take time but it doesn't feel the same does it react the same and she misses her natural morning huge boy toy. I don't know how to react to that I'm broken-hearted

Larry, are you one of the lucky ones that can get an appreciable amount of engorgement without pumping? If so, perhaps she can still "make things happen" on her own. If your can get any engorgement without inflating, she could get the effect she seeks and then when it's time for full penetration you could put a few pumps in (nothing like the 90+ you boast about) to get enough rigidity to penetrate gently.

Maybe if she can see that you can still get a rise to some degree under her control, and you can employ some moderation to its use (at least until she gets used to it a bit more), she would accept that a little better.