Lack of wife's desire contributing to E.D?

[Masonjames]

Ok first of all this thread isn't to bash my wife or for you guys to bash yours but I wanted to put something out there for discussion.
As a very young married couple, we had sex every often. That first year is was every night and sometimes multiple times a night. I thought that my dick would always be like that and would get hard anytime I wanted and a lot of times i didn't want it to.
Well the kids started coming along and things slowed down. Still frequent but not every night for sure. I guess it was when we were in our late 40's that she started putting me off more and more often. At first I got mad and would fuss at her until she relented. I soon found out that that wasn't worth the time it took to cum and left me feeling bad about myself. I would tell her that there would come a day that she'd miss my hard dick. Well time continued and we had sex on her time table. when she wants it it is great sex but when she don't I'd rather jack off.
Hears my experience and I want to know if any of you felt this way. Me always being ready and her holding me off until she was ready started to effect me mentally and I started resenting the fact that I had to be ready on demand but she only had to have sex when she was good a ready. It started to effect the quality of my erections. I couldn't get it out of my mind, the resentment, that is. Maybe it was childish on my part but I couldn't help it. I feel like it was the start of my early E.D. I would get rock hard and if she did or said the slightest thing making me think she didn't want me I would lose it. Anyone else experience this? This went on for years and years.
We are older now and we're both not what we once were. We still have sex, when she wants it,but my ED is a real thing now. Poor blood flow to the penis plus venous leakage. Can only get hard enough now with Trimix. It works great but damn it hurts . That in itself is a turnoff. Looking into an implant now. Had a meeting with the surgeon already. Waiting for them to set up the date.
Just thought I'd share and see if anyone else had similar experiences.

[notaes]

I think that women calling the shots about sex has gone on since the beginning of time! There was a time I resented the hell out of it as well. My wife pretty well takes care of my needs but it hasn’t always been like it is now! We had work and kids and not enough time together. My libido is so strong I’m so glad we are retired and our kids are grown so we can devote time to each other. I don’t think a woman can understand how strong a mans sexual desire is unless she happens to have a desire as equally Strong. Most days I am aware of my cock needs 24x7 and I am 68 yrs old. Thank God she takes care of me because I feel less in control than I have ever felt in my life. I have always been a guy in control that always used my brain and common sense and exercised due caution with regard to my heart and my dick. Not so much as I get older and I cannot explain why I feel less in control. Maybe it’s aging factor I’m just not sure. I’m just glad that I feel taken care of for the first time in my life and not playing second fiddle to everything else.

[Old Guy]

Oh Yea, the wife is always in control. And the poor guys who haven't figured it out yet. LOL

Unless you have a wife who is a nympho it's always gonna be that way. And I can tell you about nympho's- Back in the day when my dick would get hard just looking at a sexy girl I was dating a nympho. That girl could drain my nuts 3-4 times a day and still not be satisfied. She fucking wore me out and one morning woke me up sucking me off, my dick was so tired my reaction was to smack out. That ended that relationship.

Current wife, my story is about the same. Great sex when we first got married, at least once a day and some days 2 or 3 times. Yes then kids came along, slowed us down. Then wife had all her woman parts removed and that slowed us down even more. Then my ED started, that about ended sex. Now after getting my implant the wife is better about sex, but with this damn virus going on it's very limited because her work entails lots of (little) people contact. She showers after work, up early to go back to work, so that leaves the weekend only. And as much as I could do it 2 or 3 times in a weekend, wife is only good for one, maybe two times IF I get lucky.

If I get horny between sex times with the wife my toys come out. Like I'll probably do here shortly.