Does implant feel different in a woman’s hand

[sonnyjim]

It sounds like disesteem and anxiety / depression. I'm not saying it's something you can fix with a pill. A lot of psy drugs have adverse side effects which affect libido, eiaculation, orgasm, etc.
Btw try to find help. You're extremely judgmental toward yourself and unable to see anything positive. It's hard to chill out and connect with someone with that mood.

I have no libido at all since I injured it. I also have hardly any pleasurable sensations in my penis and I can’t ejaculate during sex. It has to be masturbation - and even then very little comes out.

I am pretty certain this is all being caused by the injury I had. A lump of hard tissue formed inside my penis, not the top side, the other side of my penis (bottom) it’s like a cord. I feel it at all times it’s like a pinching feeling. Anyway, I’m pretty sure this is the root of the problem and I often wondered why they can’t just do an operation and remove it or something to let my penis expand properly.

I know this can be done but how do I get it done ? Every urologist I’ve told that to has just looked at me and basically said “oh well, live with it”.

I just feel like what is the point in my life if I can’t feel anything during sex and can’t ejaculate, those are basic things that every man has and I don’t.

[portageriver]

Hey Sonny - sorry to hear you are experiencing an unfortunate spell at the moment.

You received some great responses here. I feel, and feelings aren't facts, that your peers pointing to the mental aspect of your current situation may be on to something. You can't care for (or love) anyone if you don't first care for (love) yourself. And I know you are down right now, but you sound like you might need to first find yourself before trying to make a connection outside yourself.

You can't ejaculate? Me either - I have no bloody prostate, lol. You have some sort of 'lump' down there? My left testicle is mangled, sort of 'smashed' with shards of its 'pieces' floating around my nut's orbit due to some childhood trauma (bicycle accident?) I don't even remember. A chick dropped you after one spin, so what? Why read it as your problem and not hers? Maybe she is a super-size queen and needs an 8x8 penis to make her happy...

I am not trying to downplay your current situation and discomfort. I am only suggesting that maybe life is exactly what it seems to be - a mixed bag of imperfections - and it's our job to find the beauty and happiness that STILL avails itself to all of us. Those of us with smashed testes, no prostate, and more problems. Work with that penis of yours. Get to really know it. Find what IS working/pleasurable for you.

Spend some time on you brother, I really think that will lead you to the promised land you are looking for. It may take some time and maybe even professional guidance - that's OK.

Good luck - we are here for you.

[Trav8701]

When you're engorged during self-play, does it feel better? Does it feel "worth the trouble" of masturbation? Or are you severely numb no matter what.

I do but only by myself, I don’t feel anything during sex I don’t know why that is.

It’s made me so depressed to the point I can’t even work.

[sonnyjim]

When you're engorged during self-play, does it feel better? Does it feel "worth the trouble" of masturbation? Or are you severely numb no matter what.

I do but only by myself, I don’t feel anything during sex I don’t know why that is.

It’s made me so depressed to the point I can’t even work.

It takes me ages (like 10-20 minutes) to get any glans engorgement and if I stop or slow down the glans shrinks again. Even when engorged the glans has barely any sensation, if I run it under cold or hot water I wouldn’t feel a think (as long as it’s not boiling hot).

I have no sex drive mainly because I can’t feel my dick in my pants, it might as well not even be there it feels like disconnected. I don’t feel it rubbing on my trousers or anything like that.

I don’t know what is causing this or if it can even be fixed but the only thing that’s happened to me was the injury I had so that must be why. I know they don’t usually remove scar tissue but if it’s affecting my ability to ejaculate then surely something can be done?

For me to be able to have sex right now I would have to pump it up fully, masturbate for a long time and then have sex. The engorgement wouldn’t happen on its own if you get what I mean.

That was the problem the last time I had sex. I tried to pump it up discreetly so she didn’t find out and then by the time it actually got to having sex the rest of my penis wasn’t engorged at all. It must of been disappointing for her.

[riseagain]

Zooso22

Oh my, Your wife is so beautiful, Thanks for the picture. Enjoy

[Zoso22]

Zooso22

Oh my, Your wife is so beautiful, Thanks for the picture. Enjoy

Thanks Rise, I’ve grown fond of her, she’s the reason I got my implant

[Fourtytwo00]

Sonny.. eiaculation starts from seminal vesicles and prosthate and ends up in the urethra. It can't be blocked by an internal scar whatever it means. Maybe your pelvic muscles don't contract adequately or enough. Maybe there could be some issues that affect nerves and/or pelvic floor. But in general it's better if you start thinking in terms of what you can give to a woman than in terms of what you should fix if your body. Foreplays, oral sex and an erected penis.
Excitement happens also at brain level. Think about the drugs which affect orgasm and eiaculation like sleeping pills, antidepressants, etc. They don't work at local level. They alter chemistry.

[LeRoastBeef]

Sonnyjim,

I have venous leak. Even with the implant I still have an unengorged glans, UNLESS, I use a cock ring.

