wife (she turns 60 this year) no longer likes sex -- it hurts (so getting an implant was a waste--maybe ?)

[TANGERINE]

The issue of your postmenopausal women having problems keeping up with an implanted man is pretty active this year, so I thought I would resurrect this thread since my wife and I did approach this vigorously .
AS discussed on earlier posts, she did the hormones (includes testostorone) and she also went for three mona lisa laser treamtments. The laser mona lisa treatment really worked, and sex is better now; though I need to be gentle and she is not into pounding vigourous sex (she likes the stay in deep rocking type -- which does bring her to orgasm)

That being said, I must say that there is a real benefit to having a young wife who can withstand the pounding and who might actually like the vigorous in and out in several positions. I so long to have a woman like that, but alas, part of the "vows of marriage" mean that you need to put up with each others limitations.

Moral of the story --- you young guys, be sure to get the implant before your partner hits menopause, because, unless your wife goes on estrogen, you might be fucked.

[OregonStrong]

women that have trouble with painful intercourse, pain on insertion, besides hormones need to work with progressive vaginal dilators. I have OB/GYN friends that tell me this all the time. Those tissues have atrophied, the introitus has shrunken down, the pelvic canal has shortened. Those tissues can be gently stretched back out. Having a dilator in place gives her some control over how much force to apply, and she can ever so gently coax the opening larger over time, tolerate deeper pelvic stretching, and relaxing the muscles that she is tensing up due to the pain as she gets used to the feeling of the dilators. A lot of this gets very psychological for them, as the pain is causing fear which just kills any focus they could have on enjoying sex or the pleasure of their partner. It really does work!

[Robert66]

I guess I don't understand why sex should end just because a wife no longer enjoys intercourse? There are a lot of other things a woman can do to please her husband. In other areas of life (other than sex) we always do things that our spouse likes even if we don't enjoy it (at least we should). My wife likes shopping for scented candles, I hate it. But I go. Why is sex different? Shouldn't the same idea of pleasing our spouse apply in all areas of our lives?

Correct my wife told me sex is not imports ant to NORMAL PEOPLE a real man is admired if he is a good provider hummmmm file that in the round file

[erik821]

does your woman complain that the tips of the implant are irritating when they rub in and out during sex ?

I'm curious about your situation. In some of your posts you are thrilled with your implant and in others it's almost like the other end of the spectrum. In your post below you made it sound as if your implant was virtually undetectable but apparently now your concerned about her issue with your "tips" which are noticeable, although the tubing is not:

Personally, my tubes are deep in side me, so i really have to dig deep along the undersurface of my shaft from the scrotum to feel them. No women, during foreplay, would ever dig that deep along the scrotum and shaft undersurface . Certainly, during oral sex , there is zero chance, in my case, that a woman would notice the tubes.

[Waynetho]

The issue of your postmenopausal women having problems keeping up with an implanted man is pretty active this year, so I thought I would resurrect this thread since my wife and I did approach this vigorously .

TANGERINE, unless your signature hasn't been updated in a couple of years, it sounds like you two are a slightly younger version of my wife and myself. Your signature says you're 55 and you state that your wife is turning 60 this year. My wife turned 63 in last December and I turned 59 in April so we are spaced almost identically in age.

I can relate - my wife hasn't undergone the Mona Lisa treatment (that's a thought) but she's on Premarin cream, rubbing it into her thighs several times a week. It has done a lot for her comfort during sex but I just suggested to her the possibility of T supplements to increase libido (as your wife has done). She only wants to get frisky once every few weeks or a month or more between. The only reason she takes the Premarin cream instead of pills or injections is because she has several health issues and the doctor feels it's safer for her various conditions this way. Not sure how the T can be administered without risks.

[strongagain]

Mine is a tiny 69-years old. She loves sex snd never says no, just the opposite. One thing we make sure before I enter her: use a lot of jelly. Ours is called K Y JELLY - Personal Lubricant. Works extremely well.

[Larryb8x8]

I'm in the same boat. I wonder why I did the surgery if I can't use it.he's a beautiful boy I have. I just don't get it!!!

[MARKOS2018]

Sorry to hear the state of affairs after getting the implant.. Perhaps a toy for her while you play by her that will be entertaining. I want her to play with some toys, but she prefers my implant , tongue or fingers...like 2 of them rubbing across her mound...

Well hope that perhaps more pushing will help/?

