Psychological and physical arousement with an implant.

[G.s.na]

Thank you everyone for your comments, even if none of them replies specifically to my question.

I would like to reply to merrix in particular, which put so much effort in writing that long message to answer to this post.

@merrix, i totally understand your speech and i agree with it. But in my case, i've got so many problems that i need to address that i have to do PLENTY of research. I'll write down here just some of them:

1) I probably don't need just an implant surgery but even a grafting/sliding procedure, so i have to gather more informations about this topic;
2) In Italy we don't have, usually, insurances; so i'll have to pay 20.000$ by myself. This will probably bring me a huge amount of debts and , every time i have a revision. So if the implant breaks after 1 month for some complication, i will go bankrupt..
3) Most of my sensitivity comes from the glans engorged. This is because fibrosis (i have peyronie's) has stolen me part of my sensitivity. So, i prefer to feel something now than risk to feel NOTHING with an implant because i cannot come back, after the surgery.
4) As i said above, this is gonna be permanent and im just 26 years old. I don't want to ruin my life, just want to "save" it from ED, but i don't wanna go from a crap dick to an even worse or numb dick.
5) As i said, i still got erections, but i can't mantain them easily.. they're crap, essentially. But i can reach the erection. I think its pretty easier to decide when u got NO erection at all.

..and many more. That's why i am obsessive in my research and i apologize with all the guys in the forum, i know i'm probably really harassing and i'll get a ban one day ( ) but this is so far the most important choice of all my life and it is gonna affect the rest of my life sexually, financially, psychologically, phisically..

I hope you've understood my feelings. The same for the other guys in the forum. Thank you if you guys reached this point of my speech, it means a lot for me. This forum is literally GOLD.

I had same problem i was have big and great erection but wasn’t able to maintain it, which sometimes It fails me in some situations, im 33 nearly and during my life I have lost very beautiful girls because sometimes fail even to penetrate, When I date I get nervous a lot, should prepare and carry with me Viagra sometimes, from every five attempts or dates I can do good in 2 maybe, although when started at first it is very erect and beautifully, but I quickly lose it,

3 months ago I met a girl who is my life dream and in the first night my dick was so erected but it did let me down, I tried again the second day it succeeded but not well, so I decided not to lose her this time so I went to a doctor who in turn guided me to the implant which I had never heard of before ... During this period I used to read daily and collect information, believe me the first time I saw The device in the pictures was very scared, and I said I will never put this toy in my penis. But I told myself how long I will stay like this, sex has become as a hard time for me, as if I will be taken to an exam, and today I am putting this device in my penis since 1 week, it does not looks bad in general but I cannot judge it now, glans was so good before i dont think it will be same before but dr said ciales will solve this so let us see, Do I regret now? no I'm not.

When I touch my dick i feel there is toy inside not like normal but dr said it is will feel more nature when im totally recovery.

[Lost Sheep]

To Hope794, and maybe to Baseballfan as well:

(edited for brevity and focus)

And if you think that your current dick is better, if you think you are happier with that dick, then back off all the implant research.
Get off this forum. Stop the painful pondering.

Merrix's post is spot on in all but the one paragraph I quoted and the four words I underscored therein.

One of the uses of this forum IS FOR painful pondering. And for dispelling that pain.

Everything else is good advice to follow if that is your path.

In the meantime, do whatever you have to do to determine your best course of action, no matter how much pondering you need. Some may complain that this is tiresome to them, but I am sure it is not inordinately tiresome to a man suffering from E.D. (This is not to say the Merrix"s advice to (as the colloquialism says) "shit or get off the pot" is unwarranted; hesitation can be a vice as well as a virtue.) Stay and make use of FrankTalk for as long as you need.

[Baseballfan11]

To Hope794, and maybe to Baseballfan as well:

(edited for brevity and focus)

And if you think that your current dick is better, if you think you are happier with that dick, then back off all the implant research.
Get off this forum. Stop the painful pondering.

Merrix's post is spot on in all but the one paragraph I quoted and the four words I underscored therein.

