New kid who would love your advice! :)

[galactic]

Hey guys, new kid on the block here.

I hope for some advice, guidance and some hope I guess.

I am 34 and I've suffered some form of ED for about ten years now. It just won't stay hard for very long without stimulation. Pills have worked well over the years but I just get so much anxiety when I'm doing anything sexual. Thus, the pills are starting to lose effectiveness. A doppler ultrasound showed that I have a venous leak. Indeed, I barely responded to the injection they gave me.

I shy away from sexual encounters now and women in general and at my age that is just not an ideal scenario at all. Sex in general, masturbation included, have become challenging for me and a source of real despair, angst and anxiety. It all stems from my innate belief I won't stay hard and my hyperfocusing on my erection.

I've tried all the psychosexual interventions, believe me.

I believe an implant can be the way forward and I have good surgeons here. But I am simply scared to take that step.

Maybe the kind people here can answer some of these questions?

- If you had any anxiety surrounding ED pre-implant, did that spill over to when you received the implant? (any concerns over size, how you looked, how sex would work) etc...

- How have you found the transition from getting hard naturally (in your hay day, or via injection usage, whatever) when stimulated by a partner, to having to pump up? Did you ever feel some kind of mental separation or feel like your dick was almost like, foriegn from the rest of you?

- Has the implant improved your general state of being? not just physically in terms of your sexual function, but your mood and outlook on life?

- How have women, whether you're single or married, reacted to you and the implant? (the fact you have one, the nature of arousal, the effect of it)

This has eroded my identity as a man. I used to be someone very active, outgoing, fit, vibrant and happy. I have been with a lot of women but in the last few years, I am finding I am unable to keep up with this and I no longer rely on my penis. ED is changing me in a very bad way. I want to know there is hope.

Thank you!

[Old Guy]

Although I was much older and married, ED made me very depressed. We had always been very sexual, and when I couldn't do it sometimes it sucked. Viagra helped for a couple years, then it started failing and a 100mg dose would give me a migraine the next day. Trimix worked for a couple years then it began to fail. That was like getting hit with ED again and again. After my implant it took me several months to heal, but now we are happy with the outcome. I feel more confident as a man, happy I can satisfy the wife, and no more depression.
Yes I have to pump it up but that's better than getting started and have to jump out of bed to go inject. Or better than do I take a pill tonight, or not.
At your age I'd find a good Urologist who deals with men's issues. Don't let them tell you you're too young.

[newbie443]

Hey guys, new kid on the block here.

I hope for some advice, guidance and some hope I guess.

I am 34 and I've suffered some form of ED for about ten years now. It just won't stay hard for very long without stimulation. Pills have worked well over the years but I just get so much anxiety when I'm doing anything sexual. Thus, the pills are starting to lose effectiveness. A doppler ultrasound showed that I have a venous leak. Indeed, I barely responded to the injection they gave me.

I shy away from sexual encounters now and women in general and at my age that is just not an ideal scenario at all. Sex in general, masturbation included, have become challenging for me and a source of real despair, angst and anxiety. It all stems from my innate belief I won't stay hard and my hyperfocusing on my erection.

I've tried all the psychosexual interventions, believe me.

I believe an implant can be the way forward and I have good surgeons here. But I am simply scared to take that step.

Maybe the kind people here can answer some of these questions?

- If you had any anxiety surrounding ED pre-implant, did that spill over to when you received the implant? (any concerns over size, how you looked, how sex would work) etc...

- How have you found the transition from getting hard naturally (in your hay day, or via injection usage, whatever) when stimulated by a partner, to having to pump up? Did you ever feel some kind of mental separation or feel like your dick was almost like, foriegn from the rest of you?

- Has the implant improved your general state of being? not just physically in terms of your sexual function, but your mood and outlook on life?

