My wife told on me!

[FMLFML85]

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[bldoink]

(Many) women can’t help it. They love to blab about their lovers’ dicks. To all the men here, there is a good chance all of your wives friends, sister in laws, work colleagues, etc know all the details of your dick, size, shape, etc and have for years.

This!

I'm sorry but that's just one of those facts of life. I know this probably isn't "Woke" to say this but women really can't help it. Don't hold it against her.

It's obvious in everyday life but I'll give a bit of my career experience but I won't talk about employee relations as a supervisor, another topic. I'll restrict my comments to dealing with suspects/arrestees:

When interviewing or interrogating suspects I could always get the women to talk and give up their boyfriends, main squeeze, whatever. Later when talking to the male suspect I'd tell them not to be upset with their women as they can't help it, it's just the way it is. They always talk. I know this isn't 100% true all of the time but it is mostly true. I know that story doesn't relate directly but it's the best I can do at the moment. Don't hold it against your wife. She couldn't help it. She's still your wife and still loves you. Don't ruin your relationship by beating her down over it. Let it go.

As for your in-laws that now know, so what! Own it! I don't have an implant but I may someday and will if necessary. If I do I'll own it. I won't go about telling the world and would prefer to keep it private but for those that found out I'd own it loud and proud. You are not less of a man. You had a medical problem. Unfortunate, but shit happens! You addressed the problem and got it fixed. You're the man!

As for the link posted about another previous incident with another member. If I recall it correctly it was substantially different from your situation and appeared to involve malicious intent. Different!

Yes I feel so betrayed and the worst part is I don’t trust her anymore if she would say something so private of me! Not sure how to move on and the fear that having to explain this procedure scares me to be with another woman.

Get over it! Don't feel so betrayed. There was no betrayal intended. You can still trust her. You should. Just also trust that she is a women and is also governed by her womens nature as we men are governed by our nature.

[Leebert]

I wanted to keep mone quiet, unless i was backed into a corner when someone was too curious and explain it myself. But my wife decided to tell her brother, who she is close to and my son which i wanted to talk to him, cause he knew something was up. I was very mad at her at first until i had a chance to tell my side of it to them both. I told her to tell no one else or i would start a tell me war with her to everyone she knows and that shut her trap. The two she told i know would definitely not say anything to anyone other than their wives, ugh, but all is good. You definitely need to sit her down and talk calmly and set some boundaries. I agree with the guys that women like to talk cause its a new thing to brag about, but there is limits to some things when it comes to something personal, she should've talked to you first! Gl

[tomas1]

(Many) women can’t help it. They love to blab about their lovers’ dicks. To all the men here, there is a good chance all of your wives friends, sister in laws, work colleagues, etc know all the details of your dick, size, shape, etc and have for years.

This is what I think too.

Maybe younger women talk to other women about sex, but I know my wife doesn't.
I'd like it if she told others about our sex life.
We have been open about my having an implant though.

[Agfa13]

Raycaba, please fill out your signature so we know how young you are, but that is just me.
As to your post, find out EXACTLY what she has told them, and HOW she told them. Several posts in this thread have said you feel betrayed, and that is understandable, but until you find out the how and why, it may be nothing. I mean that she may have described things in general terms.
Did she say 'lots of men have prostate surgeries, mine just had an implant to take care of things and can fuck for hours now (bragging)".
Besides, if you are going through the implant process because of how you feel yourself, you should take a step back and give your wife the benefit of the doubt on what/how she said things.
Just say stop right now, and discuss later...IMHO

Ag

[Lost Sheep]

Yes I feel so betrayed and the worst part is I don’t trust her anymore if she would say something so private of me! Not sure how to move on and the fear that having to explain this procedure scares me to be with another woman.

What is the diffrence you talking about your wife on this forum?
You should talk to your wife. Not to guys on forum.

His post is less about his wife than about what she did. He is here for support and sympathy (I think) and to get advice on how to handle it...with her and with himself.

Besides, it is unlikely he or is wife will meet anyone from the forum, so it is not completely unlike sharing a confidence with a counsellor or psychiatrist. She shared the information with family he interacts with regularly. Totally different issues.

[AnotherOldMan]

She has shared something you want kept between the two of you, something deeply personal, something you are embarrassed to be talked around. I wonder what else she is willing to share and with whom?

[Agfa13]

Also, please tell her what you have told us about how you feel.
In this day and age, women are....nah, I will leave this one alone.
Between the 2 of you, you have bragging rights yourself:), but like you said, that is between the 2 of you, not anyone else.

[Raycaba]

I’m speaking to guys on this forum because they have gone through the same procedure that I have and has gone through the same pain and emotions that I have. So when betrayed with a secret of an implant it’s a big deal to most of us men I feel?

[Toronto67]

Hi,

I can understand you are not happy with your wife telling everyone about your implant, I don’t know why she did but I can tell you what I would do if I was in a similar situation, I would talk to her to understand why she did it, I would avoid confrontation, keep in mind this whole process has been traumatic for both of you, focus on the good things like you are alive, you have a wife next to you supporting you and you can have sex again, any time and for as long as you want

In my case I am very open with family and friends about the implant, I donot consider my self less of a man because I have an implant, manhood is in your head no in your penis, I am actually very proud and I feel that by being very open I can also help other men that could be in a similar situation.