One of the uses of this forum IS FOR painful pondering. And for dispelling that pain.

Everything else is good advice to follow if that is your path.

In the meantime, do whatever you have to do to determine your best course of action, no matter how much pondering you need. Some may complain that this is tiresome to them, but I am sure it is not inordinately tiresome to a man suffering from E.D. (This is not to say the Merrix"s advice to (as the colloquialism says) "shit or get off the pot" is unwarranted; hesitation can be a vice as well as a virtue.) Stay and make use of FrankTalk for as long as you need.

I agree with you Sheep, that it would be best to use this resource as a young man. There seem to be a lot of factors at play here. It’s weird to me, because the implant seems like the safest long term option for a young person, but at the same time potentially the most damaging. If the implant were to fail you could NEVER come back from that. A lifetime of impotence with NO HOPE. BUT, on the other hand... a dysfunctional existing dick is entirely dysfunctional. It’s not like it’ll reverse itself with no changes. Back on the “nofap” train for me, again. Starting back today. Let’s see what happens if I can get a number of months under my belt here

[C_lab34]

Baseballfan, I believe there is hope in life even if you are impotent for a long time, or over the course of a lifetime.

What brings you joy, what makes you feel fulfilled? I take it you like baseball. What else?

[barrylandon]

As I now understand your situation, you can obtain but not maintain an erection and PD is the main reason for your consideration of an implant. Have you done anything to address the PD issue?
For instance, ShockWave therapy has been reported by many members on FT (check out posts on this topic) to help with PD. I had some minor PD from injections but underwent Shockwave therapy for ED. It didn't help, nor did any of the other treatments available (I tried them ALL!) so an implant was my only remaining option. Could it or something else work for your PD? If it did, would you still be expending so much time and effort on researching implants?

[Baseballfan11]

Baseballfan, I believe there is hope in life even if you are impotent for a long time, or over the course of a lifetime.

What brings you joy, what makes you feel fulfilled? I take it you like baseball. What else?

No doubt. I do have a new found appreciation for my life. I spend a lot of my time participating in Gamblers Anonymous. Some of my greatest friends and connections have been formed through that program. You’d be surprised at how deep a person can get into the gambling world at such a young age. It is the greatest misery that a person could inflict upon themselves. In any case, I also enjoy playing basketball and I’m starting graduate school this month which will take up quite a bit of my time. I really am a genuinely content individual, I do still think it’s reasonable to search for a solution to an ED problem at this age. Not only for the purpose of regaining sexual function but also to feel complete and normal in society. I suppose it is entirely possible to never gain sexual function back, but I highly doubt this. People are good at adapting. I could always get toys and when the time comes to create a family, I could adopt. All problems have solutions. I don’t want to give up on this problem before I find a satisfactory solution

[C_lab34]

I'm glad to hear you say that. I agree, I'm not at all saying you shouldn't seek a solution to ED. Just wanted to make sure that you are doing what you can to maintain balance in your life, which is important no matter what. As a younger man, I know how difficult it can be to put ED out of your mind and focus on other things, and not let the culture get to you, which has a tendency to make us believe that sex is the most important thing in the world, and that everyone else is out there having it all the time.

But you show some perspective and I commend your approach.

[Baseballfan11]

I'm glad to hear you say that. I agree, I'm not at all saying you shouldn't seek a solution to ED. Just wanted to make sure that you are doing what you can to maintain balance in your life, which is important no matter what. As a younger man, I know how difficult it can be to put ED out of your mind and focus on other things, and not let the culture get to you, which has a tendency to make us believe that sex is the most important thing in the world, and that everyone else is out there having it all the time.

But you show some perspective and I commend your approach.

Thanks, brother. Appreciate your kind words. Do you have an implant? If so, how is it going? You seem to be a younger guy like myself

[hope794]

Guys, i see a great involvement in my post and i would like to say THANK YOU to all of you. I think that this forum is a great brotherhood, with a lot of really valuable informations and nice people.