Without the cockring, without the engorged glans that it gives me, I have no sensation. I feel nothing.

With the cock ring, with the engorged glans all sensitivity returns.

That's how the glans of the penis works. That's where all the nerves are. It's the male equivalent of the clitoris. Without engorgement we feel nothing.

Try a cockring, elastic bands, anything. I swear it will make the difference.
I wouldn't be alive today without them, I'm not being hyperbolic.

My heart goes out to you having read your posts. I'm your age, I know what it's like, I was dumped for my ED.
You must try cock rings, please, they make all the difference.

[thedriver]

Zooso22

Oh my, Your wife is so beautiful, Thanks for the picture. Enjoy

Thanks Rise, I’ve grown fond of her, she’s the reason I got my implant

LOL,,, You know my opinion on it Zoso22,,,, rip it up and do it again,,, Glad your having fun with the new implant,,, be careful, she looks like the type that could break it on you....
My request is heels on the next avatar pic you choose.
It dosen't make it fun if you can't jump off topic now and then.

[Cartman]

I wasn’t depressed though. Dating that girl opened up a lot of insecurities that I have now that I’ve got an implant. I’m 33 years old worried that I have an implant, worried about my size loss, worried if I can satisfy, worried that I have zero sensation, worried that my glans does not engorge and my sex drive is non existent for my age.

I subconsciously compare myself to other men and I feel like I am less than them. I feel like literally every other man is better than me. And I wonder if, at this age a woman would even accept me the way I am if she found out I had an implant. And these are not things that a psychiatrist can help me with because who can ever accept that something is never going to change or improve?

The girl I am talking about has not spoken to me since and also avoids me but has not mentioned anything about my implant but I still for some reason believe that it must be that because nothing else makes sense as to why you would avoid someone that you previously made plans with and liked a lot.

Sonnyjim

I've been reading your post here and maybe there is a solution for you.

DO NOT COMPARE YOURSELF TO ANOTHER MAN.... BIG MISTAKE... STOP DOING THAT...Cause they do not walk in your shoes. You do, you just have to fill-in those shoes yourself. If you take it day to day, you'll become the man they will compare themselves to.

This woman you talk about..... become the man she wants to spend the rest of her life with. I know you can do it, it just depends how badly you want it. Giving up is not a fucking option.

First thing is that you have to be truthful to yourself. If you are taking any anxiety, nerve calming pills, cannibis... THIS WILL AFFECT YOUR LIBIDO and MOOD. What will happen if you ween yourself off of them slowly? I think you mentioned you are not under psychiatric care, right? So, if you are doing any of them, stop.

Secondly, take it from me, I come from a family of 6 brothers. We are very close in age. So, the competition for the girls between us was fierce. I am the 4th of the 6 and growing up I was in awe of the beauties my 3 older brothers brought home. I was madly crazy for my oldest brother's girl. She was a fucking knockout.

I ended getting her attention cause she was heavy into the Alpha male, and Enzo my older brother was your typical balls to the walls macho guy. So, no matter the difference in age, height, strength and personality, I tried to imitate him all the time. I got so good at it that after 2 years she started to really notice me. The minute he dumped her for another gorgeous girl, I very discreetly made my move and even tho there is an age difference of 4 years, we have the most awesome and intense sexual relationship that lasted until she had to go to college. We still try to hook up when she comes back home. So the lesson is to find a role model (actor, celebrity, sports figure, friend or family member) that your admire and imitate them as much as you can.

I can almost guarantee you 100% that NO WOMAN CARES IF YOU ARE BIONIC.
If you if feel or make it sound like a handicap, guess what, she will look at it as a crutch as well. No girls wants that going forward. EMBRACE IT !!!!

Celebrate that you can get it up on demand. Scream it out loud, If you are proud of it, so will they. I can 100% guarantee it.

I had a friend of mine that WAS like you. He wasn't sure of himself. Every girl would bypass him for the next guy. And it was because he had no confidence. He thought things over way too much. I begged him to try out the acting class so I could set him up with some of the girls there. But life threw him a lifesaver. There was a role for a play we were about to do and I asked the acting teacher to cast him as the Playboy. After a few practices, he really got into character and all of a sudden the girls started to approach him... BUT, when he broke character and became himself (full of doubt and with no confidence) the girls went away.

So, he decided from that moment on, he was going to live that character in the play in his real life. He became that role and his life has never been the same. He is full of confidence, he has no concern if a girl ghosts him. On the contrary, those girl end up coming back because he lets them know that they are the ones missing out.

It all starts with the foundation deep inside of you.... Experiment with various things until you come up with the right "formula" for you to enjoy sex and your life.

For me, due to getting Prostate Cancer and then having to do radiation with hormone suppressant shots, my libido was non existent. But that did not stop me from my only goal in life... TO SATIFY MY GIRL.... I bought as many dildos, vibrators, lotions to make sure I made her cum.. And now, I always make sure she cums... The solution was me telling myself that one one day I would get my dick up again and make her cum with my cock. And I did !!!!!!