Mark

[oldbeek]

My wife slowed down to where she wanted it once a week at about 70. We still had good sex up till my Prostatectomy at 75. She was always horney for several days during her cycle and very demanding. Now her cycle comes on 1 day a month. One orgasm and she is happy till next month. I try to drag that orgasm out as long as I can, but she wants it now, now, now. Just get me off now ! Guess I can't gripe as I figured once that we did it over 20,000 times. I got my implant because I didn't want to live with a shrunken 1 1/2 inch softie. I did it for myself esteem, and I enjoy just holding it.

[TANGERINE]

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I'm curious about your situation. In some of your posts you are thrilled with your implant and in others it's almost like the other end of the spectrum. In your post below you made it sound as if your implant was virtually undetectable but apparently now your concerned about her issue with your "tips" which are noticeable, although the tubing is not:

Thanks for asking for clarification on this Erik821. I think it is important that we are all as accurate and up front as possible regarding what we think about our implant. In a nutshell, it is true that i am "over the moon pleased" with my implant.

My wife however, does not really like sex very much, and since my titan is a beast of a sex machine, it is predictable that she does not view it as such a positive thing all the time; though, as stated, she does have some shuttering toe curling orgasms on my beast at times, and I am sure that she would never trade me for another sexual partner. If I die or leave, I feel very sorry for the next set of guys who will try to fill my shoes; they absolutely will have no way of measuring up in terms of performance/hardness/availability/size/stamina/etc; and knowing my wife, she will probably tell them as such.

REGARDING YOUR QUESTION:

you made it sound as if your implant was virtually undetectable but apparently now your concerned about her issue with your "tips" which are noticeable, although the tubing is not

ANSWER:
PART 1---for a new partner, who does not know my penis,
I am pretty sure I would be undetectable and the penis would feel natural to the woman, (actually, probably almost supernatural due to the shaft hardness and stamina). For women, I can imaging that they encounter all kinds of penises. The variation is immense: short, thick, curved, long, slim, soft, hard, unreliable, gargantuan, etc. So, a new partner who does not know your penis will just figure that it is the way it is. Even when they suck your cock for the first month, women are not going to be in the judging mode or "urology clinical assessment mode" regarding your penis. They will just be in the moment getting to know you and how you work and what makes you and her feel good.
For me, the only thing about my penis that would be a flag to a new partner would be if they feel the bulb which is behind the balls. In that case, just say "yes, I have had some work done there after an accident, but do not worry, everything works normally, what you are doing feels great so please continue" In my installation, the bulb is far back behind the balls, so there is a decent chance that they will not notice it.

Part 2--for a wife of 20 years. She will know every millimeter of your penis, and she will know what you were like when on viagra and when on injections and when implanted with some natural erection and when implanted with zero natural erection. Some men write that what women want is "hardness hardness hardness and then girth (length is not key)." When I was on quadmix injection Both my shaft and my glans would get super hard. The wife loved that and that was the penis she craved. But, darn it, I have really severe ED, so the injections quit working; thus, implant was necessary. During the first year after implant, I still got pretty hard in the glans, so things felt pretty natural (and likely thrilling ) to her. The trouble began two or three years after implant; at that time, she noticed that my glans erection was becoming almost non-existant. I went to my local urologist (Dr Karpmann) since I live in the SF bay area, and he figured out that this was due to two things: continued worsening erectile dysfunction (so now even my glans would not be able to get hard) which was perhaps happening because I was on Propecia. He told me to stop the propecia and also he prescribed trimix gel. Now, six months later, the glans erections are getting better thanks to no propecia and to using trimix gel. The glans can be important to a woman when she is sucking you or when you are at the very first part of entering her (the glans provides a nice penetrating profile). Also, for my wife, she has learned that she can look for glans erection as a sign of how turned on I am -- if the glans erection is not there, she takes it personally that she is not "authoring an erection due to her sexual attractiveness".
All that being said, my wife now seems to really like deep penetration with grinding on her clit---this gives her great orgasms (especially is she reaches down with her finger and stimulates her clit) and women have stated, on the OMGyes website, that "coming on a hard cock is absolutely truly AMAZING."

And providing a hard cock for a woman to have waves of orgasm on is something that us bionics are really gifted at---possibly for hours !

TANGERINE

PS: the other method to firm up the glns is to use a cock ring -- that definitely works, but the women will notice the cock ring which might be a buzz kill ?