How subtle can you pump? And limits on type of sex?

[Lost Sheep]

When I was young, my erection came close to my belly and had a gentle upward curve My implanted penis still have that upward curve, but now my belly comes close to my erection. But my erection still points up rather than perpendicular to my body's centerline.

My current erect state will point at about 120 degrees - so upwards for sure. I do notice many implants don't reach 90 and was concerned about this being so different from what I'm used to. Mind you, some sexual positions can be painful with my current angle so maybe it'll be a good thing, not sure. That's interesting yours curves upwards - do you mean it angles upwards? I thought the shape would be straight and only the angle changes

My penis, when erect, pumped up to as much as I can tolerate, and with me in a standing position, points about 10 degrees up from horizontal. I can hang a bath towel on it and not change the angle very much. If pumped up to less than maximum, the angle is more flexible, making different positions comfortable. That is one feature of an implant unavailable by other means. One can vary the degree of inflation from a completely flacid "squishy toy" for your partner to play with to a mild erection that is comfortable for fellatio to armor-piercing stiff or anywhere in between, at will.

Note that I habitually wear my penis pointed up and did so before the implant. Posts-op, I was advised to keep the erection pointed up to allow scar tissue at the proximal end of the implant form to hold it so. I knew I wanted to keep an upward angle.

The curve you asked about is a gentle arc. Perhaps 10 or 15 degrees of a circle. Perhaps nature designed penises that way to facilitate putting pressure on a woman's G-spot (in a face-to-face sexual position). The arc is in adcition to my penis' overall orientation.

[Lost Sheep]

today's women are not yesterday's. Women are more sexually aggressive and less attached than ever. (edited down for focus)

You are not quite old enough to remember the '60s. "Free Love", "Flower Children" and the "Sexual Revolution" during that decade. I also recall from history that the Roaring 20s was quite a time, too.


History may not always repeat, but it often rhymes.

[newbiehere23]

I do worry quite a bit about the look of it (less natural? Less engorged?) and my biggest hangup is dealing with malfunctions which I presume take you out of action for 3 months or so? (Time to rebook, and heal). I don't think there's a way around the latter.

My penis looks entirely natural but for its cross-sectional shape. My erection was round before implant but now is oval-shaped. The two implant tubes are round and clearly side-by-side where my tunica albuginea shaped around my urethra and formed themselves into a shape resulting in a rounder total cross-section.

As an aside, are there positions you have to be careful of or avoid (higher risk of damage to the implant). Is rough sex a no no?

When I was first researching implants, I observed that at least half the pictures I saw of implant erections had the penis perpendicular to the man's body. And ramrod-straight. Looded a bit odd to me. When I was young, my erection came close to my belly and had a gentle upward curve My implanted penis still have that upward curve, but now my belly comes close to my erection. But my erection still points up rather than perpendicular to my body's centerline.

So, I conclude that some implant installations wind up with a penis' angle not quite natural and MIGHT make certain positions more awkward than others.

On the other hand, every man's penis is different (and every woman's preferences as well), so I opine that if you do find some positions less desirable than those same positions were before implant, you will not mind much, if at all. You may find other positions that were awkward before have become more enjoyable.

In short, I doubt you will find any issue with sexual positions.

Being single, 40, and in a profession that appeals to Women I fortunately have tons of opportunity - but right now without being to take advantage for the most part it's more like torture.

Off-topic, if you will permit me to ask:

I wonder what sort of profession would introduce you to a stream of younger, willing women. When I was in my 40s, I would have envied that sort of access. Sounds like a good plot for a movie. Or a saleable memoire to pad your retirement.

Knowing that most women (of my acquaintance) develop "attachments" to a man they sleep with with any regularity, having an "exit strategy" so you do not leave a trail of broken hearts and vengeful women would be useful. Do you have one? For example, do you select women who are certain to leave you (tourists from other countries, perhaps)?

Thanks for the insightful responses.

