Too hard?

[Manonfire]

I haven't posted in some time. Just a quick update: I was implanted in early 2018 at age 51 due to prostate cancer and had the usual recovery thereafter. In 2019, I moved to Kenya where I met and married a beautiful black Kenyan lady who is 16yrs younger. It has been so frustrating because she is built so beautiful, tight, and compact. She is also very religious (she views certain sexual positions as degrading to her...ie doggy style, from the back, legs up, etc and sinful). Also frustrating is that she has such beautiful breasts but is the type of woman that doesn't like them to be touched. She said she gets zero stimulation and finds it more irritating than any pleasure. Look but don't touch. Really?

Most importantly she complains that the implant is too rigid, too hard (like a stone she says) and feels unatural to her. When we first had sex with me on top she was injured (small tear at the opening) and has been very reserved since. We have sex but in a single position where she controls depth, speed, etc. She stopped doing cowgirl last year as it was painful to her. Me on top is still forbidden. It's become a battle of education, culture, religion, and possibly personality disorder issues.

I have an upcoming appointment with a stateside VA urologist to discuss the issue and possibly the Sling or artificial sphincter for my bladder (I've been having increasing dribbling issues which she also doesn't like). I don't think there's much that can be done on my side other than try to use very little if any inflation. It's become an issue to where I've been questioning the survivorability of the relationship. I had two ladies prior to her who had zero issues with the implant. My fellow veteran friend lives in Costa Rica. He's telling me to just give up on her and come find a Tica or Latin beauty, which is very tempting.

[nuance]

I haven't posted in some time. Just a quick update: I was implanted in early 2018 at age 51 due to prostate cancer and had the usual recovery thereafter. In 2019, I moved to Kenya where I met and married a beautiful black Kenyan lady who is 16yrs younger. It has been so frustrating because she is built so beautiful, tight, and compact. She is also very religious (she views certain sexual positions as degrading to her...ie doggy style, from the back, legs up, etc and sinful). Also frustrating is that she has such beautiful breasts but is the type of woman that doesn't like them to be touched. She said she gets zero stimulation and finds it more irritating than any pleasure. Look but don't touch. Really?

Most importantly she complains that the implant is too rigid, too hard (like a stone she says) and feels unatural to her. When we first had sex with me on top she was injured (small tear at the opening) and has been very reserved since. We have sex but in a single position where she controls depth, speed, etc. She stopped doing cowgirl last year as it was painful to her. Me on top is still forbidden. It's become a battle of education, culture, religion, and possibly personality disorder issues.

I have an upcoming appointment with a stateside VA urologist to discuss the issue and possibly the Sling or artificial sphincter for my bladder (I've been having increasing dribbling issues which she also doesn't like). I don't think there's much that can be done on my side other than try to use very little if any inflation. It's become an issue to where I've been questioning the survivorability of the relationship. I had two ladies prior to her who had zero issues with the implant. My fellow veteran friend lives in Costa Rica. He's telling me to just give up on her and come find a Tica or Latin beauty, which is very tempting.

did the implant make the dribbling worse?

[DougAnd]

you've gone way beyond my advice. Good luck

[Musson]

If there are no children or financial entanglements your choice becomes easier but I would seek counseling first. Perhaps you can do this remotely via Zoom with a professional. Ultimately the answer will lay within you and a county can help guide you.

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I haven't posted in some time. Just a quick update: I was implanted in early 2018 at age 51 due to prostate cancer and had the usual recovery thereafter. In 2019, I moved to Kenya where I met and married a beautiful black Kenyan lady who is 16yrs younger. It has been so frustrating because she is built so beautiful, tight, and compact. She is also very religious (she views certain sexual positions as degrading to her...ie doggy style, from the back, legs up, etc and sinful). Also frustrating is that she has such beautiful breasts but is the type of woman that doesn't like them to be touched. She said she gets zero stimulation and finds it more irritating than any pleasure. Look but don't touch. Really?

Most importantly she complains that the implant is too rigid, too hard (like a stone she says) and feels unatural to her. When we first had sex with me on top she was injured (small tear at the opening) and has been very reserved since. We have sex but in a single position where she controls depth, speed, etc. She stopped doing cowgirl last year as it was painful to her. Me on top is still forbidden. It's become a battle of education, culture, religion, and possibly personality disorder issues.

I have an upcoming appointment with a stateside VA urologist to discuss the issue and possibly the Sling or artificial sphincter for my bladder (I've been having increasing dribbling issues which she also doesn't like). I don't think there's much that can be done on my side other than try to use very little if any inflation. It's become an issue to where I've been questioning the survivorability of the relationship. I had two ladies prior to her who had zero issues with the implant. My fellow veteran friend lives in Costa Rica. He's telling me to just give up on her and come find a Tica or Latin beauty, which is very tempting.

You can control how hard the implant is, tbh no it can be softer than a natural erection. She is just pulling your leg and trying to control you. If you see any personality disorders RUN, if trained professionals find them difficult to deal with, what chance do you have?

[Musson]

I have found that black women can be very tight but usually can handle size easily once warmed up. Odd that she is struggling.

[Bushpig]

I am originally from Africa and i think that she is just not serious about you - sorry. Sounds like she is just full of 101 excuses and is not helping the situation. My guess ( And i've been down that road before) is that nothing will be good enough from you.