Please, please share your ideas. It's very important to me!!

[Tellmehow]

Hi all. I'm 33 and I have erectile dysfunction. I keep my erection in oral and hand job but when it comes to penetration either I cannot penetrate or I lose it in 30 seconds. I have strong and long lasting morning wood.
If I take 50 mg Sildenafil, I can have sex for 20 minutes until I ejaculated though sometimes in the middle I experience a little softness, especially when I get physically tired. I'm able to have 6 rounds on Sildenafil. First, Do u think I'm responding well to Sildenafil? Second, I'm in love with a girl whom I really love to marry. Can I rely on this medication for a permanent relationship? Actually, this problem is making me hesitant about taking the decision. Pleaseeee share your ideas and guide me.

[GoodWood]

Congrats on having a great relationship. One that is so good you are considering making it lifelong. That is excellent.
And congrats on taking steps to overcome your ED and have a fulfilling sex life. That is a big deal.

Does your girlfriend know you struggle with your erections at time? Does she know you are taking sildinafil or have you been keeping that to yourself? If you haven’t shared that with her, it would be a smart move to do so before asking her to marry you. People WANT to be wanted. People WANT to be helpful to others and be trusted. My guess is that she will appreciate being able to be part of this with you.


Will Sildinafil be enough to give you acceptable hardons for the rest of your life? No one knows. But there IS a solution for your ED. There are lots of options and you seem to have the willingness to pursue them.

If Sildinafil becomes less effecting there are other oral meds you can try. There is a VED with constriction rings. There is injectable bimix, Trimix, and quadmix. And there are penile implants.

Don’t let your ED keep you from a relationship with a great girl. (She must be great if you are thinking of asking her to marry you, right?) Have a great relationship with great sex. It can be done.

[Tellmehow]

Congrats on having a great relationship. One that is so good you are considering making it lifelong. That is excellent.
And congrats on taking steps to overcome your ED and have a fulfilling sex life. That is a big deal.

Does your girlfriend know you struggle with your erections at time? Does she know you are taking sildinafil or have you been keeping that to yourself? If you haven’t shared that with her, it would be a smart move to do so before asking her to marry you. People WANT to be wanted. People WANT to be helpful to others and be trusted. My guess is that she will appreciate being able to be part of this with you.

Will Sildinafil be enough to give you acceptable hardons for the rest of your life? No one knows. But there IS a solution for your ED. There are lots of options and you seem to have the willingness to pursue them.

If Sildinafil becomes less effecting there are other oral meds you can try. There is a VED with constriction rings. There is injectable bimix, Trimix, and quadmix. And there are penile implants.

Don’t let your ED keep you from a relationship with a great girl. (She must be great if you are thinking of asking her to marry you, right?) Have a great relationship with great sex. It can be done.

Thanks indeed for your insightful response. She knows I'm taking the medication and she is not so sensitive about that. She doesn't reach orgasm through intercourse at all, instead she needs outercours stimulation but she enjoys penetrative sex.

[Flavio]

Hi all. I'm 33 and I have erectile dysfunction. [...]

ED is the permanent inability to attain or maintain an erection. It is perfectly normal to fail every now and then, that is not ED and it happens to all men. According to your description, this seems to be a case of sexual performance anxiety but you should go see a doctor (urologist), nevertheless. Self medication is always a risk and even if this is just psychological, a urologist will be able to help you.

[Tellmehow]

Hi all. I'm 33 and I have erectile dysfunction. [...]

ED is the permanent inability to attain or maintain an erection. It is perfectly normal to fail every now and then, that is not ED and it happens to all men. According to your description, this seems to be a case of sexual performance anxiety but you should go see a doctor (urologist), nevertheless. Self medication is always a risk and even if this is just psychological, a urologist will be able to help you.

Thanks dear Flavio, you mean failing just in intercourse does not mean a real ED right? Actually I have seen 10 urologists and they attribute it to psychological reasons but I doubt it. But eventually they say your way is PDE5 inhibitors. With my explanation am I considered as a good responder to Sildenafil?

[Flavio]

Hi all. I'm 33 and I have erectile dysfunction. I keep my erection in oral and hand job but when it comes to penetration either I cannot penetrate or I lose it in 30 seconds. [...]

I had the exact same problem for many years: it's called coital anxiety. I was able to attain an erection but lost it just before penetration. The good news: it is easily treatable.

It's great that you're in a stable relationship, I suggest you two try the sensate focus technique (i.e. focus on oral sex and other aspects of your bodies first and then try penetration). Do some research on this subject, as well: the more you know about sex, the less stressful it will be. I highly recommend the books of Tom F. Lue, a brilliant American urologist.

Oral meds may be helpful but these are prescription drugs and should only be taken under the supervision of your doctor. I suggest you check out my thread on apomorphine, it is a centrally acting drug (Viagra only acts locally) that helps with the mental aspects of sexual function.

[Flavio]

[...] Actually I have seen 10 urologists and they attribute it to psychological reasons but I doubt it. [...]

You need to do a series of tests to rule out any possible organic causes but this seems to be a case of sexual performance anxiety. The mind can have a drastic impact on sexual function but this is easily treatable.