Can sex still be sexy with an implant?

[Anonymous3]

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[oldbeek]

Beats the hell out of going to the other room fill a syringe and giving a shot in your penis. Then coming back and say here I am, only to find you missed the right spot. Back to the other room refill and another frantic shot. OK< now I am ready. That is what happened recently when my wife was really hot and in the mood. Right there, I decided ENOUGH!! it is implant time.

[merrix]

I hate to be all shitty but when I think of using an implant for sex I think of a long, drawn out medical process. Your girl can't just throw you against the bed and rip off your clothes and start sucking you... you have to go through the process. Men, how do you still keep sex sexy even with having a mechanical device that requires time to be inflated? I want to feel hot :/

Yes, I know this is an old thread and was reopened by the post above mine.
The original poster might not be interested anymore or maybe not even around on FT.
But nevertheless, this is a great question. Many answers here, but I'd like to add my answer which has a slightly different approach.

No. Sex is not as sexy with an implant. Of course not. I'd prefer it to be able to just be 100% spontaneous, on my or my partner's initiative. With an implant, that is not really the case. It must be inflated, which in my case takes about 90 seconds. Less if you have a smaller dick and/or don't inflate as full as I do. Also, if you want to hide the implant from you partner, of course, you can forget being 100% spontaneous.

Sure, advantages as being able to last longer etc weigh up some. But still, you do have a mechanical dick which in most cases, is not as sexy.

But - by thinking this way, we are sort of missing the point. If your dick works great, this is not an issue. Because then you will have your natural dick and all is fine.
If your dick sucks, then sex is not sexy at all today. You are either a lousy lover with a limp dick or you need pills, injections, vacuum pumps or whatever shit you use. Sure, if you can go on a daily Cialis pill and all works well - good for you. That should be your choice. But if not, and you need pumps or injections - then sex sure ain't particular sexy today either.
I never used injections or vacuum pumps. But I think I would not feel more sexy pulling out my vacuum pump from the bedside table than I do pumping my Titan.
This part of it sucks. But when we need medical intervention we do.
Then it is just a matter of picking the best option. And to me, an implant is a great option once we have reached that point when our natural dicks don't perform any more.

Don't compare how sexy implant sex is compared to great sex with a natural dick.
That's living in a dream world. Fact is, you live in the real world, and in the real world, your dick sucks and it cannot give you the sexy sex you want. Forget that.
Move on an pick the solution that will give you the best sex life from now on.
If that is the implant, which it likely is, then accept the drawbacks. Your partner can not surprise you in the shower, blow your dick till it gets hard and then off you go. She can still surprise you in the shower, but you are going to need to spend a minute pumping it up. Once that is out of the way though, you can do whatever the fuck you want for as long as you want.
That's not too bad either. Especially compared to just stand there in the shower with your limp dick watching your partner satisfy herself with the shower wishing you could fuck her.

[Agfa13]

Have to agree with Merrix.
Make do with what you have. I have gone, and counting, 5+ months without being the aggressor (Top), but my situation is different because what happened to me. Do I regret the process, oh hell ya, but I have to move forward and do what I can by getting ideas from FT on what I can do at this point.
Implant still is stiff (no pun), and seriously doubt I can do anything more than a missionary position, buy hey, I am here:)

[Lost Sheep]

A lot of philosophical background in this thread. Here is some more:

Fucking
Sex
Making Love

Each have their own run-up. Making love, in my opinion, has its sexiness component independent of the implant (the caring for one's partner and the feeling of being cared for is the governing factor). For an opposite reason, fucking is independent of the implant (the erection is enduring and a couple can "go at it" as vigorously as they want). Sex. There, an implant can make a difference. The illusion of sex as in movies, literature and the imagination of the people involved govern here. If an erection that grows all by itself under the ministrations of a lover is important...well, that ain't gonna happen with an implant. You can make believe (and some do that pretty well), but the sexiness factor is diminished. Not as much as E.D., though.