I'll try to reply to everyone of you, sorry for the late response:

@Waynetho: You're right, that's why i want to go for an implant even if i can still get erections. My PD seems never ending. I would like to undergo an implant in < than 1.5 years. Please keep in mind that i still have to find the correct surgeon (american doctors are unreachable for me), then i have to find money (no insurance for me in Italy and public healthcare won't pay for it, unless you wait like 5-6 years to get it done) and so on. So i have not only to decide, but even to fix many things.

@Gt1956: I've read your comment and i know that with a penis which is about 6" lenght (not bone pressed) it seems crazy to want an elongation procedure to cut off the fibrosis and get my 1" back. But no one can understand how Peyronie's disease has devastated me mentally and psychologically. No one really can. Everyone here says "cmon, 1-2 inches less its ok, you are hard!!!" i just dont work like this. I've already lost 1", if i lose another 1" or more i would be suicidal. Everyone knows himself, and i know myself. This disease destroyed my life and looking at my penis with almost the same size as it was before, would be a great rocket for my self-esteem. I would think: "I've overcome the disease!!!" and be calm for the rest of my life even with an implant. At the contrary, if i look myself and see 2" inches less, i would always hate my body. Sorry if i offend anyone, but this is how i work. I hope i was good at communicating my feeling, my english is not perfect. Thanks for reading

@G.s.na bro your post is GOLD for me. Pretty same situation; i'll PM you, i hope you'll find the time to reply. Thanks!

@Lost Sheep i agree with you. Merrix is a great guy and did much for the community. However, i'm sorry to say that, but sometimes he's really rude and have literally zero emphaty with others. I know he gives me his best advices for my health, i really appreciate the time and effort, but he seems to only look at his own situation and make the comparison. It seems like he cant really grasp that there are many many issues which he has gone through and many other issues (which he doesnt know) where others will have to go through.
Furthermore we're all different and psychology is different. There are no "absolutely true statements" when intimacy, sex and psychology are involved. That's my 2 cents. Anyways, thanks both for commenting, you're heroes in this community.

@Baseballfan11 Thanks for the comments, i hope that you'll overcome your gambling issues. You're young, like me, so we probably got the same things in mind..

@barrylandon: i've tried 10 different doctors. Not joking. 7/10 robbed me, literally, with treatments without any scientifical reason to exist. I stopped trusting doctors and i dont wanna try any cure anymore: it's just impossible to overcome Peyronie's disease. You pray and/or accept it. Stop.

@C_lab thanks for the comments on this post, i'll see your journal

[oldbeek]

To Hope794, and maybe to Baseballfan as well:

(edited for brevity and focus)

And if you think that your current dick is better, if you think you are happier with that dick, then back off all the implant research.
Get off this forum. Stop the painful pondering.

Merrix's post is spot on in all but the one paragraph I quoted and the four words I underscored therein.

One of the uses of this forum IS FOR painful pondering. And for dispelling that pain.

Everything else is good advice to follow if that is your path.

In the meantime, do whatever you have to do to determine your best course of action, no matter how much pondering you need. Some may complain that this is tiresome to them, but I am sure it is not inordinately tiresome to a man suffering from E.D. (This is not to say the Merrix"s advice to (as the colloquialism says) "shit or get off the pot" is unwarranted; hesitation can be a vice as well as a virtue.) Stay and make use of FrankTalk for as long as you need.

I agree with you Sheep, that it would be best to use this resource as a young man. There seem to be a lot of factors at play here. It’s weird to me, because the implant seems like the safest long term option for a young person, but at the same time potentially the most damaging. If the implant were to fail you could NEVER come back from that. A lifetime of impotence with NO HOPE. BUT, on the other hand... a dysfunctional existing dick is entirely dysfunctional. It’s not like it’ll reverse itself with no changes. Back on the “nofap” train for me, again. Starting back today. Let’s see what happens if I can get a number of months under my belt here

. If your implant fails, you are not out of luck. You can get multiple revisions.