sonnyjim wrote:I literally have zero sensation. Went to see a urologist in London called Garaffa yesterday and he basically said beyond pills or trimix gel, there is nothing else they can do for me.
Not gonna lie, I kind of feel like what is the point in life anymore really. One injury and that’s it, your whole sex life is finished. I am finding it hard to deal with the fact that I have a penile implant so young anyway but the lack of sensation really is the worst thing.
I feel like I will be on my own forever.
When one loses sensation in one part of the body, other regions can take the place. In the second installment of the podcast "Death Sex & Money" (a podcast focusing on talking about subjects most people avoid) that talked about erectile dysfunction (done last month, April 2022) in honor of the 25th anniversary of the release of Viagra) a paraplegic man describes having orgasms from having his chest hairs, neck and ears stimulated. Comparing the feelings of penile orgasms to the earlobe orgasms...well, you should listen to the podcast.
I will also point out that when I was struggling with failing erections and the frustration over my inability to give orgasms to my lovers (when mine were easy), I wondered if I would make the Faustian bargain, "Would I trade having a magic penis that stayed erect long enough to give my lovers' orgasms for never having another orgasm myself?" My point is that I, even now when I can do both, I enjoy my lover's orgasms as much or more than my own. Fortunately I do orgasm often enough to satisfy me and she orgasms every time we make love.
I encourage you to focus on two things. Your lover's pleasure (and orgasms) and on your own sensate pleasures, aside from what your penis feels or does not feel.