- How have women, whether you're single or married, reacted to you and the implant? (the fact you have one, the nature of arousal, the effect of it)

This has eroded my identity as a man. I used to be someone very active, outgoing, fit, vibrant and happy. I have been with a lot of women but in the last few years, I am finding I am unable to keep up with this and I no longer rely on my penis. ED is changing me in a very bad way. I want to know there is hope.

Thank you!

Welcome to the site. This is a choice we must all make on our own. You will know when the time is right for you. I will answer with my experience.

ED made me the grumpy guy and effected every part of my life. I was so ashamed I could not even talk to my doctor for about 10 years. That all improved when I decided to have the surgery. I made myself a promise not to judge the outcome until 1 year post op. So there were the usual worries the first few months and time learning to use my device. but way less anxiety after surgery as by the time I found a lady friend it worked. Size was less back then due to me doing nothing about my ED but with years of cycling work a lot of it has returned.

It is different now. But I had nothing before. Injections did not do any more than a mild plumping of a flaccid. While not the same as in my youth it sure is a lot better than nothing.

Before I made the decision to have the surgery, I felt less than a whole man. Part of me was gone. This has been a game changer for me, and I am a lot happier all the time.

The women I have meet and then progressed to the point of telling I have the implant have liked the idea. Women who have been sexually active will have had men experience failures to launch. I just explained that I want sex in a relationship. And I had surgery so I could whenever and for as long as I wanted. But if I did not want to have sex with them or be with them, I would be somewhere else.

Do some reading on this site. In the general section there is a document's worth reading thread. Look for VED therapy or maintaining size before surgery. But there is a lot of other papers that are worth the read. Then read back through as much of this board as you can. Use the search function in the upper right if you have a question first. Then you will be able to ask better question. The ones you asked have been asked before. So you might look for other old threads on this.

You might also make a signature like I and others have. Just put in information that will help us answer a question you have. This will help you not have to keep answering questions over and over again.

Best of luck going forward with this.

[galactic]

Thank you for your helpful replies. I have done quite a lot of reading already and of course there are many concerns and complaints I see but I find myself quite surprised, pleasantly so, by the sheer amount of positive user feedback and anecdotal evidence.

[tobenormalagain]

My ED began unexpectedly and without an identifiable cause at about your age. Fast forward 23 years and now I am almost completely impotent even will all the traditional interventions. In retrospect, I mourn all the time I wasted when I was in my prime and could have enjoyed life a LOT more (wink, wink). ED has caused me an untold amount of grief, shame, embarrassment, self-loathing, anxiety, low self-esteem, and even a marriage. Because of my own personal journey, I 100% identify with every emotion that you have shared. I actually have an appt tomorrow with an implanting urologist and though I am scared s%itless, I really don't want to continue to have the life I have. You're in good company here and I have received so much good advice. Don't loose heart and with support here, you'll for sure make a good decision. PM anytime

[2435tjklAS]

I'm about your age and my surgery was several months ago so I can't give much real-life experience, but I can ask you this: what's the alternative?

Currently you're avoiding sexual encounters with women because of a venous leak, ineffective pills, ineffective injections, and a host of insecurities that any man in your situation would feel. Do you want to stay the same for the rest of your life? I can promise you an implant won't make you worse.

Here's the problem with your questions: every one is an insecurity you have with you current dick like it is now, and are not insecurities you'd feel from an implant.

1) No, your anxiety about erections won't spill over post-implant because you'd then have zero concern about getting and keeping erections. Research is consistent size can improve. Your dick will look and feel like your dick has always looked and felt. And vaginas can't tell a difference.

2) Currently you have real despair, angst and anxiety about keeping erections. The transition to implant removes those.

3) Yes, I expect my implant to help me psychologically, but for you: your general state of mind is poor right now because of your insecurities you suffer from NOW. Thus, fix the root of what is causing those insecurities.

4) Women react to implant better than they react to impotence.

"It all stems from my innate belief I won't stay hard and my hyperfocusing on my erection"

The solution? An implant than you could keep hard for 24 hours or however long you want it if you feel like it.