[brickbat]

Have to agree with Merrix.
Make do with what you have. I have gone, and counting, 5+ months without being the aggressor (Top), but my situation is different because what happened to me. Do I regret the process, oh hell ya, but I have to move forward and do what I can by getting ideas from FT on what I can do at this point.
Implant still is stiff (no pun), and seriously doubt I can do anything more than a missionary position, buy hey, I am here:)

Afga: I see that you were implanted just several months ago in March. I hope that the learning curve utilizing the implant is the reason you think you are limited to missionary only as a position. In your posts I think you have identified as a gay man. As a straight guy with no anal experience whatsoever with either sex, and considering an implant maybe somewhere in the future, I sure do not want to rule out doggie with my wife or any other positions like spooning, woman on top, etc.

To straight men on this site, please chime in on the positions you are able to engage in intercourse with your wives or partners with your implant.

To you Afga, why just missionary? I was concerned about going through all the hoopla, pain, trauma, and adjustment of an implant and still being limited. My wife adores and will always push me down under her wanting woman on top where she can work my cock like a gear shift lever against her clit and g spot. She has always orgasmed easily and quickly in WOT and loves that position with a passion. When my dick was hard and predictable, I was amazed that she was a one and one lady. Still dont understand how women who are naturally multi orgasmic can be sastified with only one orgasm considering their orgasms are generally total body and body shaking. For me, if I could orgasm like my wife, I would want more and more and more ad nauseum.

Help me out here men.

[Lost Sheep]

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To straight men on this site, please chime in on the positions you are able to engage in intercourse with your wives or partners with your implant.

I was concerned about going through all the hoopla, pain, trauma, and adjustment of an implant and still being limited.

There may be some positions that the implant (for reasons of stiffness or angle of erection or what have you) are ruled out or less comfortable than worth the trouble, but there are so many different positions (check the internet for guides and suggestions) available once you have an erection that endures you are not likely to mourn their abandonment.

Here is my testimony: Before implant, my erections were too short-lived to even think about changing positions. If I was able to achieve penetration, we continued. The thought of stopping, pulling out and switching to another position was completely out of the question, as my erection was certain to collapse right away. Now, we can fuck in one position and stop, change to another position, fuck some more, change again and continue for as long as we have energy and desire. We have even (if the position is comfortable enough and we are tired enough) fallen asleep still joined and awoken to continue. Your concern about limitations is valid (though I believe very small potential for limitation) but offset by expansion of potentials which were unimaginable outside of a porn theater.

[Waynetho]

To straight men on this site, please chime in on the positions you are able to engage in intercourse with your wives or partners with your implant.

Due to my length (5.5") and my wife's buried depth due to obesity, I have to be creative.

For me, in the order of best first:

• Edge of Bed - Where partner is on back, on end of bed with her legs up. That's my favorite position because I can fully penetrate.
• (modified) Scissor or "X" - She's on her side with upper leg in the air, I'm straddling lower leg
• Missionary - Limited success but usually my finishing move when I don't want to pull out and I keep teasing her before ending the session.
• Doggy-Style - Difficult to penetrate due to wife's shorter legs but has the benefit of my glans corona rubbing squarely against the bottom of her pubic bone, sending her through the roof

[Robert1966]

This is a good question relating to the overall outcome from an implant surgery.. my experience is as follows:
If your partner takes specific enjoyment in your penis and can map that over to its capability in an implanted state then (for me) I have found it to be just as sexy as pre-implant and more capable in some ways due to the flexibility with penile hardness and the endurance of the erect state.
I/we treat the implant as an augmentative sex device... using its functionality to heighten sexual arousal, as you might with a sex toy.. doing this together lets you both elevate sexual pleasure through the shared experience and the dialogue around it... example: heading out to dinner with the penis 60% inflated and frequently bringing it to mutual attention in a social setting.. this can run for quite a period of time and make for a sexually charged evening...
can't be sexy in such a way for such a period with a physiologically normal penis...
Your mind is your main sex organ .. use it along with implant technology to build a world of enhanced sexuality.

[mikestap]

We used to enjoy sex while I would sit upright on a chair and my wife would face me while straddling me with her feet on the floor. With my implant, though, my dick actually retracts into my body when I sit and my length is drastically reduced. Like half. It makes for what I judge to be inadequate penetration and difficulty avoiding coming out of (or otherwise staying properly aligned with) my wife’s vagina.

Our similar position on the sofa is also impacted.

I have no RTEs, just the implant.
Does anyone else have a similar experience with your implant?