Wife is struggling with my implant

[Rider1400]

I was implanted May18th of ‘22 so I’m just over 12 weeks. Had a easy recovery and healed quickly. Started cycling about 15 days and had sex first time about 3 weeks after. Was a little painful but overall I’m extremely satisfied now as I have been since day one. I do have a few issues… I was a full 7” with injections or with VED. Came out of surgery 5-3/4”. After rigorous exercising I’m now at 6-1/4”. I’m a little disappointed with that but the implant goes over halfway into my gland and they have never flipped even when I’m not engorged. I have been using 5mg of Cialis daily which helps a bunch with engorgement especially when stimulated. My biggest issue is my wife is not all in…. Yet!! Ok at first she was disappointed with it because it was 1-1-1/4”short and wasn’t as big in girth. she has continually said it doesn’t feel right. The wife and I have been married for 36 years, and she was a virgin when I married her, so my dick is the only one she’s ever had. I can understand when she explains it don’t feel the same or says it don’t feel right in her hand, mouth or vagina.but now after 12 weeks I sat her down and had a little chat. I explained that it never will feel the “same” ever again until she gets used to the new me. My dock gets rock hard and stays that way for as long as we want it too! So that’s a game changer as I was constantly fighting it going soft when I was on pills and never knowing how long it was going to last with tri-mix!. I feel like she’s coming around, but I never dreamed my biggest issue would be my wife! Please don’t get me wrong, she has been extremely supportive thru all 12 years of my SD issues but still occasionally blamed herself. And she was all on board and worked with me every step of the way thru the surgery and now the recovery. She is just having trouble dealing with the new me! Anybody else out there having any of these issues with their wife?

[2435tjklAS]

You're only 12 weeks out. Keep exercising it aggressively. VED use, cycling, etc. You've got more than enough time to regain your size/get bigger. Studies report size increases happening up to 12 months and 18 months after.

For me I was at 8.75" before surgery, about 6.5" after, and after 12 weeks I was about 8", but I can promise you I did WAY more exercising than you did. So keep going, it'll keep growing and I bet your wife will end up loving your now longer/always erect when needed dick.

[cincinnatus1951]

Rider: Remember, there has to be something in it for the lady. long engorgement by itself is not enough. You need to make her really want it. That means extensive foreplay, not rushing, making sure she is really into it. Only then enter her and go to town. Think of her as your customer and you need to make sure she is happy. My wife and I debrief after each session and say that was a rafter rocker, or jsut OK, or whatever and what can we do to make it better?
Cincinnatus

[Waynetho]

To add to what cincinnatus1951 said, I've become more of a pleaser rather than pleasure-seeker in my relationships after implant because I don't typically orgasm from penetration anymore so I will keep going and playing and switching positions, even quite a bit of cunniligus in the process. Since I don't have an "OFF" switch anymore, I go until I'm simply too exhausted to continue or until she begs me to quit because she's had enough.

[Rider1400]

I was implanted May18th of ‘22 so I’m just over 12 weeks. Had a easy recovery and healed quickly. Started cycling about 15 days and had sex first time about 3 weeks after implant. Was a little painful but overall I’m extremely satisfied now as I have been since day one. I do have a few issues… I was a full 7” with injections or with VED. Came out of surgery 5-3/4”. After rigorous exercising I’m now at 6-1/4”. I’m a little disappointed with that but the implant goes over halfway into my gland and they have never flopped…even when I’m not engorged. I have been using 5mg of Cialis daily which helps a bunch with engorgement especially when stimulated. My biggest issue is my wife is not all in…. Yet!! Ok at first she was disappointed with it because it was 1-1/4”short and wasn’t as big in girth. she has continually said it doesn’t feel right. The wife and I have been married for 36 years, and she was a virgin when I married her, so my dick is the only one she’s ever had. I can understand when she explains it don’t feel the same or says it don’t feel right in her hand, mouth or vagina.but now after 12 weeks I sat her down and had a little chat. I explained that it never will feel the “same” ever again until she gets used to the new me. My dick gets rock hard and stays that way for as long as we want it too! So that’s a game changer as I was constantly fighting it going soft when I was on pills and never knowing how long it was going to last with tri-mix!. I feel like she’s coming around, but I never dreamed my biggest issue would be my wife! Please don’t get me wrong, she has been extremely supportive thru all 12 years of my ED issues but still occasionally blamed herself. And she was all on board and worked with me every step of the way thru the surgery and now the recovery. She is just having trouble dealing with the new me! Anybody else out there having any of these issues with their wife?

[dg_moore]

Rider, consider yourself lucky. When I finally healed from surgery in 2008, I showed my wife and invited her to feel it. She gave it a quick poke with her finger and said "um-hmm." That was the one and only time she ever touched it.

[Thisworld]

I wuold suggest you to do not inflate in front of her in order to make sex time more natural, also maybe use more cialis when needed

[Thisworld]

Rider, consider yourself lucky. When I finally healed from surgery in 2008, I showed my wife and invited her to feel it. She gave it a quick poke with her finger and said "um-hmm." That was the one and only time she ever touched it.

Damn,I'm sorry to hear that. Cuold you elaborate on why your wife was so disappointed by the implant?

[dg_moore]

Rider, consider yourself lucky. When I finally healed from surgery in 2008, I showed my wife and invited her to feel it. She gave it a quick poke with her finger and said "um-hmm." That was the one and only time she ever touched it.

Damn,I'm sorry to hear that. Cuold you elaborate on why your wife was so disappointed by the implant?

She wasn't disappointed, she just wasn't interested. When I was deciding on the surgery she told me not to think it had anything to do with her. After the years of fumbling around with ED she was finally through with sex and didn't care whether I could get an erection or not. After a serious stroke killed my libido, I didn't either.

[Musson]

I’m of little help to you but I would just give it time. Perhaps give her some moves that weren’t possible before going bionic like super slow strokes and long build up times to her orgasm. I can understand about the size loss complicating things since I’ve lost quite a bit from Peyroines and that has really been a game changer in a negative way. Anyone who says size doesn’t matter has never had Peyroines-related size loss. On the positive side the smaller size doesn’t reduce my ability to induce an orgasm in a woman but the overall act of copulation is not nearly as thrilling. Anyway bro I’m glad your healing and getting to use it. I thinks she’ll “cum” around. Pun intended.