My current erect state will point at about 120 degrees - so upwards for sure. I do notice many implants don't reach 90 and was concerned about this being so different from what I'm used to. Mind you, some sexual positions can be painful with my current angle so maybe it'll be a good thing, not sure. That's interesting yours curves upwards - do you mean it angles upwards? I thought the shape would be straight and only the angle changes

Injections also make it more oval than round so I'm used to this. I find cialis helps round it out a bit more.

profession: medical field. let's leave it there.

today's women are not yesterday's. Women are more sexually aggressive and less attached than ever. My last sexual encounter was actually with a girl I liked (would have liked to have dated) but she only wanted to have sex and was quickly done with me. I believe this is the norm now.
I'm seen by outsiders as an alpha male - this attracts females looking for "hook ups". I'm not bragging, it's fucking torture. I'm purposely more detached (and admittedly more of an assole) just to avoid this. But dealing with attached females isn't much of an issue - as I've mentioned the injections and my ED have never allowed me to truly be intimate with someone (longest relationship was maybe 7 visits). I didn't mind at first.....but now that I'm 40 and maybe getting soft, I wouldn't mind a real girlfriend you know?

Not to downplay your situation as I have ED as well and am in a similar stature as your self (girls perceive as alpha and a lot of the times only want hook-ups - I am 30 year olds); most girls have been pretty accepting of my ED when I told them about it (I'd tell them I have issues sometimes because of a past injury) and would continue to date me and usually ended for other reasons. I will admit that I do not need to take injections and pills works well for and sometimes I do not even need them so I understand the situation you are in can provide more "logistical complications" but the general point is that most girls are accepting if you can "perform" most of the time.

[Lost Sheep]

Not to downplay your situation as I have ED as well and am in a similar stature as your self (girls perceive as alpha and a lot of the times only want hook-ups - I am 30 year olds); most girls have been pretty accepting of my ED when I told them about it (I'd tell them I have issues sometimes because of a past injury) and would continue to date me and usually ended for other reasons. I will admit that I do not need to take injections and pills works well for and sometimes I do not even need them so I understand the situation you are in can provide more "logistical complications" but the general point is that most girls are accepting if you can "perform" most of the time.

I echo newbiehere23's words.

Women are incredibly supportive if they feel desired, trusted, respected and safe.

I went on a dating site and was honest about my inability to have sex and that I was intending to have an implant to fix that problem. My honesty and candor was commented on several times as "brave" and "refreshing".

Life is too short to miss the joys of sex and too long to endure its absence.

The same goes for a deeper more connected relationship that spans more of human possibilities than the physical.

[lifelong]

There's a big difference between not even needing pills to being absolutely dependent on injections and even then not always knowing the response. I don't even think you can compare the two, esp logistically.

Appreciate the insights regarding women. But I'm just trying to decide which solution is best for me and my mindset (which im not looking to change). The more subtle the solution the better. Perhaps one day when I'm in a very long term relatt I'll tell her. Def not even close to that now when I would like to date and see women.

[Lost Sheep]

There's a big difference between not even needing pills to being absolutely dependent on injections and even then not always knowing the response. I don't even think you can compare the two, esp logistically.

Appreciate the insights regarding women. But I'm just trying to decide which solution is best for me and my mindset (which im not looking to change). The more subtle the solution the better. Perhaps one day when I'm in a very long term relatt I'll tell her. Def not even close to that now when I would like to date and see women.

The great thing about an implant is that you know how your penis will respond. Even though your are absolutely dependent on the device (100% impotent if it fails), I was looking at virtual 100% non-function without it. So I went for it.

If your second line is directed at me, I was responding to your (perhaps introspective or even sentimental?) line

but now that I'm 40 and maybe getting soft, I wouldn't mind a real girlfriend you know?

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I skipped using injections entirely for a couple of reasons, one of which was that I considered the implant to provide a more subtle (and reliable) solution, albeit a more drastic treatment. I did not take it lightly, but did not hesitate, either.

[azmike]

Thanks to the OP and all contributors to this thread. I have read with interest and learned quite a bit. I can’t offer much since I have only had one successful Trimix injection (2 user errors and then my wife injected). We both were quite impressed to say the least. One day I expect to have this same debate as to continued injections or implant. I am curious iafter 20 years of injections if you have noticed any scarring and/or Peyronies?

I completely understand not wanting to inform your dates about injections. I read another user’s trial and tribulations on this forum as he tried to power date and hide his injections.

However, I will offer, even though you will likely reject, my opinion that when you find a “keeper” I would tell her. My wife told me after I overcame my reluctance to share that “women don’t really care if it is pills, potions, injections or an implant, we just want it hard and ready when the time is right”. The implant will give you that but the injections will also give you most of that without the surgery. Don’t get me wrong, I am not anti-implant. In fact, I have already discussed that one day I will go Bionic and she is onboard.

Best of luck to you.