That'll make your innate belief irrelevant.

[galactic]

I'm about your age and my surgery was several months ago so I can't give much real-life experience, but I can ask you this: what's the alternative?

Currently you're avoiding sexual encounters with women because of a venous leak, ineffective pills, ineffective injections, and a host of insecurities that any man in your situation would feel. Do you want to stay the same for the rest of your life? I can promise you an implant won't make you worse.

Here's the problem with your questions: every one is an insecurity you have with you current dick like it is now, and are not insecurities you'd feel from an implant.

1) No, your anxiety about erections won't spill over post-implant because you'd then have zero concern about getting and keeping erections. Research is consistent size can improve. Your dick will look and feel like your dick has always looked and felt. And vaginas can't tell a difference.

2) Currently you have real despair, angst and anxiety about keeping erections. The transition to implant removes those.

3) Yes, I expect my implant to help me psychologically, but for you: your general state of mind is poor right now because of your insecurities you suffer from NOW. Thus, fix the root of what is causing those insecurities.

4) Women react to implant better than they react to impotence.

"It all stems from my innate belief I won't stay hard and my hyperfocusing on my erection"

The solution? An implant than you could keep hard for 24 hours or however long you want it if you feel like it.

That'll make your innate belief irrelevant.

Thank you for such a brutally honest and cogent response. This was very helpful.

There is something very scary about the final decision to go ahead with it but you are all right and I thank you for your input!!!!!

[Time2Change]

I had ED for 19+ years when I had my implant. My ED dramatically, negatively impacted many aspects of how I saw myself, how I functioned in life, and how I handled relationships. It's going to take more than a year to heal from all that damage. I'm happy with my size, appearance, and how sex works with an implant.

Since I hadn't been able to have a hard on naturally for 19+ years, the transition to having a hard dick via pumping it up wasn't a big deal. But it's nice because I don't have to plan ahead for sex and hope I maintain a hard on. Within a minute. I'm ready to go. And that's good for me because I would be happy having sex a couple times a day.

Yes. My overall outlook on life and mood have improved a lot. I feel a lot more confident. I walk around with my head up and shoulders back. I know that I could take any good-looking woman I see in a store out to my truck and fuck her hard.

My wife has responded well to my implant. She's happy to have sex with me. We've fucked more in the last year than in the previous 10 years, at least.

[trapped2021]

very powerful time2change

[Craigdwill]

One word of warning: If you're thinking of doing it, don't wait too long. If you go years with lack of a stiff erection, regularly stretching your penis to its natural, full size, this WILL lead to atrophy, loss of length, and maybe Peyronies. I waited years before getting up enough courage to see a urologist. By the time I did, I found that there was nothing embarrassing about it. These are doctors, and your penis is just another body part to them. I even had a very cute young lady pull my penis to give me an injection, and it was so professional and clinical that I felt not one bit embarrassed or awkward and certainly not sexual.

But one unfortunate truth I discovered was that my penis had shrunk significantly during the time I was putting off seeing a pro. The doctor stretched me out and said, "This is how long you will be with the implant." He was stretching me to 3.5 inches, when I had been 6 inches my whole life.

Now I have the implant, and I'm glad I did it . It's only been six weeks since my surgery, but fully pumped and hard as a rock, I'm just 3.5 inches. Now, many guys here say that after inflating and stretching every day for a year or more, they have seen some minor improvements in length, maybe an additional 3/4". I hope that's true, but that still only gets me to 4-1/4".

All I'm saying is don't wait. As my regular doctor always told me: Use it or lose it. If you can't get an erection any other way, then your choice is clear: Live the rest of your life with no erection or get an implant, be sore and swollen for a few weeks, then get a hard erection anytime you want and for as long as you want.

I promise you will not be embarrassed dealing with professionals who see multiple penises every single day. Don't put it off and lose half your length in the meantime.