The implant took away 2 inches from me. I went from a 8" to 6.25" and my girth suffered as well. But I found this beautiful website and read a lot and learned from the guys here that if I experimented and found the right formula, I will get back on the saddle, For me, I use daily Cialis 7mg, VED and on occasions I need to put on a cock ring that also vibrates her clitoris. I am able to make my girl cum with my cock, but also she now squirts. Why? because all my attention is one her, I don't care if sometimes I don't feel anything, I get rewarded by just hearing her moan like crazy, I feel her getting soaked and feel her cum multiple time, I ended up getting my sensations back and I started to orgasms as well.

I asked the doctor what made the difference and he looked at me straight in the eyes and said, a majority of these issues are the false expectations men get in their heads that all of a sudden they will become the next John Holmes. Once, you forget about yourself and realize this is a major change in your biology. That weight off your shoulder will lift off. Let Mother Nature heal you. For some is right away, for others a long time, but it eventually comes back.

After 4 years since I got my prostate removed, I am starting to feel sensation in my gland. The less I worry about it, that better sex I am having.

I love the way girls react when I tell them that I have an implant. Being that I force myself to exude a lot of confidence, like the way a girl shows off her new tits, Chicks love that. Even if they give me a put off look at first, I let that bounce off me like I am made out of teflon... why? cause in more that one occasion when a girl acts turned off cause I told her I was bionic, I eventually work on her until
I get her in bed and I fuck her until she can't think anymore, and then they become the one chasing me.

Its all in your attitude and train of thought. This takes time for things to feel normal again, but in the meantime, celebrate it. That confidence will pay you back in a million beautiful ways.

So, my friend. Get some exercise, work on toning your muscles, loose some weight, buy inexpensive clothes that may not survive 2 wash cycles, but at least you'll feel and look new. Fix you hair. THIS IS YOUR TIME. Take a shower everyday, Brush your teeth, get a manicure, facial and pedicure. Use deodorant, don't just get a haircut, go to a stylist. Treat yourself like an Italian Sports car. Polish you shoes, Iron your clothes. Clean you house or apartment. Throw away the cluttering crap. ALL THIS will help you in your job, you might even get a promotion and better pay. Or just say fuck it and get a better job and start fresh.... ALL THIS WILL WORK and it will take your mind off your worries.

In my family, we have a formula when it comes to spending money on clothes. All you need are very good Italian leather shoes, belt and cologne. You can wear ripped jeans, a t-shirt, but if you style your hair, trim your fat, tone your muscles and stand up straight, girls will rip those clothes off of you all the time. Just act and feel like a star.

Having an implant is one of the best decisions you've made, don't look at it as the opposite. Celebrate it, I believe this is the only life we get to have. Don't give the shitty part of it the pleasure of bringing you down.

THIS CAN BE THE FIRST DAY OF YOUR LIFE. IT'S LITERALLY UP TO YOU

I wanted to mention a "thing" that might be happening with your implant. Do you work on it daily to "soften it"? I mean..... imagine 2 regular water hoses you get at your local hardware store. One, you use all the time and keep inside the house or shed rolled up. Every time you need to use it, it is very pliable and can bend. The other hose is left outside and is barely used, it gets rigid and not that pliable. That is what happens with an implant. You have to cycle it everyday. Come rain or shine, you have to "soften" the cyclinders. This will not make your erections less, but useful. Today, the most bought dildos are the soft ones that feel almost human like, not like the originals that were too stiff.

On occasion, when not pumped up, but in a flaccid state, bend your penis back and forth, side to side. This will make your penis cylinders eventually feel more natural.

The girl that used to be my brother's girlfriend, said she noticed a difference in how my penis felt. At first, It felt too stiff and not natural to her. I mentioned that I as per my doctor, the more I used, the more it softens up and she will feel it more natural. Guess what? We spent 4 months of constant fucking, sometimes 3- 4 times a day (in the name of science) to help me soften it up. Today, my cock feels very natural, I was able to recover length and girth by using the VED everyday. Remember, anytime she can, she flies down to see me and we just fuck like if the world is about to end.

For me, my implant is just a new part of my life that needs to be constantly attended to. I do not mind it in the least. When I am not sleeping with a girl, I masturbate. I make sure my cock gets worked on EVERYDAY !!!! It's a great exercise and at first I wasn't getting any pleasure, but now, It either fucking and or masturbating are one of the highlights of my day. I got my sensation, length and girth back. Like the saying goes, Use It or Lose It....

I rather be in bed with a beautiful girl, but if I can't, I am slowly masturbating and working my penis until I orgams. I use Astrolube (Silicone), the darker box. Doesn't feel that slippery.

That's it. Hopefully you or someone else will get some help from my post. I want to thanks all the brave and awesome men that have implanted before me and have posted their ups and downs so we all can benefit.

IMPLANT HAS BEEN ONE OF THE BEST THINGS IN MY LIFE. !!!!