Did You Receive/Seek Psychological Input Prior to Implant?

[defiant]

Hi gang!

Hoping that I can draw upon any advice or input on this matter.

I truly believe that my ED has reached end-stage. And whether it's of a 100% psychogenic origin or there is indeed some underlying physical element to it, does it really matter? The end result is the same and every psychological countermeasure you can think of to throw at this, has indeed been thrown.

Masturbation is barely workable right now, even on pills (I'm taking 5mg cialis every other day). As for sex, forget it, I'm simply too scared to try and to be honest, I don't want to. My libido is low as hell (recent Test level fine). It's the depression and fear of intimacy.

ED and the impact it has upon my life; my mood, my hopes and dreams, my opportunities is on my mind almost 24/7. It pervades my thoughts.

Because of that, I have developed a true anxiety complex regarding anything remotely sexual. Women are still showing a lot of interest in me and flirt with me regularly but internally, I'm dying inside (increased HR, tight chest, massive fear etc).

My attitude to sex, women, relationships is changing rapidly and for the worse.

I'm just concerned about mentally rejecting even the implant. Though the notion of a rock hard penis that doesn't go anywhere despite any anxiety I might feel does give me much hope.

Either way, I feel I'm at the end of my sexual journey and even though none of you are shrinks or psychologists, you are men who have implants and I'm wondering if anyone can relate to what I'm saying and offer any insight or advice here.

Did the implant resolve any of these kind of issues for you?

I'm very seriously considering booking in ASAP. Just totally fed up of my life being stolen.

Thank you, all!

[crazyjoe]

Have you done a consult with a great doc like Eid or Hakky? I did consults with both of them and found the experiences to be very reassuring -- maybe especially Hakky who talks "guy to guy" with you. BTW, if you want to speed up talking with him, reach out through their website -- I was amazed to get a direct response from him asking his assistant to schedule me -- I was speaking with him the next day! Obviously he can't do that for everyone but it doesn't hurt to try.
Just a suggestion for getting comfy with the implant go-ahead.

[defiant]

Have you done a consult with a great doc like Eid or Hakky? I did consults with both of them and found the experiences to be very reassuring -- maybe especially Hakky who talks "guy to guy" with you. BTW, if you want to speed up talking with him, reach out through their website -- I was amazed to get a direct response from him asking his assistant to schedule me -- I was speaking with him the next day! Obviously he can't do that for everyone but it doesn't hurt to try.
Just a suggestion for getting comfy with the implant go-ahead.

Yeah, I've had consultations with Professor Ralph in London. I'm UK-based.

He was very up front, pragmatic and matter of fact. Says it how it is. Which is what you want from a surgeon.

He confirmed that he does indeed see young men with truly psychogenic causes, nothing helps, he gives them an implant and off they go on their merry way. But he is definitely not one to push an implant on you! He was of course keen I explore the less invasive options before venturing down this path.

[Skier123]

Defiant,

It sounds like you are someone who would be helped tremendously by an implant.

When I first started having ED, one of the first things my Dr tried was an antidepressant. That's because he said ED can often be caused by psychological issues. For me it didn't help, but for some it does. The point I am trying to make is that your ED may be psychologically based - but so what? It doesn't matter what the cause is - ED is ED.

So if you tried all the reasonable psychological and medical treatments for a reasonable amount of time and they didn't work - it may be time to move on to more surgical solutions. I can tell you first hand that the implant not only fixes your ED - it has a tremendous positive psychological effect as well. The confidence boost you get is worth it all by itself - and the actual sex is great too.

The implant is serious, irreversible surgery - so you really do need to take your time and exhaust all other options first (have you tried injections?) Don't rush into this surgery - it is a big deal.

But if you have really tried everything else, and you have been suffering with serious ED for a couple years or more now - then in my opinion it may be time to have that serious implant talk with the surgeon of your choice.

The implant isn't perfect - but it is an amazing solution to a very difficult problem - and will completely change your outlook on life for the better.

[defiant]

Defiant,

It sounds like you are someone who would be helped tremendously by an implant.

When I first started having ED, one of the first things my Dr tried was an antidepressant. That's because he said ED can often be caused by psychological issues. For me it didn't help, but for some it does. The point I am trying to make is that your ED may be psychologically based - but so what? It doesn't matter what the cause is - ED is ED.

So if you tried all the reasonable psychological and medical treatments for a reasonable amount of time and they didn't work - it may be time to move on to more surgical solutions. I can tell you first hand that the implant not only fixes your ED - it has a tremendous positive psychological effect as well. The confidence boost you get is worth it all by itself - and the actual sex is great too.

The implant is serious, irreversible surgery - so you really do need to take your time and exhaust all other options first (have you tried injections?) Don't rush into this surgery - it is a big deal.

But if you have really tried everything else, and you have been suffering with serious ED for a couple years or more now - then in my opinion it may be time to have that serious implant talk with the surgeon of your choice.

The implant isn't perfect - but it is an amazing solution to a very difficult problem - and will completely change your outlook on life for the better.

Thank you so much for taking the time to reply, Skier. I appreciate it.

Yeah it’s certainly been a lot more than a couple of years, sigh.

It’s all just taken such a huge psychological toll on me, feeling so powerless and as if I’ll never be fulfilled in terms of getting married and having kids.

[Old Guy]

Defiant- Having ED will make most any man depressed. As a young man you should be enjoying sex.
Even though I was married to a very supporting wife who continued to try, my failures kept dragging me deeper and deeper. When ED first hit I couldn't believe it because my libido has always been an 11/10! Then pills and injections failed. The night the wife told me our sex life just wasn't doing it for her anymore talk about major depression.
No I never had any psychological input, other than my own. (I minored in Psych.) Because I knew the answer already.
Good Luck on your decision.

[tomas1]

defiant, I've followed your posts for several years and if I may say it, you were in a very dark place when I first saw your posts.

Lately, I see a big difference and I sense that you have made up your mind to get an implant.
I realize the decision is much more difficult at your age, but if you do it and have a good result, it will be life changing.

I wish you good luck and hope you have a good result like I did when you do it.